When people get old, all the elderly have to face their own pension problems. Under normal circumstances, if the elderly’s children have the conditions and ability, and the elderly’s children are willing to take the initiative to support them, then in the future, the elderly can support their children, and then the elderly can enjoy their old age. This is undoubtedly the best choice.
, in most cases, due to various conditions, the desire of the elderly to rely on their children to support themselves is difficult to realize. At this time, our elderly can only think of their own ways. Although different elderly people choose their own pension methods, most elderly people with conditions are willing to hire a nanny to support themselves.
Because nanny care has the following benefits: the elderly live more conveniently and freely without any constraints; the elderly have more dignity and dignity in their later years; the elderly do not need to look at others' faces too much, and have more say; the elderly can obtain more comprehensive and meticulous care, etc. This is also an important reason why many of us elderly people with conditions choose to hire nannies to provide care for themselves.
Although the benefits and advantages of nanny care are very obvious, it is not so easy for our elderly to find a nanny who is truly suitable for them, but sometimes they are still full of anger. In his later years, Aunt You decided to hire a nanny to support her. However, after the nanny arrived home, she immediately made five requests to her. Aunt You heard this: "What am I looking for you? I'm not that I have too much money and I have nowhere to spend it"!
67-year-old aunt You
My surname is You, my hometown is Jiangsu. When I grew up, I started working in Qinhuangdao . During this period, I met my current wife. He is an individual. At that time, he was the one who he pursued at that time. I saw that he was sincere and honest, and he was very motivated. The most important thing is that he was very kind to me. It can be said that he was obedient to me, so later, I married her.
After getting married, our lives were pretty good. After having a smart daughter, our lives were even more happy. At that time, my relatives and friends around me envied me for having such a happy family, so I was very satisfied with my current marriage life.
Originally, I thought that I could grow old together with my wife in this life, but as my wife's business grew bigger and bigger, later, he didn't go home every night, and even couldn't see his figure for ten days and half a month. According to him, the reason why he is so busy is just to accompany his clients. He hopes that I can understand, so I believe his words.
But by chance, I learned from a friend that the reason why my wife is not at home every day is not to be busy with business, but to do other things. Although my friend did not explain in detail, I already understood everything, so later, I divorced my wife.
After the divorce, although many people advised me to remarry, after all, I am still very young and have a long way to go in the future. However, because of the betrayal of my previous wife, the blow and harm to me was too great, and it was difficult for me to get out of this matter. Therefore, I chose to refuse without exception.
From then on, I spent almost all my energy on work and raising my daughter. Fortunately, my daughter is very successful and independent, which makes me worry less. Not only that, when my daughter grew up, she was also very smooth in work and marriage, and I sincerely happy for her.
A few years later, I officially retired from my company at the age of 55. After retirement, I felt so happy, because at this point, I no longer have to live as hard as before. After all, my daughter has already gotten married and started a family, so I don’t need to worry anymore. At the same time, I don’t have to go to work anymore, so I decided to enjoy life.
Because I had thought of traveling everywhere before, but due to the limitations of conditions, my wish could only be stranded. But now I have this condition. Therefore, in the following time, I have almost traveled around the country, and I will basically go and see wherever there are scenic spots or tourist attractions. I have at least seven or eight months in another year. This kind of life has lasted for about five years, and I no longer want to go out and run around.
Because, I have gone to all the places I should go, I really don’t know where to go in the future? Another reason is that over time, this lifestyle has made me a little tired of it. The most important reason is that nowadays, my body is no longer as good as before. If I still lived like before, my body would probably be unable to bear it.
So in this case, I chose to stay at my home safely, raise flowers and grass at home every day, and do housework. If I get tired of staying at home, I choose to go to dance and play cards with friends. Sometimes, I will also cook a large table of dishes at home and ask friends to come to my house for dinner. My life is still pretty good.
But after three or four years, I never want to live like this again, because a person's life looks good, but not everyone can adapt to and overcome the loneliness and helplessness behind it, and I just belong to this type of people.
At this time, I had the idea of finding a new partner. The ultimate goal of finding a partner was to have someone around me chatting and talking with me in the future, or to have someone help me when I encounter difficulties. That's all, as for what I want to get something else from the other party, I have never thought about it. After
, after someone else's introduction, I met Lao Zhu, who was three years older than me. Lao Zhu's conditions are similar to mine in all aspects. He looks pretty good, has a healthy body, and has a good temper and personality. He basically meets my requirements for finding a wife. So after dating Lao Zhu for a period of time, we officially got married.
At the beginning of the period, I felt that when we were with Lao Zhu, our life was pretty good. Every day, Lao Zhu either chatted with me or took me out for a walk. Because Lao Zhu has many friends, he would also take me to a friend’s house from time to time, and I lived a fulfilling life every day.
Compared with these, what touched and satisfied me the most was that one time, a colleague of mine held a wedding for his son and invited me to attend. Because we have not met for a long time, we couldn't help chatting a few more words together, so when I went home, it was already dark.
As soon as I got off the taxi, I saw Lao Zhu standing at the gate of the community from a distance, looking very anxious. Looking around, when Lao Zhu saw me coming back, he immediately smiled and greeted him. It turned out that Lao Zhu had not come back so late and was afraid that something would happen to me on the road. Therefore, he did the previous actions.
But after more than a year, Lao Zhu immediately seemed to have become a different person. He didn't do anything every day, and left all the housework to me. It would be fine if I did the housework alone, but in the process, he either thought that what I did here was wrong or that I did it was not good.
Not only did he do nothing, but he also had to let me serve him like a nanny, including bringing him foot wash, cutting his toenails, and even several times, he sat on the sofa watching TV. In order not to affect his watching TV, I had to bring the meal to him personally, so I almost feed him.
To be honest, I have suffered such grievances when I grew up, so later, I decisively chose to divorce him. After the divorce, I no longer wanted to find any partner, because in my opinion, remarrying in my later years is too unreliable.
However, the problems that were before me must be solved as soon as possible. What's more, as time goes by, my health has become worse and worse. After listening to other people's opinions and based on my own situation, I decided to hire a nanny to support myself.
After coming to business company , I told the person in charge here that I wanted to find a female nanny who is bold, kind-hearted, strong, able to drive, and has always had a good reputation to take care of my future life. According to my request, the person in charge decided to let 45-year-old Xiaochen be my nanny for me.
At that time, I saw Xiaochen look honest, which made me feel very at ease at first sight, and I also felt very "secure," and there was a recommendation from the person in charge, so I immediately decided to hire her. After discussing the relevant treatment, I went home with Xiaochen.
I thought that my pension problem had finally been solved, but when I got home, Xiaochen's words were like a touch of cold water, completely extinguishing my previous hope.
Xiaochen told me that in order to better provide me with care and services by my side in the future, she put forward the following four requests to me, hoping that I could agree. I didn't think much about it at the time, so I asked her to say it out and listen, and then she told me one by one.
The first requirement: I will only be responsible for serving you in the future. As for other people, I will never serve you, including your children, friends, etc., even if you add extra money, I will not agree, because my body, time and energy are limited. Although I am a nanny to make money, compared to making money, having a good body is more important than anything else.
The second requirement: Although I am the nanny you hired, I must agree to all your requirements because I also have my own principles and bottom line. Then in the future, such as washing feet, scrubbing, or washing clothes, etc., I will never do it. If you have this requirement, I will not agree to it. Either you do it yourself or you find someone else to do it for you.
The third requirement: I hope you cannot limit my personal freedom in the future. Under normal circumstances, I will always serve you at home every day. In order to provide all-round care and service, my husband also works in this city. Sometimes if he comes to me with something, you must approve my leave. Of course, during the leave, you will deduct as much salary as you should deduct me. I have no complaints.
The fourth requirement: Although I can drive, my range of activities is limited to the city center. If you exceed this range, you can only take a taxi or take a bus, and I will never drive you there, because going to a farther place indicates that I need to take more unknown risks, but I just want to be a nanny safe and steady, and I don’t want to take this risk, and there is no need for me to take this risk at all.
The fifth requirement: You can basically take care of yourself now, and I can be a nanny for you, but if one day you completely lose the ability to take care of yourself, then no matter whether our contract expires or not, I will terminate the labor contract with you. Even if you have a salary, I will not do it, because before, I used to be a nanny for an elderly person who cannot take care of yourself, and only I know the sadness and grievances in the middle. Therefore, I have this requirement. I hope you can understand and tolerate more.
As soon as Xiaochen finished speaking, I immediately said to her: "I spent money to hire you, just to ask you to support me in my old age, but if you don't do this now and don't do that, then why should I look for you? I might as well not look for you! I don't have a lot of money and I don't have a place to spend it. Do you think this is the reason?"
But Xiaochen said: "I don't think there is anything excessive about these five requirements. We hired them myself. There should be an equal and opposition relationship between the owner and the nanny, but if you only allow your employer to make requests and absolutely not allow us to make requests, isn’t this a bit inappropriate?”
Xiaochen’s words immediately left me speechless. I don’t know what to say, but I will never agree with her request, but Xiaochen’s attitude was very decisive and would not make any concessions. Later, I really had no choice but to send Xiaochen away.
Later, I had to decide to live at my daughter's house and let her take care of me. Although I was not comfortable at all in my daughter's house, I could only do this because I really couldn't find a nanny that meets my requirements, so I can only take one step at a time now.
