Bloodline family affection is a family emotion that we attach great importance to.
From birth, we are destined to be inseparable from some people. These people are bleeding from the same family and have an endless family relationship with our parents.
, these people, logically speaking, should be the people in this world who need to maintain good relationships in addition to parents and partners.
But human nature is born complicated, and relatives are not equal to good people.
Some relatives are not even as real as the neighbors next door, and they are so colorful.
If you have these three types of relatives in your family, you must reduce contacts even if your blood relationship is close.
01: Strong jealousy, can't stand others well
There is a line in the movie " East Evil West Poison ":
Anyone can become vicious, as long as you have tried what jealousy is.
In a big family, there are always people who are doing well and some are not doing well. These are very normal.
is afraid of meeting those jealous relatives. They would rather make money from other irrelevant people and be very good than see their relatives living better than themselves.
This happened in our hometown before. One of my uncles loves studying and making trouble. When he saw that some places in the news, he made money by growing greenhouse vegetables, he went there to study for a few months, and then came back and rented the land himself to do greenhouse planting.
did average work in the first year, and he lost some money without making money. During the Chinese New Year, he was ridiculed by one of my cousins at the dinner table, saying that he had no wealth in his life, and no matter how hard he worked, it would be useless.
My uncle didn't take it seriously, and then continued to work hard after a smile.
has rich experience in the second year, and just happened to meet the vegetable market again, and I made a lot of money in a year.
At this time, my cousin was unhappy. When his relatives were having dinner, he was also sarcastic.
That's all, the problem is that the first dish in the third year happened to be when the weather was cold, and my uncle's shed must ensure that the lights were shining so that the dish would not be frozen to death.
As a result, my cousin got better and ran to cut the thread in the middle of the night, which caused all the dishes to freeze.
So, jealous people are really scary. If they can’t stand you, they will naturally try their best to make trouble for you, and they are unpredictable.
The farther apart a relative, the better, otherwise it will be easy to be hurt by their evil moves.
02: You can’t lose money, you like to be greedy for small gains
The old man often says: It is a blessing to suffer losses.
I don’t encourage people to suffer losses and tolerate them. But even if we don’t be generous people, we must never become a person who likes to be greedy for small gains and is petty.
Some people cannot get up early without profit.
Others cannot take advantage of others, so they specifically choose their relatives around them.
Today I saw your family shopping, so I brought my family to come and took some of them. I had to carry some when I left;
I heard that you bought a car tomorrow, and he ran over to surround your car and was amazed, saying that it was difficult for him to do business and asked you to lend him the car to support the scene;
I heard that your family had paid for several houses for demolition the day after tomorrow, and he also said that his child had no place to live in the provincial capital, so could he sell a house to him at a cheap price.
These are just examples, but if you have a relative who likes to take advantage of it, you can feel the suffocation of being missed and plotted against by others at all times.
Our money is not scattered from crazily, and we have no obligation to pay for other people's lives. If you see clearly the nature of relatives' love for cheapness, stay away as soon as possible.
03: No sense, no understanding of respect,
Relatives are people who witness our growth. It can be said that from childhood to adulthood, they have a general understanding of our good and bad things.
These pasts that we know each other are precious memories between relatives and are also prerequisites for not being cautious about each other.
But if you are close, a basic sense of boundaries is also necessary.
Some people don’t understand this. For example, some relatives like to deliberately reveal our childhood experiences in front of outsiders;
There are also some relatives who always point fingers at us because they are elders.
Even if people cannot help each other, they must at least understand mutual respect.
Not participating in other people's housework is the most basic politeness, and those relatives who are arrogant and clamoring everywhere say that they are for your own good, but in fact they are just satisfying their nosy heart.
LuyaoIn "Ordinary World ", he wrote this sentence:
"Relationships are often the most vulgar. We try to benefit from each other, and roll our eyes if we don't care about them. Even the biggest difficulties in your life are often caused by relatives."
We cannot choose blood relationships, but the decision of interpersonal relationships is in our hands.
Family affection is not a reason that overrides everything. We are adults and we must learn to identify real "family".
Those who are truly good for us, who are anxious about our difficulties, are happy about our achievements, and are worried about our future are the relatives we should really contact.
