Emotions other than marriage and love are not willing. Those who say they are willing to give are just wanting more and cannot get the compromise in the future.
Marriage and family cannot be satisfied, and their desire for emotions can be satisfied through extramarital emotions.
The reason why extramarital affair is romantic is because there is no intimate relationship, it is an underground activity and a sense of shameless freshness.
Two people will not be busy for two days and three meals, will not be troubled by raising children and supporting the elderly, and do not have to worry about these trivial matters in life, and will not be responsible for each other.
Once the two people have too much entanglement, economic relations, responsibilities need to be paid, and have a care in their hearts, the emotions they think are "solid as rocks" will collapse instantly in the midst of the noise.
After all, with these "calculations" among lovers, most of them will be about to part with each other. The emotions between lovers cannot withstand the verification of time, nor can they withstand the temptation of "interest".
1. I care too little about companionship. There is a quarrel.
The most difficult thing about extramarital affairs is to stare at the phone and wait for the other party’s news. Even if an emoticon packet is sent over, it will make the gradually cooler heart hot again.
Ms. Lu kept typing out strings of characters on her phone, hesitating whether to send him a message. He was his first love. He met by chance three years ago. When the misunderstanding was unraveled, the emotions of the two people were like a flood surrounding each other.
She didn't expect to become the lover of her first love, and she didn't expect that she had been waiting for more than 3 years. In these three years, from passionate love to dullness, to now, she has received information less than a few times in a week.
She began to suspect that her first love no longer loved her, so she turned on the "little motor" of quarrels, and deleted the blackmail, and deleted it repeatedly, constantly forgive and being forgiven, and the emotions of the two people were slowly consumed while waiting.
She always complains that the other party gives too little company and cannot express her inner grievances. The other party seems to be unable to feel her efforts.
She knew that her first love would not give up her family for her, and she already wanted to retreat because she could no longer wait, and she could not bear to wait for a resultless relationship in the second half of her life.
In fact, when a man didn’t have the courage to choose you, he was destined to end this relationship. Don’t be obsessed with paying for his life.
The reason why he wants you to be his "lover" is just to fulfill his initial dream, not to love you. If he really loves you, he will accompany you in another way and silently protect you, rather than putting you in a dilemma.
2. I care about my heart and always think about making a lot of money
There is no willingness to give in love, and all willingness has prerequisites.
You think you can accurately grasp the other party and want to be the only one in his heart, replace the original partner and compete with the one in his family.
If he really loves you, he will give it to you without fighting for it. If he doesn't love you, he just plays, he will not give you that position even if you make a fuss.
Don’t expect extramarital affair to be true love, it’s just a reluctance to leave after a fresh feeling. It’s too much to find others, and raise a “good woman” who knows the truth and does not make a fuss.
Xiaoli was 20 years old and had a family with a man 20 years older than her, giving birth to a child for a man. As she grew older and her experience increased, what she wanted was no longer satisfactory to what the man gave. The monthly living expenses cannot support her and her children's lives.
Thinking of clarifying it with the original wife, but in the end, he was defeated by reality, and the man chose the original wife. Several years of youth have been wasted like this, and she feels unwilling to accept it.
What a pity, what can I do if I’m not willing to give up? If you choose to be an underground lover, you must take on your own choice. There are still many ways to choose in life. As long as you bravely look up and walk out of this entangled emotion, you have the final say in your future life.
If you want to get the material life you want in this way, you will only end up in vain.
3. I care about how much I have paid and want to plan more
. Some people who want to become lovers want to take shortcuts. Some love and life can get something without getting anything, why not?
Both parties have purpose, challenge ethics and morals, say they love you, thinking that you are actually just greedy for your money.
Xiao Kong is a bachelor. He is fascinated by a woman with a bigger family than himself. He never hesitates to spend a lot of money on women.
The woman had no money, so he sent a red envelope of 1,000 yuan without hesitation to win the other party a smile.
When he wanted to go to the end with the woman, the woman hesitated and clearly rejected him. Xiao Kong couldn't stand the woman's blackmail removal. He begged the other party to forgive him and was only willing to be by her side.
But he had a different plan in his heart. He thought that he had paid so much money and material things and could not not get married in the future, so he treated the other party as a backup tire and looked for a partner.
In fact, this "risky" idea will only make him fall deeper and deeper, spending more material entanglement between two or more opposite sexes. It will have a serious impact on your marriage in the future, and the gain will not be worth the loss.
Instead of entangling each other and consuming your own mental power, it is better to let go and smile and correct your outlook on life, values, and marriage.
Conclusion:
Some people say that they can't control the misaligned emotions, because you don't want it to end, you want it to grow and meet your emotional needs.
If you want to control an unnecessary relationship, as long as you divert your attention, concentrate on doing your own things, treat your family, treat your children, have time to read books to enrich yourself and strengthen your heart, you will not feel empty, nor will you go to the wrong path.
White and black are just a thought, it depends on how you choose. You must know how to cherish yourself and cherish your emotions.
