Introduction
A 42-year-old woman’s advice to everyone, whether in her 40s or 20s, after getting married, if you can’t separate from your husband for a long time, don’t separate for a long time, because time is too testing people’s hearts. Sometimes, it’s not because the relationship between the two parties is not firm enough, but because the outside world is too tempting, and no one can guarantee that they will not make mistakes.
Self-reporter: Ms. Yu
Hello everyone, I am Ms. Yu, 42 years old this year. My husband and I have been married for nearly 20 years. We have a son and a daughter. My husband and I are from the same place. At that time, he opened a small supermarket in his hometown. The business is still acceptable and it is still OK to maintain a life.
After I married him, I naturally followed him to open a store in my hometown. Usually I helped him sell things, so he was responsible for purchasing goods and sorting out the shelves. Later, after I gave birth to a second child, the family's expenses became increasingly expensive, including the children's milk powder, diapers, and the tuition fees of Dabao!
As more and more supermarkets are opened in the town behind, our business is getting worse and worse. It is okay to support the two of us, but the expenses for the children are too high. The tuition fees for the two of us will cost several thousand yuan in one semester. This store alone will definitely not work. Behind
, my husband thought about finding some miscellaneous work in the town, but because we are a small town, the maximum salary is only more than 2,000 yuan. In order for the whole family to be together, my husband had to continue working. Behind
, a friend of my husband invited him to work in another place, saying that his monthly salary was 7,000 yuan. My husband agreed without thinking, and he agreed at once, 7,000 yuan a month. He had to work in our town for several months. When my husband returned home and discussed with me, I agreed, and we transferred the supermarket, so I went to another place with my husband because the child was already in junior high school at that time and usually lived in the school. He just wanted to go home on weekends and let his grandparents take care of him.
is like this, my husband and I went to another place, but I went home after two years of work. Because my daughter was disobedient at home, the teacher called and said that my daughter fell in love early and asked me to go home to take care of it.
For the sake of my child, I had to quit my job and prepare to go home to accompany me to study. I also officially separated from my husband for a long time because I didn’t know how many years I needed to stay at home.
My husband and I have always had a good relationship. We have been married to him for more than 10 years. We have never been separated. We have been separated for 3 days at most, so I was reluctant to leave. I asked my husband, "If you are alone outside when I go home, you will find someone outside. At that time, my husband still swears to me, "Apart from my wife, other women cannot catch my eyes at all, and I will definitely not find someone."
At that time, I really believed my husband's words, and I also felt that a man as decent as him would not cheat, but reality slapped me in the face.
has been separated for two years. Apart from the Chinese New Year, my husband has only been home for ten days and half a month. We have never met in the whole year. During this period, at the beginning, my husband would call me a call every day, and sometimes two more calls. Gradually, I found that the time he and I had to talk to me was getting off. Every time he would say he would hang up the phone first, and he would call me two or three days later. Sometimes I took the initiative to call him, and he would hang up in a hurry after saying less than a few words to me.
I was quite disappointed and had questions in my heart, but I was embarrassed to ask him directly. Even if I asked him, he probably wouldn't admit that he was doing something random outside!
But I like to think randomly. Finally, I told my good sister what I thought. The good sister reminded me that if I really don’t feel at ease, then take the time to go up and take a look.
I listened to my good sisters and had been separated for three years. During the Dragon Boat Festival holiday, I arranged my child and secretly went to my husband's city.
I thought my husband was surprised to see me, but he was surprised to see me. I saw his nervousness. I suddenly felt that he had become unfamiliar. During this period, he always secretly answered the phone with me on his back. I asked him who he was, but he told me that he was a colleague. I said why did his colleague still answer the phone with me on his back?
My husband is a person who is responsible. When he lies, he looks unsure. I decided that he had something to do, so I directly showed off my cards and asked him if there was someone outside. I also expressed my purpose for this time.
At the beginning, he refused to admit it. After repeated inquiries from me, he finally admitted it. He cheated on me. He admitted his mistake and promised me that he would not have any contact with that person.
Actually, I was already mentally prepared when I came, but I still couldn't accept it when I learned the truth. I admitted that I had overestimated my position in his heart before. It was him who did the wrong thing, but I couldn't face him. That night, I didn't sleep all night, and in the morning, while he was going out to buy vegetables, I secretly returned to my hometown.
The reason I hide it from him is actually to prove that he still has me and this home in his heart. If so, he will definitely chase me home.
This time I won the bet, and he really quit his job and returned to his hometown the next day. In fact, I still care about him very much. He cheated on me, but I still don’t want to divorce. I am just so unpromising!
Although I forgave him on the surface, I still minded in my heart. I was not as good to him as before. I also rejected living a married life with him. My husband also knew that I did not really forgive him. He also worked hard this year after he returned home and hoped that he would be forgiven by me. He treated me better. All the housework at home was included, and all the salary for work was handed over to me. I had the final say on how much pocket money he left every month.
Later, we talked seriously all night long, and he said, "If I still want to continue living with him, I hope I can truly forgive him. I already know that I am wrong and will not do anything sorry for me again from now on."
Finally, I also thought it through, "There is no mistake for the horse, and who can do it?" Our relationship returned to the same as before.
So, here I really want to remind all sisters, don’t easily separate from your husband for a long time. It’s useless to understand your husband’s character, and how many people in this world are tempted by the outside world.
