You have to be a casual person. Even if you have experienced the fireworks of the world, you still love life and yourself.
You must do good things, but never be a "bad person".
Kindness that is not careful about the proper manner often makes people feel embarrassed.
A friend of mine in college, Xiao Chen, was a very good person, but his family was a little worse.
But he really works hard, going out to work part-time or being a tutor, and is constantly striving for a better life every day.
There are five places for poverty subsidy per semester, and there is only one first-class subsidy. When voting in the class
, the kind-hearted Jia Jia said in front of everyone that Xiao Chen’s family was not well-off just to get him to receive this first-class subsidy.
But this move made Xiao Chen, who was already shy, even lowered his head and dared not look at everyone.
Jiajia’s starting point is indeed very good. In order to help Xiao Chen, this “kindness with low emotional intelligence” often makes others feel uncomfortable.
As a boy, Xiao Chen is in a sensitive period of self-esteem in college. Jia Jia's kind behavior is very hurtful.
Kindness with low emotional intelligence can be said to be a deformed kindness that even normal people cannot feel, let alone the warmth it brings.
A kind and high emotional intelligence person is often a rare treasure in this society, the most dazzling and precious.
Self-righteous kindness is as terrible as hopeless evil.
Many people always talk about "I'm for your own good" and "Just listen to me, I won't hurt you."
is often the most hurtful thing. If you think you are good to others, others will feel it and appreciate it, but in fact it is not.
Xiao Wang is a good person who can't control his words. If you have any questions, you will give me some guidance.
Until one day, a roommate who was starting out was taught by Xiao Wang for a few words and suddenly broke out.
shouted at Xiao Wang, "Who do you think you are? Why should you care about my business?"
This roar made Xiao Wang stunned, thinking for a long time that he didn't know where he was wrong.
A person with high emotional intelligence always makes himself comfortable, and will make others happy, and knows how to express his kindness calmly.
This is the world. Be kind, passionate, and willing to help out with both hands, but it is far from enough. You should also have a little emotional intelligence when discussing.
Sometimes, you can be kind, but you must not be cowardly. You can not stab someone, but you must have thorns on your body.
This is a protection for others and for yourself.
A senior sister told me that she had a college classmate stayed at her house for several days.
But I didn’t expect that this stay would last for a long time, which made it very inconvenient for the senior sister, but the senior sister is a soft-hearted person.
She always feels that they are all friends and cannot express her thoughts to her classmates so directly.
Until one day, the senior sister accidentally mentioned it, and the classmate immediately got angry and said, "What's wrong with you just staying there?" It's true, as for this."
senior sister said she was really helpless at that time, and didn't expect that this help would become an "enemy".
In fact, it will not be calm for a while. It will only make others gain more and more. It will not be able to take a step back. It will only make people worse.
Kindness without principles often only hurts oneself.
We are always afraid that we will lose this friend after we reject it, but in fact, sometimes it doesn’t matter if we say “no” to others, because it is reasonable not to let others add burdens to us.
When an adult makes a request, he actually has two answers in his mind, and he will accept it no matter which one.
Acceptance and rejection are normal, which is the psychological quality that every adult possesses.
True kindness still has some strengths. When you have a bottom line, principles, and a position, others will recognize you more.
The respect of others for themselves is not only because of your kindness. Knowing moderate rejection will allow others to see your principles and bottom line, and it will also allow you to be liberated from cumbersome things.
