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A psychologist told a short story:
A criminal with a distorted personality scratched a person and found that the person was bleeding, his expression was in great pain, and his mouth was wailing constantly.
The criminal was shocked and couldn't understand: Why does he still hurt?
In the eyes of this criminal, he is the only one who is a human being, others are not human beings, but he will only be in pain, and no one else will feel pain, because he has long lost the most basic empathy ability.
This kind of person is called "dehumanized" in psychology.
is reflected in reality. Such people and such things are not uncommon. The man’s family in Tangshan, Hebei, which has caused heated discussion in the past two days is a typical example.
Because the woman was pregnant, the man thought she had everything and had absolute initiative, so he listed a " pre-marital agreement " full of calculations, and threatened that the woman would not be able to get married without signing the agreement.
The woman was not a soft persimmon that could be controlled by anyone. She ruined the agreement in anger and directly aborted her child, and delivered the foam box to the man's doorstep, giving him a vent. After some operation of
, countless netizens were shocked and they did not forget to applaud.
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According to media reports, the two protagonists in the incident are both Tangshan locals.
The two have been in love for a long time. The woman has a man’s child. When she reaches the point of discussing marriage, she discusses matters related to marriage.
The pregnant woman asked for a bride price of 95,000 yuan. This amount of bride price cannot be considered excessive in any area. The man also agreed readily on the surface.
But behind the scenes, the man and his family had bad intentions and listed a "pre-marriage agreement" that made the woman feel extremely humiliated. After the content was summarized, it was as follows:
First point, the man gave the woman 95,000 yuan in bride gift before marriage, but the woman must voluntarily give up the betrothal gift, and voluntarily bring the 95,000 yuan in bride gift back to the man after marriage.
Second point: Getting married and having a wedding, but you cannot get a marriage certificate. The specific time for getting a marriage certificate must be waited for the men and women to discuss and decide together after marriage.
The third point is that the wedding room belongs to the man and has nothing to do with the woman.
The fourth point is that after the divorce, the woman is not qualified to divide the property. Even if the man dies, the house has nothing to do with the woman and is inherited by the man’s parents.
The fifth point is that both men and women bear their property and debts before and after marriage.
Word by word, it shows the naked calculation without any hesitation. It not only wants to pick up a wife for free, but also is unwilling to give at all. It is like a maggot with bones that makes people feel strong discomfort.
It can be said that if the man has a normal mind at home, he will definitely not be able to propose such an annoying humiliating agreement if he has a slight minimum respect for the woman.
Why can the family of the man with an ordinary family and no man who wants to inherit the throne to make such unreasonable demands with shame?
Because the woman is pregnant with the man's child.
They were sure that the woman was pregnant because she couldn't marry her. She also decided that no one except their family would marry a pregnant woman, so they dared to bully the woman in such a noble way.
Before getting married, the man’s family’s wishful thinking can be so loud. It’s hard to imagine how miserable the woman’s situation will be after marriage.
Fortunately, the woman was not weak. After reading the agreement, she was furious and ran to the man's house angrily. The man's parents hid in the house and avoided him, regardless of whether it was because of guilt or injustice.
The woman was completely angry and smashed around the man's yard. The glass was broken one after another, and the angry curse in her mouth was followed by one. Next to
, there is a man's family recording a video. Not only does he have no intention of making any mistakes, but he makes jokes from time to time, extremely arrogant, as if he really has to sign a pre-marital agreement.
At this point, the attitude of the man and his family completely made the woman feel ashamed. She made up her mind to cut off all her relationship with the man and her family. She directly abolished the five-month-old child in her belly, packed it in a foam box, and delivered it directly to the man's doorstep.
So, people saw an extremely relieved scene:
The man's father collapsed at the door of the house, cried bitterly in his arms, whimpering constantly, slapped himself in the face, rolling on the spot, no matter how his family members were dragging him, and his emotions completely collapsed.
Some netizens sarcastically said:
"Now the man's family is probably going to wake up from laughing in their dreams. The house is kept, and the property is not necessary to be wary of outsiders. The bride price is saved, and the child is sent back, which is a great victory."
Who should I blame?
If you want to blame, the man blames the man for bullying too much and takes it upon himself. He racked his brains to calculate everything before he got married. abacus knocked it out loud, and in the end he lost his wife and his army. It was really his own fault and he deserved it.
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What makes me feel most relieved was a leaked news from netizens, saying that the woman directly printed hundreds of copies of the pre-marital agreement, posted them in every corner of the village, and sent them to various group chats in the village.
This means that not only the village where the man is located, but also the villages and towns within a radius of ten miles have known the man's family's scheming and wishful thinking. It is almost impossible for a woman to dare to marry into their family in the future.
The son of the man’s family is likely to be a bachelor in the future.
The courage and determination of the woman's hero who cuts off her arm are the most admirable. If someone who is used to being submissive and is deeply trapped in a dilemma, he may really be as good as the man's family's wishful thinking and will be eaten without any fur left.
That is the most cowardly ending.
can only be said that the woman did a beautiful job. Although it is a pity that the child has lost, she has saved her second half of her life. Just imagine, in a marriage, there is a lot of calculating and scheming, what else can there be happiness?
Starting from her situation, stopping the loss in time is a hundred times better than enduring humiliation and bearing heavy burdens.
After tracing the origin, it is not difficult to find that the root of the entire incident lies in a cliché topic - pregnancy before marriage.
Why is there always a lot of persuasion on the Internet about "women should not get pregnant before marriage"?
Because a woman who is pregnant before marriage is like fish on the chopping board, letting others take control of it, and letting others threaten and humiliate the unreasonable "prenuptial agreement".
results are nothing more than two types. Either endure humiliation and spend a lifetime to make up for temporary mistakes, or you can break the ball to death. Although you can save the happiness of the second half of your life, you will also suffer 800 self-destruction.
neither ending is something that ordinary people want.
So, please protect yourself before marriage. After all, human nature has always been complicated and cannot stand the test.
