Preface
It is very important for children to maintain a marriage relationship; if a couple has a common child, then "love" can be upgraded to "family affection". This sublimated relationship is relatively strong, so this is why families with children are less likely to part.
For remarried couples, children are not the "adhesive" to stabilize their relationship. Of course, it's okay to be a common child, but they are afraid that both husband and wife will have their own biological flesh and blood. Then when faced with the problem of children in the future, it will most likely intensify the conflict between husband and wife. It is difficult for couples to do halfway through. If they are careful, then what is the meaning of this marriage?
49-year-old sister Liu is a single mother. She is currently divorced and has been divorced for 10 years. She lives with a 10-year-old son. Her biggest wish now is to find a reliable stepfather for her child, and the family of three will live a good life together in the future.
Sister Liu is a strong mother and a confident woman. She firmly believes that her conditions are good, and she can find a man who treats her sincerely based on her figure and appearance. The conditions for choosing a spouse cannot be low: bride price starts at 250,000 yuan and add a house.
49-year-old sister was tired after divorce and wanted to find an "honest person" to live
Logically speaking, Sister Liu is almost 50, why is her son just 10 years old? In fact, there is another bitter story here:
Sister Liu has two younger brothers in her family. The family has been poor since she was a child, which has led to her not being able to get married at a very young age. Finally, with the efforts of her parents, she found a man with poor conditions to live. However, Sister Liu has been a woman with high spirits since she was a child and hates men's "macho" style the most. Her husband asked her to go east, but she went west. Because of her temper, the couple had many conflicts;
Moreover, Sister Liu has been married for many years and has not moved, which has caused dissatisfaction from her parents-in-law. Every time she quarreled, her parents-in-law would come to help her husband, and the whole family would join forces to run for Sister Liu.
, this is all the time, when my elder sister was 38 years old, the couple got divorced, but shortly after the divorce, Sister Liu found out that she was pregnant. She wanted to abort the child in anger, but after all, she was almost 40 years old and had no children, so she couldn't bear it.
Since Sister Liu gave birth to a child and raised herself, her quality of life has plummeted. She originally had a monthly salary of two or three thousand, and it was a tight time for her to spend. Since the child went to elementary school, Sister Liu's salary has not been enough. Now she wants to find a man who can accept her son to reduce her life burden.
"Honest Man" uncle: Is it absolutely not to be a stepfather
Uncle refused to raise a 10-year-old stepson, and the eldest sister was angry: "Does blood relationship be so important in your opinion? You are just a cold-blooded man, you only value blood relationship, and are worse than beasts."
Sister Liu's conditions for choosing a spouse are too high. If she really looks for her conditions, she has to wait until the Year of the Monkey and Horse Month? In desperation, the program team had to first "honest person" according to the first requirement and match Sister Liu with a 50-year-old uncle - Uncle Hou.
Uncle Hou is very simple. Although he has no great skills, he has been eating and living on the construction site since his divorce. He has no bad habits. He doesn't smoke and occasionally drinks some wine, so he saves his monthly salary and is ready to use it for himself to marry a wife in the future.
In Uncle Hou's mind, he felt that routines would not work, especially remarried couples. Only by treating others sincerely can they last for a long time. Therefore, he is not picky about the financial conditions of his blind date partner, as long as he is a woman who can live a peaceful life.
Blind date meeting was at Uncle Hou’s sister’s house. After the two arrived at the location, they definitely had a good impression of each other at first sight, so they sat down and started chatting.
Sister Liu: " This is your sister's house? The decoration is pretty good. Do you have a house yourself? Where are you living now? I have a smaller house. I think if you marry a wife, you must buy a big house, otherwise it would be too frustrating, because my conditions are relatively high. In addition to the house being a must, it also requires a 250,000 yuan bride price. You should make a lot of money on the construction site, right? "
After hearing Sister Liu's high demands, Uncle Hou's face was a little embarrassed. He said, " My monthly salary is 4,000 or 5,000 yuan. I saved some money, but not as much as you said. I heard that you have a 10-year-old son? This child is too young. I didn't mind at first, but after hearing your high conditions, I thought a little. "
Uncle Hou's implication is that, not only are you married, you just open your mouth and not only want a house but also a bride price of 250,000 yuan. Isn't this my life? If your son gets married in the future, wouldn’t I have to pay all the money? I originally wanted to find someone to live with me when I got married, not to raise a son for others.
Sister Liu was displeased when she heard this and quickly said, " Don't think that my son is young, but it's good to be young. If you raise him, he will definitely marry you. Moreover, I heard that you only have one daughter and no son. After you marry me, you will have a son. Marry one and get one free, and you will have an extra son to support you. What a great thing, you will definitely not lose! "
When she heard her say this, Uncle Hou was even more scared. He felt that this woman was really not simple and too scheming. Isn't this clear digging for himself? She is just a "big fool"!
No matter what Sister Liu said or how the program staff persuaded her, Uncle Hou insisted that she would never be a stepfather.
Seeing the uncle like this, this blind date is gone. After all, Uncle Hou was scared by Sister Liu's request and refused to be his stepfather.
Sister Liu felt very angry. She was fine, but when she heard that she wanted to raise a son for herself, she was scared away. So she told the program team: "This man looks cold-blooded at first glance. I can't give up my son, right? I think I'm right. It's good to have a child. So what if I'm not my own? As long as I raise him, will he kiss you soon? Such a man who only likes blood is worse than a beast."
Yutu said
Comprehensive blind date market, it is difficult for women who divorce to take care of their son to be accepted. After all, now they are married, and they are a high-priced bride price, a house and a car. The economic pressure to raise a son is too great;
If it is your own son, it doesn't matter. If you raise a son for others, many people will be reluctant. This is also human nature. It is not a matter of Uncle Hou who does not accept being a stepfather. He just made a choice and did nothing wrong. Therefore, the program team did not criticize him. However, Sister Liu was a little unhappy in the face of his rejection. Perhaps she also fell in love with Uncle Hou, so she was so angry at the end.
However, most men will not want to be stepfathers, after all, they are afraid that they will lose money in the end. However, Sister Liu believes that her son is very well-behaved and filial. As long as Uncle Hou really loves him, his son will definitely be able to support him in the future;
Do you think Uncle Hou’s approach is inappropriate? Can Sister Liu find a man who accepts her? Welcome to leave your valuable comments in the comment section!
