If you are interested in doing a survey, ask those couples who have been married for a long time: "Is your married life happy?" Although it cannot be said 100%, at least more than 80% of people will choose to shake their heads, and some people will even tell you: "If you are not married yet, try to live alone as long as possible!"
In fact, most people are really blinded by love when they get married, but their married life makes them extremely disappointed. It is true that people get married because of love, and they should be happier after marriage than before marriage. People with this idea are the most typical misunderstanding of marriage.
There are indeed not many women who can be as lucky and happy as Cinderella, but there are still many ignorant women who think that living with the people they love will definitely be happy even if they live in thatched huts. Because in their original family, "father's coldness" and "mother's indifference" make them unconsciously feel that as long as there is someone who can truly treat them well, no matter how poor life is, it is still happy. Most women who have this kind of thinking will realize how dangerous and ridiculous the thoughts were after getting married.
In fact, the reason why many people are not happy after marriage is because they have a wrong understanding of marriage. But for themselves, they did not realize that there was a mistake in their understanding of marriage, but instead blamed all contradictions on the other party and family environment. So in many cases, they only have dissatisfaction and regret for their marriage, but they don’t know how to change it. They press this dissatisfaction in their hearts again and again, waiting for the final outbreak. Therefore, when someone asks them whether the marriage is happy or not, in order not to follow their own footsteps, they will often advise others not to enter the marriage temporarily before they are fully prepared.
Fallacy: Two people after marriage are a game of "two people running three feet" and only by cooperating with each other can the flow of happiness.
seems to be a blessing sentence, but it is actually not reasonable. Although. This is to make newlyweds contribute more to each other and overcome difficulties together, but only those who have played the "Two Three-legged Run" game know how difficult it is to achieve the smooth effect, and how many falls it takes to go through in the middle!
It is worthy of recognition that marriage is a matter for two people, and it is certainly good for two people to cooperate with each other. But if life after marriage is really a game of "two people running three feet", marriage will become very troublesome. If the cooperation is not good, both sides will fall. In addition, the feet of the two people are tied together, so it is very difficult to stand up. In addition, if someone runs fast and someone falls, they will have "bullshit". If they are not dealt with properly, "It's all because of you that we will fall." "If it weren't for you, I would have succeeded long ago"... Similar to words blaming the other party.
Now think about it, it seems that one person can run well with two feet, so why do you have to tie the feet of two people together? After running, we support each other and overcome difficulties together! Is it OK? That is mutual restraint and mutual restraint, no one can think of living a good life!
So it is said that for the sake of your marriage, you can be happy and fulfilled. After marriage, two people have to use their legs to walk their own way, but the premise is to keep the direction consistent and the speed is similar. This is what I once said, "A happy marriage is that you are good, and I am not bad either." Even if someone falls and another person will help him.
Two people walk with three feet, which is a very stupid decision in itself. The same is true for life after marriage. If one completely confuses one's own life with the other's life, it will eventually turn into a battle for dominance.Can a marriage that is mutually restricted and mutually restricted and happy? It still needs to be a question mark!
Conclusion: Whether a man or a woman, it is best to maintain your life habits after marriage and live your own life well. Be able to comfort the other person when he is in pain and encourage him when he is discouraged. This is marriage. Instead of saying that if one person falls, the other person doesn't want to get up and walk.
