I say a very real thing, you may not believe it, but from the perspective of our men, there is really nothing to say when we break up. Not replying to the message is not because we hate you, but simply not wanting to reply to you, because we know that once we reply to your message, you will definitely send countless messages later.
For example, you were in pain because of losing him, so you posted a short essay with him. Do you think the other person will be moved by reading it and the prodigal son will turn back, right? But in fact, the first reaction of the other party when receiving your message is that it is really annoying. Don’t delay me and my brother!
So do you understand? Ignore you after breaking up, not because they are heartless, but because they are simply afraid of trouble.
Really, men are not stupid. They avoid you because they know that they can’t give what you want, and they can’t meet the requirements you hope for. For example, if the other party breaks up with you, and you send him a message is nothing more than asking for peace, complaining, apologizing, and begging. I'm right?
Where is the boy? The moment they broke up must have thoughtfully thought about it. That is to say, before officially breaking up with you, he is ready to break up with you. At this time, it will be difficult for you to change his ideas, and he knows it himself.
So instead of waiting for you to send him a little essay, he might as well cut off your thoughts from the beginning, such as blocking the entire network, saying harsh words, "Ignore no longer love", "Impossible", etc., all for not wanting to contact you and interrupting your negative emotions, do you know?
essentially has nothing to do with loving you or not. As long as you ask, it means not loving you. But you girls like to use "love or not" to explain all men's behavior. Remember, "love" has never been a boy's motivation to do things, "reasonable" is.
Because for men, if they do something unconditionally just for love, then this is no different from "limbing dogs".
They broke up with you because they felt uncomfortable getting along with you. They don’t want to carry your emotions and your requirements anymore, so even if he still loves you very much at the moment, he will use rationality to consider the future. The advantage of reason is that he will never do anything beyond his ability. It is not that he does not want it, but that he cannot ask for it.
So at this time, if you insist on getting involved with him and asking for peace with him, then you will form a strong confrontation with the other party. He only feels "I'm so annoyed, why is it so difficult to break up with you?"
At this time, he has no intention of considering whether he still loves you or not, and he just feels that you are hindering him from doing something.
This is how human nature is. The more hindered, the stronger his willingness to do this. If you don’t believe in it, think about yourself. Are there many things that your parents force you to do, the more you are reluctant, the more you are not allowed to do, the more you want to do it?
so your calmness after breaking up is crucial. Human nature must follow, and confrontation will only make his heart farther and farther away from you. If he wants to break up, then you just follow him. He hopes you don’t go to him. OK, then you can contact him less during this period.
Men usually feel happy and free when they break up. Then after a while, after a while, after having fun, they will realize the pain afterwards.
So open the pattern, human nature is all jian. This is the same as when you were a child, your parents chased you to feed you. The more they chased you to feed you, the more you don’t eat, the more you want to play. But when they don’t chased you to feed you, put the food aside, and wait a while, you will naturally go to eat when you are hungry.
The principles are the same, so if you want to conquer a heartless man, you definitely don’t rely on any touching or begging for nothing, but you have to be more rational than him.
Remember that the beginning of a relationship is often the beginning of a man’s initiative and the end of a woman’s giving up. If you don’t want to end, it will be difficult for you to completely disconnect.
But the premise is that you cannot be scared away by his indifference, nor can you start to doubt yourself just because of a few heartless words he said casually. Instead, follow human nature, get along with the times, and slowly grasp the direction of this relationship. Do you understand?
Psychological test: Test the words your ex wants to say to you most
1. Do you quarrel over trivial matters when you are together?
Yes, I often feel very tired —2
rarely argues over trivial matters —2
Occasionally, but I can make up soon —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to reflect on yourself and is willing to correct your mistakes?
is —3
is not —4
3. Will TA take the initiative to tell you about your troubles?
often says - 5
doesn't say much - 4
4. Will you tell your parents about the process of your love?
, and often complain to my parents. —6
, occasionally, they will say it when they ask —5
, hardly say it, there is nothing to say —5
, there is nothing to say —5
5. How much energy are you willing to spend to get what you want?
Everything goes with the flow, it’s mine after all, it’s mine —7
Work hard, maybe you can succeed —6
Try your best, I have to get everything I want —B
6. Is it because a third party appeared?
Yes—A
No—7
7. Has the other party taken the initiative to contact you after breaking up?
Yes—D
No—Ch
