Three years ago, my husband and I got married. My family is from a wealthy place. When I got married, my parents asked for a bride price of 100,000 yuan, but I gave me a dowry of 300,000 yuan. They hoped that I would have a smooth life in the future, so they gave me the bride price, so that I would have a total of 400,000.
My parents raised me like a princess. I was carefree since I was a child. After getting married, I thought I was already a family with my husband. There was no need to hide it between the couple, so I told my husband that I had 400,000 yuan. After hearing this, my husband only said that you would like to spend whatever you want.
However, after half a year of marriage, my father-in-law got lung cancer, and my mother-in-law suggested doing everything possible to treat it. My father-in-law spent 300,000 yuan on the operation, and all of them were paid by my in-laws. After the operation, my father-in-law recovered very well. Just when everyone felt relieved, my father-in-law's cancer worsened, and my mother-in-law insisted on giving her the best treatment. After the second operation, her father-in-law's condition did not improve, and she still left three months later. The two surgeries and treatment costs almost exhausted all of my parents-in-law's savings.
A year later, my sister-in-law was preparing to get married. The husband's house had already bought it. Her mother-in-law offered a 20-dollar gift, and everyone was happy for my sister-in-law.
Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law found me. She said that her sister-in-law's family gave her a bride gift of 200,000 yuan. In order to make her have confidence in her husband's family in the future, she planned to give her a dowry of 200,000 yuan. I said, my sister-in-law is your daughter. I will give you as much dowry as you want. I will give you whatever you want.
My mother-in-law looked at me and said hesitantly that there was not much left to treat my father-in-law at home.
She said my husband told her that I had 400,000 yuan and asked me if I could give 200,000 yuan to my sister-in-law as a dowry.
I was stunned when I heard this. Although my parents-in-law treated me well after I got married, and my sister-in-law and I got along well with me, but I was reluctant to ask me to give 200,000 yuan to do my sister-in-law as a dowry, and I said I would consider it.
On the evening, I told my husband that the 400,000 I had in my hand was a dowry given to me by my parents, and I could not take it out. I could only pay 100,000 yuan, just pretending that I didn’t ask for a dowry when I got married.
But my husband disagreed. He said he was just such a sister and hoped that she would live a good life.
I retorted, my parents gave me 300,000 yuan and hoped that I would live a good life. How could I use the money my parents gave me to my sister-in-law as a dowry? What would my parents think when they find out? You feel sorry for your sister-in-law, don’t my parents feel sorry for me?
In short, no matter how my husband said it, I wouldn't let it go.
The next day I saw my mother-in-law, and I said straight to the point: "Mom, I can only take out 100,000 yuan to my sister-in-law as a dowry. I will not take out the 300,000 yuan given to my parents. You hope my sister-in-law will have a good life after marriage, and my parents also hope that I will live a good life. I hope you can understand."
My mother-in-law said nothing, just wiped her tears.
When my husband returned home, he saw my mother-in-law with swollen eyes, and called me to the bedroom and asked me if I would get 200,000 yuan. I told him that I would only pay 100,000 yuan. You should give my sister-in-law a dowry of 200,000 yuan. You should find a way for yourself and don’t make any decisions about me. My 300,000 yuan was given to me by my parents.
My husband had a big fight with me after hearing this, but I didn’t compromise.
How much money does it cost to do as big a thing? Since the family doesn’t have that much money, why bother to pretend to be fat?
To be honest, I was actually very shaken in my heart. Give it, I feel unhappy, if I don’t give it, how can I live my life in the future? Can you give me some advice?
