I often go to the vegetable market in Jiangbin New Village to buy vegetables. I often meet some elderly people who stew the vegetables on the stalls when the seller is not paying attention and pick them up. They make a fuss with the stall owner for this matter. This uncivilized transaction was rolled by young people. At the same time, you can also encounter some elderly people picking up the vegetables scattered on the ground for the stall owner and conducting civilized transactions with them. Whenever I think of the Korean TV series " Princess Aurora ", the hostess said: "When people get old, they will become two kinds of people, old people or elders. Everyone can become old people, but not everyone can become elders." Now I agree with this sentence very much, and I hope that when I get old, I can be qualified to become an elder respected by young people. So what is an elderly person? What kind of elderly people can become elders? What are the similarities and what are the differences?
The elderly refer to older people or older people, or older parents or grandparents. The definition of elderly people in my country is an elderly person greater than or equal to 65 years old. Elders refer to older and older people. Such people are collectively called elders, and they also refer to people of older generations in their families or older than their parents. Such people are often respected and respected. The same thing is that the elderly are based on age, and only older people generally call them the elderly. The difference is that the elders have a sense of respect, but the elderly do not. It is just a neutral statement.
There is so great that society is all kinds of strange. Not every elderly person deserves respect. It is lucky for young people to have respected elders, but unfortunately.
The parents-in-law of Lili in our unit are retired people's teachers. What a respected and enviable profession. However, when the two elders entered old age, they both joined the scavengers' team, put the items they picked up in the garage and picked them again in the garage. They took whatever they could use at home and put the rest in the garage. This cycle repeats itself, and some of the original daily necessities at home are replaced by the items you picked up, and sometimes they even take the food you picked up home to fill your stomach. For this matter, even the young grandson blamed his parents for not taking good care of their grandparents. The couple talked with the elderly many times about the elderly picking up scattered people and expressed their opinions. The couple lacked persuasion and were defeated. The old man agreed to dispose of the scrap he picked up, but he just agreed verbally and still did his own way. What made Lili’s most headache was that her parents-in-law actually turned her residence into a good place to store waste, and even occupied the fire protection passage in the building. The old man had a quarrel with his neighbors, and the community was full of controversy. When the couple took their son home, they were always pointed at and spoke out by people in the community. The residents of the community reported the situation to the property. The property manager called the person to transport it away within a time limit. The couple had a dispute with the old man, and the old man said that the scraps also had a market and could not be sold at any time. Under the urging of the property, the couple did not seek the old man's opinions and claimed that they had hired two cars to transport the scraps piled in the building. In this case, I think there is nothing wrong with the elderly picking up scatters, but they cannot occupy fire protection passages, affect neighborhood travel, and cause safety hazards. The elderly are too stubborn, so it is really unfortunate for anyone to get such an elderly person. In comparison, I once read an article about a retired professor picking up scattered goods. She said: "Although I retired, I still have to make a difference in society and contribute to the environment." They are also scavengers, but their goals are different.
Compared with colleague Lili, I am much lucky. I once lived with my parents-in-law, and I lived in the same unit with my uncle and my parents. My parents-in-law's house was on the third floor and my uncle's house was on the second floor. Our family is also a big family with four generations living together. The in-laws have a low level of education and don’t speak much, but they always make you feel how to treat your parents well, love your children, and love your descendants from their behavior and actions. They are elders respected by their younger generations. It was March that year when I was about to give birth. My mother-in-law ran to the hospital to deliver food to me in the snow and the wind. She asked me about this and that, and I was afraid that the care was not taken into consideration. The people in the same delivery room thought we were mother and daughter. During my hospitalization, I cleaned my room and took the dirty clothes I had worn in the hospital home to wash them.During my maternity leave at home, I noticed that during lunch hours on weekdays, my mother-in-law would go downstairs to pick up her mother and help her to come upstairs to have lunch at home. My father-in-law would also go to school to pick up her granddaughter on time. Before the meal, my mother-in-law prepared warm water in advance to wash her hands. She was afraid that I would get a problem with cold water. Whenever I put down the bowl quickly, my mother-in-law would whisper: "Mom with milk eats too much, one mouth eats and two assholes." I know, this is for me, and my mother-in-law wants me to eat more. Every time I bathe my daughter, I am careful. I am afraid that I will not wash the child when my hands are light, and I am afraid that I will hurt the child when my hands are heavy. I will smile when I see my mother-in-law loves the child so much. Whenever I carry the child back to my parents' home, my mother-in-law always sticks her head out the window, and she will only take back her head until she can't see anyone. When I come back with the child, I can see my mother-in-law's head out the window from afar, looking in the direction of my return. When I see me, I will take back my head. At this time, my heart is warm. My mother-in-law never talks to me, but what she conveys to me from her eyes and kind face is maternal love. The parents-in-law took good care of the young and young people in the family, solved their worries, and the children's work was very smooth, and the children's grandchildren were very outstanding. Every New Year's Day, the family gathered together, and the children's parents kept calling each other. The children's grandparents and grandparents were not enough. The family was very lively, and the parents-in-law were even more busy at the dinner table. Sometimes they picked up food for their son-in-law and took fishbones for their grandchildren. Every time we juniors would drink wine for the two elders and say together that we have worked hard! It is our blessing to have such parents!
It seems that what parents-in-law do is ordinary little things, but the key is persistence. How many people will there be when watching the younger generation grow up like parents-in-law and care about them all the time? It is a blessing for me to have such an elderly person in life. When I get old, I strive to do something beneficial to society, be a filial piety to the elderly, care for their children, love their children, and become a respected elder by young people.
