I think the best thing in the world and the happiest thing. Nothing is more about this matter in the article. If it were you, would you do this? If it were you, would you care what others said? Anyway, I wouldn't care if it were me. Whether the shoes fit or not is suitable or not, only you know what others don't know. All you have to do is live a better life and be happy. Why bother with what others say? If it were you, would you do this? What the hell is going on? A 57-year-old second-married woman: It is the happiest thing in my life to marry my in-laws when I don’t have enough money to do.
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57-year-old aunt Huang:
Many people say that I am embarrassed. But I want to say that I have a happy family and what's so embarrassing? I am very happy now. I told this matter out and beat me up and helped me to be ordinary. Is this a shameful thing? Is there anything wrong with doing this? This matter should start two years ago. Two years ago my son asked me to go over and take care of my daughter-in-law.
had just given birth to a third child at that time. He is a girl who originally wanted to take care of her. What's helpless is lack of ability. Asking a nanny for more than 4,000 yuan a month, that's 5,000 yuan. Isn’t it better to save money to buy something for your child than to have this wall? Then I didn't ask the nanny to take care of me, but asked me to take care of me.
I think it's good for me to take care of it, but I have nothing to do at home anyway. If you go there to take care of it, it can help your child reduce the burden and enhance the relationship with your child. Over the years, I have been busy with work and have not taken care of my children. Now that I’m retired and then the kids need it, it’s a good time for me to go by. In this way, I went there to take care of my daughter-in-law. My daughter-in-law used to say that my mother-in-law couldn't help me at home or anything.
It’s not that I can’t help, it’s because it’s inconvenient for me to go there in my hometown. Now that I have a chance, I hope I can change my daughter-in-law’s view of me. I don't want to be like this all the time. After coming here, I not only took care of my daughter-in-law. He also treats his children very well. My favorite thing to do when I get older is a child. I am accompanying my children every day. Although I have worked hard, I also feel that it is a kind of happiness.
Since I came here, the children's lives have been getting better and better. I didn't come at the beginning, and they had to do everything. I have to wait until my son gets off work to cook. I didn't have much time after get off work. I have to cook rice and make this again, and there is no time to rest. And after I come here, I can prepare the meal in advance, and they will have food when they come back.
And you don’t need your daughter-in-law to take care of your children, you have to take care of yourself. Just tell me what my daughter-in-law wants to eat and do. As long as I can help, I will definitely help. It took a while here. My relationship with my daughter-in-law has gradually improved. Although there is nothing to say, at least I won’t be indifferent. One morning, my daughter-in-law told me that something happened to my father.
Do you think I'm going back to take care of it or let him come here? I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to ask me about such an important thing. I told my daughter-in-law, "It's up to you, but I think it's better to let your dad come here."
Anyway, there are free rooms, and everyone can rely on each other here. What should you do if you go back to take care of your children? Children always miss their mother. And you are still in confinement now, so you can't run around. Then it would be nice for your father to come and live with us, your father is not young anymore.
Not long after, the in-laws came here. My in-laws originally lived alone. But something happened while walking a week ago. Let me say more here, you really can't be in a hurry when walking, especially the elderly. When you are old, just abide by traffic rules. Never learn from those young people that will see the lights coming out immediately and then cross the road quickly.
Don't grab it in the last few seconds. Let's wait until the next green light. Young people walk faster, so they can quickly pass by the opposite side. But the old man is old.The legs are not as nimble as young people. I didn't walk so fast. It is easy to happen, but you are not afraid of ten thousand, just be afraid of if you want.
This is how my in-laws do things. The red light was coming in three seconds, but he still ran out. Then a driver looked at it and immediately arrived at the green light, and then drove away quickly. No matter how fast the old man is, he can't be faster than the car. In this way, my in-laws had a car accident. Fortunately, it's not very serious, otherwise it would be a big trouble.
So the old man is patient when crossing the road and wait until the next time the green light is green. In just a few seconds, what are you worried about? Being anxious will only make things happen to you. If you are not afraid of ten thousand, just be afraid of if you are not. So you must pay attention to this matter. This is the case for my in-laws. Soon he came to me. I took care of him at the beginning. But not long after, he told me, "You always take care of me, I'm not used to it. Although my legs are not very convenient, I think I should rely on myself."
It means that you are gone one day, what should I do? I do everything myself, I can't do it. I'll ask you to help you when the time comes, just take good care of your daughter-in-law and grandson. My in-laws’ stubbornness reminds me of my husband. My husband used to be like this, he was too stubborn and stubborn. Is this how all men act?
It is obvious that I can’t take care of myself and I have to force myself to take care of myself. fell in front of me fell a lot. I really want to help, but my in-laws don't help me. Later I didn't know what happened. My in-laws actually slowly accepted my help. Maybe he really can't do it. I told him that there is no need to be so disgusted with me, we are all a family. Isn't it?
In-laws are getting better and better to me, and he is smiling more and more. I heard from my daughter that my in-laws didn’t like to laugh very much before, and they were always frowning. After I come here, I often tell jokes to me, and sometimes I even take the initiative to ask me out for fun. If others don’t know, they think he is my partner, or they think he is my husband. Otherwise, how could we get along so well? What’s more important is to stay together often.
We two went out for a walk together, sometimes we danced ballroom dance together , or we went out to dance square dance together or something. Moreover, my in-laws respect me very much. Whatever I say is what I think reminds me of my husband, who did this to me before. Let me just say that, my husband had no opinion when he was with me and listened to me in everything. Even if things were wrong, he would try his best to accommodate me. In fact, my husband is also an opinionated person, but he acted like a child in front of me.
In-laws are the same. It is very good to me, I can't eat so much sweeter things, he still gives it to me. I told him that I want to eat ice cream, and he would buy it for me if he costs more than 100 yuan. He is older than me and has retired. His pension is more than 2,000 yuan, but most of the money is spent on me.
I think it’s not good to face these things, but he told me that it’s okay that the child is giving me living expenses. The living expenses at home are given by the child. If I spend money on you, it will not affect the affairs at home. More importantly, I am willing to spend the money for you. Although you spent my money, I was also happy. Wasn't it? I was alone in the past. You have heard you think you talk about me many times.
I don’t want to be frowning either. No one is with me. My child and I are not from the same world. After I sent my child to school, I stayed at home alone. I don’t want to go anywhere in this kind of life. How can I not be frowning? Since you came here, my life has become more fun. Although sometimes it is very tiring, so sometimes it is quite annoying, but it makes me feel that I am still alive. The more I feel like I am, the more I want to be with you.
Of course I have nothing else to mean, I just want to stay with you. You are the child’s grandmother, I am the child’s grandfather, we are all a family, don’t you? I was moved by this sentence, and I hugged him instantly. Maybe, since my husband passed away, no man has treated me as well.
The first time there is the second time. He often comforts me when he is unhappy, and sometimes he will deliberately tell jokes to me or buy gifts to make me happy. This child seems to have a normal relationship between us, but I find that our relationship is developing slightly abnormally. I seem to have the feeling of thinking about being together, that kind of sweet love, no longer the kind of intimacy.
The more you do this, the more you avoid him, he asked me to go out to play, and I refused directly. Sometimes I didn’t even want to see him, and he asked me to come out for dinner, but I didn’t want to eat. Then my kids got it. My son-in-law told me that even if the food my father cooks is not to your liking, you should eat something. What if you get hungry?
You are so hungry. Wait a minute, my wife, your daughter, blame me, and you have to eat some more or less. If you really don’t want to eat, tell me, I’ll do it for you or you tell me what you want to eat, I’ll ask my dad to do it for you. If it really doesn't work, I can buy it for you, anyway, you can't be hungry. My son-in-law is also very nice to me. How could I refuse such a thing? I could only come out to have a thick face to eat. Gradually I found that he was interesting to me, otherwise he wouldn't have been so good to me.
One day I told him this matter tentatively. I told him that I have been here for a long time and have gradually become accustomed to life here. If I leave here in the future, I am afraid I will be reluctant to leave. Then he told me, if I can't bear to bear it, I'll stay here forever, we're all a family... I told him, forget it, a man confessed to me recently.
is actually a lie to him, I just want to see what his attitude is. Hearing someone confessed to me and he heard my decision, he immediately became jealous. Then I told me, I have been with you recently, which man confessed to you? You shouldn't be with others, okay?
Then I told him that if I don’t stay with others, I will only trouble you when I stay here. It’s better to be with others. If I’m with others, I won’t disturb your life. Although you say we are a family, I actually know in my heart that I am just an outsider after all.
So I'd better be with others. Don't know who it is. This matter is not important to you. As long as I live well, don't you think so? I was meant to be angry with him like this and see how he would object. But he told me, do you really want to find a partner?
If so, then you should be with me. Actually, I have liked you for a long time. I have always felt about you. I used to be restrained. But I can't control it now. I don’t want to lose you, I don’t want to miss you, I don’t care what others say about sleeping. You are the grandmother of the child. At that time, I thought it’s okay. You don’t have a husband anymore, and I don’t have a wife anymore. It’s because of these two points that we can be together, not to mention that you think you are interested in me, otherwise you wouldn’t have deliberately avoided this matter.
So let's be together, don't care what others say. Finally, I said my heart, and we were together like this. At the beginning, we wanted to secretly hide it from the child, but what I didn't expect was that the child was actually happier than me. They had known it long ago. And they agree that we are together. We will get married soon. The child calls me or grandma or grandpa.
Although we are married, it does not affect our lives. Instead, it makes our lives better and better at home, and our relationship is getting better and better. We are together, so my daughter is relieved, and my son-in-law, his son.After all, we were originally a family, and now we can be considered a wealth of people. Let’s have a lot of kinship.
Life is getting better and better, and children are relieved that we are together. If I are allowed to be with others, my daughter and my son-in-law will definitely be worried, afraid that I will be deceived by others. Then if my in-laws are with others, my daughter and son-in-law will not be at ease, and he is also afraid that his in-laws will be deceived by others. But if I were with me, it would be different. I was still a family, and it did not cause any losses to this family. Instead, it made this family stronger and stronger.
The more you feel like this, the happier you will be in it. I don’t regret making this decision at all. If others say whatever they like, I care so much about my mouth. If I care, I wouldn't have married my in-laws. Now together. We should cherish and live a good life. Is it necessary to care about so much?
The more you care about it, the more boring it is, isn’t that? Anyway, I don’t think it’s necessary to care what others say. The shoes belong to me, and only I know whether they are comfortable wearing them. Just like what I am now, I live a happy life with him, and the child is very relaxed in our lives. Isn’t this good? Is it necessary to care what others say? The mouth grows on others. The more you care, the more painful it is. There is no need to care. Just live your own life well. If it were you, you would do this.
Conclusion:
As long as you live a happy life, your mouth grows on others, and you can say whatever you like, we can't control it. This has been like this from ancient times to the present. As long as you can live a happy life, just like the article says, if others say you must be happy, then will you be happy? It is very likely that something unhappy is the matter, who did it right?
People say you are not happy. Then will you be unhappy? If you are wrong, happiness may not be in your own hands. You have to strive for it yourself and grasp it yourself. So there is no need to care about what others say, and you can say whatever you like, as long as you live a happy life.
I want to wear shoes, do people know if you feel comfortable wearing them? Only you know. As long as you live a happy life and feel comfortable wearing it, that's enough. Why bother with what others say? The mouth grows on others. There is no need for us to exhaust ourselves for what others say. So if it were me, I would do this too. Why can't you do it if you are a good thing for everyone? The wealth will not flow from outsiders. If you want to find a partner, he will also want to find a partner. If you like him, he will also like you. This is enough, right?
