Elders all want to live with their children, while young people all want to have their own space. When the two people's ideas collide, and if they cannot understand each other, they will definitely have conflicts. My parents-in-law came to live in the dowry room without invitation, and my wife gave an ultimatum: If your parents don’t leave, we will divorce. Every family has its own difficult sutras, let’s take a look at the story of this family.
Narrator: Ms. He/34 years old
When I was in love, I knew that my husband’s family was not in good condition, and I did not dislike him because he worked hard and made progress. I believe that he would definitely give me happiness through his own efforts. We had a relationship in college. During this period, I didn’t tell my parents about our relationship. We talked about marriage two years after graduation, and I took him home to meet his parents.
The parents have a good impression of their husband, but when they inquire about his family, their faces look a little ugly. My husband's family has two brothers, and his family is not in good condition. When asked about getting married, buying a house and holding a wedding, his husband stammered. When my parents turned around, they told me their opinions seriously, and they were not satisfied with this son-in-law.
The parents pointed out two things, first of all, their husbands are going to get married but they can’t afford to buy a wedding house, because they don’t have much savings, and they plan to do a simple wedding. I am the jewel in my parents' eyes, so they would not see me suffering such grievances. In addition, my husband’s family has two brothers, and such a family will definitely fight for profit in the future. Those who are easy to talk to are likely to suffer losses.
I understand the worries of my parents, and I also know that they are for my own good, but my husband and I had been in love for several years at that time, and no one can break up our relationship. In the end, my parents couldn't help but prepare a dowry house for me as much as possible, hoping that I would live a good life in the future. My husband and I got married. The new house was a dowry house given by my parents. My husband and I bought the car with a loan. There was no bride price, and my parents-in-law didn't pay a penny for the wedding.
When I was about to get married, my mother-in-law always cried with me and was poor. I didn’t care about it at that time, but I was considerate of the elderly. But when my brother-in-law got married, my parents-in-law helped buy a house and a car. Even if my sister-in-law asked for a bride price of 80,000 yuan, my parents-in-law would give the bride price to borrow money. Only then did I realize that no matter how bad the husband’s family is, my in-laws will have savings. But they don’t want to spend it on us, but leave all the money to my brother-in-law.
I finally saw the bias of my parents-in-law. Since my husband and I are married and our lives are pretty good, I am too lazy to care about these things, otherwise I am the one who is unhappy. My sister-in-law and I were two days apart from having a baby. As a result, my mother-in-law went to serve my sister-in-law during confinement without saying anything, and ignored me because my sister-in-law gave birth to a son and I gave birth to a daughter.
My mother-in-law once again made me see her bias, and I felt alienated from my parents-in-law. My parents-in-law helped take care of the children with my sister-in-law for three years, and I thought they would be in the old age of my brother-in-law's house. As a result, my grandson went to kindergarten, and my in-laws packed up their bags and moved into my dowry room without invitation.
When I came back from get off work, I found that my home was in a mess. Another room outside the master bedroom had been occupied by my parents-in-law. I thought I had planned to live in for a long time. I looked at my referendum to my husband, and he avoided my eyes. I smiled and asked my parents-in-law politely, asking why they came suddenly and how long they planned to live?
The mother-in-law speaks very straightforwardly and very domineeringly. She said that they have lived in their younger brother-in-law's family for three years, and they are all filial to them. Now it is our turn to take care of them and fulfill our obligation to support the elderly. My mother-in-law said this better than singing. They obviously helped take care of the children at my brother-in-law's house. Now that the children are in kindergarten, they come to our house to ask us to provide them with care to reduce the burden on my brother-in-law.
Anyway, no matter how much I persuaded it, it would be of no use to my parents-in-law. They just depend on us, and my husband believes that he is the eldest son and does have the obligation to support his parents. So, I became that ruthless person. After my in-laws lived in our house, they did not do housework and became a way to use me. They always said, "We are here to support our elderly and enjoy our happiness, not as nanny.""
After my in-laws came, the expenses at home increased. My in-laws had to eat and drink well. I always asked my husband to give him pocket money. Later, I learned that my in-laws secretly used all the money to subsidize my brother-in-law, which made me angry to death, but my husband told me not to make trouble. My in-laws didn't like to clean up, and made the house very dirty. Seeing that it was dirty and smelly everywhere, I really didn't want to go back to my home.
Our family only has two bedrooms and one living room. I plan to wait for my daughter to be a children's room for her when she is older. My mother-in-law lived for five years, and now my daughter is still slept with us when she is in elementary school. I can’t bear it anymore and asked my husband to invite her in-laws away, but he always perfunctorily told me, and the matter was delayed again and again.
A few days ago, I bought a box of milk for my daughter, and the next day I found that the milk was missing. It turned out that my mother-in-law had asked her to replenish her nephew. I was so angry that I had been angry when I heard it, and the anger that had been accumulated for many years suddenly broke out. I was reasonable with my in-laws first, but I started to argue. My husband came to persuade him to fight, and I was even more angry and gave him an ultimatum, "If your parents don’t leave, we will divorce! "
" really shocked my husband, and I wasn't angry, I drafted the divorce agreement for him to sign, which clearly stated that the dowry house was my real estate, and after the divorce, he and his parents would move out. Now my husband is cowardly and dare not continue to be his filial son, so he invited his in-laws out. Now the family is finally quiet, and I will not be able to deal with my in-laws and brother-in-law in the future.
