is actually very simple, just love yourself. Do you really think that you can't control your desire to contact and reconcile with each other because you love him? In fact, it is not at all, but you feel that after losing the other person, you will not be loved and will become nothing.
, let's imagine it. If you just broke up with your partner, your mother bought you a car without saying a word in order to comfort you. At the same time, the Party A signed the project you were in, and the boss directly promoted you to the project manager, and his monthly salary doubled.
At this time, you were excited and wondered whether to take out a loan to buy a suite. As a result, your mother called you again and said that the house in my hometown was being demolished. I will accompany you to the city center to see the suite tomorrow.
At this time, do you still have the mood to remember that you had just been broken up? You are drinking afternoon tea with your new lover who is a match. Do you still think of your ex-boyfriend and ex-girlfriend who have been with you for three or four years or five or six years?
I'm afraid that thinking about it for a second is a waste of your current simple life, right?
So you see, the source of this relationship is really inseparable from it. It is not how infatuated you are with your ex, but after breaking up, you cannot admit that you are not loved. Your decadence makes your life worse and worse. At this time, you are thinking, if he is still there, will everything not be like this?
So you try to get along with him, trying to turn the situation around and make him change his mind, but in fact, no one can save you except yourself.
And let me say something cruel to you, that is, your regret after breaking up with is not actually because of how much you love him, but because of comparison, that is, he becomes better after breaking up and can deserve a better alternative, but you can't.
So when you can't let go of someone, think more about what capital you have in yourself to win his respect? What personal values do that person face up to your existence? Is it just your own infatuation? This is simply unrealistic and has no backbone.
So after breaking up, how can you let go of your unwillingness and obsession? In fact, it is really not difficult. The best way is to love yourself well after you lose it.
jump out of the cage of love, don’t pin your hope of being loved on others, and don’t long to get love from others. Then make money, enhance personal value, and enrich your social circle. When you bravely accept changes, accept facts, and experience pain, you will be rewarded with a new beginning.
I know that some of you will definitely say it. Yuchen I understand what you said, but I just can't do it. What should I do? Why can't
? Because you are lazy, you would rather fantasize that he will look back one day than accept the fact of "lost", because people living in fantasy will always be the most comfortable, and you are too lazy to accept the facts, and you are even more lazy to improve yourself.
so you would rather live comfortably in the shadow of a broken heart, so that you don’t have to make any changes and even indulge yourself. But if you really do this, then you're done, and you won't even think that your ex can turn back in your life.
so, don't be lazy, and don't give up on yourself. If your ex gives up on you, it can only prove that you are not excellent enough. If you give up on yourself and even lose the last trace of self-esteem and self-love, it can only prove that you are unwilling to admit your value and meaning.
You have to make your ex look down on you, so that he has reason to convince himself to turn back.Do you understand?
Psychological test: Test the words your ex wants to say to you most
1. Do you quarrel over trivial matters when you are together?
Yes, I often feel very tired —2
rarely argues over trivial matters —2
Occasionally, but I can make up soon —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to reflect on yourself and is willing to correct your mistakes?
is —3
is not —4
3. Will TA take the initiative to tell you about your troubles?
often says - 5
doesn't say much - 4
4. Will you tell your parents about the process of your love?
, and often complain to my parents. —6
, occasionally, they will say it when they ask —5
, hardly say it, there is nothing to say —5
, there is nothing to say —5
5. How much energy are you willing to spend to get what you want?
Everything goes with the flow, it’s mine after all, it’s mine —7
Work hard, maybe you can succeed —6
Try your best, I have to get everything I want —B
6. Is it because a third party appeared?
Yes—A
No—7
7. Has the other party taken the initiative to contact you after breaking up?
Yes—D
No—Ch
