In this era of freedom of love, young people have long realized freedom of marriage and broken the past "parents' destiny and matchmaker's words".
However, there are still some areas where traditional concepts of marriage are deeply rooted, believing that marriage is the second life of a girl. In the marriage market, the sooner you get married, the more you have the right to choose.
Many parents hurriedly arrange blind dates when their children are just adults and have not completed their studies.
Especially girls who are not in college fall into anxiety about marriage early on.
Some parents have not derailed with society, but have not been able to fully integrate with the new era.
So they don’t understand that for the younger generation, early marriage is not the antidote to life, nor is it the only life trajectory.
Under the pressure exerted by parents, many young people are beginning to fall into a dilemma.
On one side is the closest parents, and on the other side is the happiness of the rest of your life.
Sometimes facing huge pressure to urge marriage, it seems that only compromise is the way out, but at the moment when you are about to give up, you feel strong unwillingness.
During the holidays, I want to go home and see it, but I am afraid of the inquiries of my aunts and aunts, and I am worried that I will face the word "blind date" every day.
Watch some peers get married and have children one after another, and there are always some urging voices around, constantly telling themselves that "it's time to get married."
It seems that no matter how hard you struggle, you can't get rid of the established destiny. This society seems to give young people more choices, but it deprives them of the right to say "no".
Therefore, more and more young people are deeply involved in "mental internal friction" because of being urged to get married.
Faced with the increasingly crambling social situation, young people are shouldering heavy work pressure and life pressure.
is still rushing for the slim future, and falls into the whirlpool of being urged to get married, both physically and mentally exhausted.
is different from their parents' generation. They have read more books, walked a further road, and seen a bigger world. The horizons of contemporary young people are much broader than those of the previous generation.
is the most tormenting collision of ideas that no one is willing to compromise.
Some time ago, a news broke into a hot search: the mother forced her daughter to marry her blind date partner for death, and finally the daughter sued the court.
Before getting married, my daughter had already expressed that she did not like blind dates and went to work in another place after she refused.
Who would have thought that the mother rushed to another place in person and insisted on forcibly taking her daughter home, and threatening her with various words.
"If you don't get married, I'll die for you!"
episodes have come to this point, and my daughter seems to have no choice.
The age when he should have worked hard for his career, he was shackled by family affection.
After marriage, the two have never had a husband and wife life, just like strangers under the same roof.
A marriage without any love is just a delay and consumption of each other.
After the news was exposed, many people asked: "Why is this happening in 2022?"
In fact, there are many such things in real life, but it is not common for mothers as extreme as in the news.
Many young people work in other places and are unwilling to go home because they are afraid of encountering similar situations.
The pressure of parents is far more exhausting than the risks in society.
When you are urged by your elders to get married, if you ask back: Why do you want to get married?
They will not tell you the value and significance of marriage, they will only say: Because everyone is married.
In their concept, there is no age to want to get married, only the age to get married.
So, getting married seems not to be your own choice, but a decision made by this society for you.
I don’t know when it started, but more and more people use the discriminatory language of “leftover women” to describe older unmarried women.
When you reach a certain age and have not gotten married, you will be labeled as a "leftover woman" by society.
But the title of "leftover woman" often ignores when to get married and who to marry, which is the independent choice of women.
Because this group of women is likely not left, but are working hard for their careers and dreams. Such people are already proud.
Shu Qi has a classic line in the movie "The Leftover is King", which expresses the voices of countless people:
"Single will die, and if you don't get married, you will be sentenced. This society has discriminated against me deeply enough. If you don't question the world, you will also discriminate against me with them."
Not sure whether you will compromise, but at least you still want to resist at the moment.
Many people will fall into the fear and anxiety of being urged to get married as long as they reach a certain age but are still single.
Public opinion pressure and social discrimination constantly urge young people to enter the palace of marriage as soon as possible, regardless of whether they are willing or not.
What is more meaningful is to change social traditions and formulate perfect social policies to support more family forms outside of marriage than to force them to get married and have children through public opinion pressure.
borrowed the words of a father in the movie "The Leftover is King", "She should not marry her parents, she should not listen to crazy words outside and think about getting married after listening too much.
She should think about marrying the person she likes, marrying with the one she likes, who grows old together, holding her head up, being very tough and looking forward to, as if she won."
I think this is the marriage that contemporary young people want.
The good medicine to alleviate the "mental anxiety" caused by young people being urged to get married is the understanding of parents and the tolerance of society.
Everyone says that there is more than one road in life. So on the road of marriage, can we return the right to choice to young people so that they can open up more possibilities for their lives?
If you in front of the screen is a member of the internal friction because of being urged to get married, I want to tell you: being single is not a sin, there is nothing wrong with late marriage, you are persistent and brave, serious and strong, you don’t have to worry, you don’t have to doubt yourself, there is no absolute path in life, nor absolute happiness.
Finally, I hope everyone can face life positively, optimistically and calmly regardless of whether they are married or not.
