Buying a house is a big event for a family, but many young people do not have such great financial strength and rely on their parents to help them.
What kind of attitude should my mother-in-law and her parents have when facing such a thing?
Today is about the experience of an netizens, Aunt Lan.
Aunt Lan is 49 years old and is a rural person. She manages an orchard with her husband. The climate has not been very good in recent years. Fruit trees have reduced yields, and labor, fertilizers, etc. are on the rise again, so the family's income has continued to decline.
Her son has been working outside in recent years and has not earned much. She asked her son to go home to help see the orchard several times, but her son was unwilling to go back to the countryside and would rather wander in a big city.
Last year, his son got married and his daughter-in-law met when he was working. He was from the north. When he got married, he asked for a bride price of 300,000 yuan. Aunt Lan has a two-story building in her own house, and the second floor is cleaned up to be a new house for her son.
After getting married, my son and daughter-in-law lived at home for a few months and went out to work.
Just last month, my son and daughter-in-law suddenly came back. It turned out that my daughter-in-law was pregnant and was about to wait for delivery at home.
Aunt Lan and his wife were very happy, but their son and daughter-in-law proposed the idea of buying a house in the city.
They said that if you have children, you should consider the children's education issues in the future. If you want to study in the city, you have to buy a house in the city as soon as possible.
They all planned to go to the city to study in kindergarten when the child was two or three years old. The son and daughter-in-law stopped working and found some work in the county town.
Aunt Lan thinks this plan is good, at least it is better than working outside, and he can't go home a few times a year. Besides, the county town is so close, she can often see her grandson taking care of her grandson.
So the family started looking at the houses and finally got a fancy to a new property in the center of the county town, 120 square meters, with a full payment of 850,000 yuan, and a down payment of about 300,000 yuan.
asked her son how much money she had. The son said he had no money. Only then did Aunt Lan realize that the couple had the idea to ask her to pay.
Aunt Lan thought that she could pay for her mother-in-law but couldn't pay all of it, so she decided to pay 200,000 yuan, and the remaining 100,000 yuan, she asked her daughter-in-law to borrow from her parents' home.
Aunt Lan believes that when she gave her a bride gift of 300,000 yuan, her daughter-in-law didn't get a penny back. Now she wants to buy a house, is it always okay to borrow 100,000 yuan?
said it was borrowing because she didn't want to care so much. In the future, if her son and daughter-in-law are rich, it would be okay to be willing to return it to her parents' home.
In Aunt Lan's heart, she was already thoughtful enough, and it was normal for her daughter-in-law to borrow money from her parents' home. Unexpectedly, her daughter-in-law got angry on the spot.
She burst into tears and said that she was unfilial to marry far away. Now she has to borrow money from her parents’ house to buy a house. She can’t afford to lose her face!
Aunt Lan was also angry: You got married here from afar, why did our in-laws have to help you? Aren't you a couple working outside? My old couple is tired and busy in the orchard. Now I have to give you 200,000 yuan. If you want to borrow 100,000 yuan, it won’t work?
The daughter-in-law is not showing any weakness: Aren’t you just caring about the bride price? Is it easy for my parents to raise me for more than 20 years? What's wrong with giving them 300,000?
Aunt Lan sneered: OK, if you think about your parents so much, then you can buy a house by yourself. It will be easier for me to raise a son?
The two mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were quarreling with each other. The son took Aunt Lan aside and begged her not to make things difficult for him. Anyway, the family can give out 300,000 yuan. Now that his wife insists on buying a house, he has no choice.
Seeing this incompetent son, Aunt Lan immediately didn't know what to say.
She was thinking, should I pay this money? What should I do if the mortgage payment and decoration payment in the future?
Dear netizens, did Aunt Lan do something wrong when you ask her daughter-in-law to borrow money from her parents’ home?
