Recently, "emotional value" has been frequently mentioned.
Many young people say, "The first element of choosing a partner is high emotional value. No matter how good the appearance, the good figure, and the strong ability, it is not as good as this person, which makes me feel happy."
A girl said, "Once upon a time, I thought money was the most important. My ex-boyfriend was very rich and was willing to spend money for me, but she was irritated and got angry at me at all. I was suffering every minute I stayed by his side. I didn't know when the bomb exploded, so I finally broke up. Now, I am extremely sure to find a man with high emotional value. I can make money by myself. When I go home, someone cares about my well-being. This is a good life."
What is emotional value?
The word comes from economics, refers to a person's ability to influence other people's emotions.
The more a person can bring peace, joy and stability to other people, the higher the emotional value of TA; a person always makes people feel angry, anxious and sad, the lower the emotional value of TA.
The more stable a person’s emotions are, the more happiness it can bring to people, and his emotional value will be higher.
Do you also like to be with such people:
- When you are wronged in work, TA does not analyze what you are wrong for you, but encourages listening and helps you relieve stress;
- When you are in a state of unstable mood, TA always steadily catches your emotions and will not be yours The anger is taken away, just like the Dinghai Shen Needle, helping you stabilize it;
- When you have differences and conflicts, you can stop and listen to your thoughts;
...
In fact, people with high emotional value are people who can maintain their emotions stability and always be peaceful and harmonious.
Now, we are increasingly able to understand the importance of emotional stability.
When the family gets along, everyone is kind, soft and smiling. Even if they are in a humble room and eat simple meals, they are full of happiness;
If everyone gets along, everyone is indifferent, disregarded, and even speaks ill-heartedly, no matter how luxurious food and mansion you are enjoying, I am afraid there will be no happiness.
Emotional cost is the biggest consumption in our life.
is like the story of " kicking the cat effect ":
The father was criticized by the boss in the company, and when he got home, he scolded the child who was jumping around the sofa. The child was furious and kicked the cat beside him. The cat fled to the street and happened to be a truck coming. The driver quickly avoided it, but injured the child on the roadside...
In fact, such stories are staged in various families every day.
Because of a person's bad emotions, they are transmitted layer by layer, and eventually they suffer a lot of people.
In a home, people with stable emotions are the ones who are the ones who are in the end.
There is such a couple: the husband is handsome and talented, and walking out is the focus of the crowd; the wife looks ordinary, not good at speaking, and has no special abilities; outside, when the husband talks freely and is very generous, she smiles quietly beside her.
looks like a couple who are so disagreeable, but their relationship is very good. Everyone is especially envious of their wife. She is so ordinary, but there is such an excellent man who is devoted to her.
At a party, my wife was not there, and someone half joked and told everyone’s thoughts to the man, but who knew he shook his head and said, “You are wrong. It’s my luck to marry her. She is the one who is the one who is in the family."
It turns out that their small family has encountered many twists and turns that outsiders don't know: when a man's career was just starting, he encountered a lot of indifference and difficulties. When he returned home, he felt very bad and exhausted physically and mentally.
But her emotions were always steady, not affected by his bad emotions at all. She did her own thing happily and accompanied him gently. She was like a gentle spring that extinguished the fire in his heart.
Later, his father fell seriously ill. He was about to collapse. It was her who was not panicked at all. He was always calm and quiet. He accompanied him through those painful years, as stable as the stabilizing needle at home.
No matter what happened, she could always live a good life, comfort him, and let him know that the world has not collapsed. He still has her and he still has home to go back to.
The man said, "As long as she is here, I know that everything can be passed; by her side, my heart is stable and I don't panic at all. "
History has come to this point, please think about it: is the person who provides the most emotional stability for your family?
Many people think that the person who makes the most money is the person who provides the most support at home.
is not actually Yes, a family will encounter many ups and downs, and material things are often the source of conflict. Far from here can make you have nothing all night.
At this time, the stabilizing needle at home is the person with the most stable emotions.
- TA will not complain about the world, but will turn your attention to the future;
- TA will not resent you Releasing to your family can resolve emotions by not hurting others and yourself;
- No matter how difficult or hard it is, TA can make yourself live well and make the people around you live well;
- TA is as reliable as a mountain and as tolerant as the sea.
The most fundamental thing to do these is to always be stable and be able to protect Maintain inner peace and harmony.
We always say love our parents, children, and husband (wife), so we start by managing our emotions, starting with gentle words, smiling faces, and warm embrace.
Blessed families, family members will definitely get along harmoniously and have a stable mood. html l2
Dr. Hailan pointed out that if anyone cannot handle his emotions well, he cannot live in the present and be in a calm state; he cannot treat himself well or care for others;
Even in his spare time, he will always be in a state of regret for the past, worry about the future, dissatisfied with today's emotions, and is deeply trapped in it; of course it is difficult to have the ability to resist setbacks.
Please remember: managing emotions is not a small matter, it is a big matter related to happiness, life and death.
So, how to manage emotions?
- Manage emotions is not an impulsive way to vent and attack others.
Because losing your temper is like throwing a bomb, you will lose your temper once It will make all the hard work before, and the building of love and trust you have worked hard to collapse instantly, and it becomes difficult and even impossible to gain love and trust again.
- manage emotions, not to endure, hold it in.
Although the brain tries every means to suppress or close our inner emotions, the body will faithfully help us store all of it. Emotion.
Aggrievance, depression, and pressure are all accumulated in the body. One day, it will turn into a storm to defeat our immune system.
And the immune system collapses, the body will collapse.
So, we need to learn to manage emotions scientifically and systematically, be friends of emotions, and learn to get along with emotions friendly.
21st century is the century of neuroscience and psychology. There are many scientific methods that can help us manage emotions quickly and effectively. We no longer need to endure, escape or vent negative emotions.
Now, everyone says that "emotional value" is altruistic. In fact, for ourselves, we must also be a person with high emotional value and the master of emotions, so that we can always spend every moment of our life in happiness and joy.
