If you want your boyfriend to hand over the salary card to you and take care of the money, you must first figure out what the man thinks about "paying the salary card".
There are three common mentality.
The first type of men are willing to hand over the money to girls.
Maybe his growth environment is also the mother who manages money, but he will think it is natural to give money to his wife.
or he thinks it is troublesome to manage money. He needs to keep accounts and analyze income and expenditure. He is not good at such trivial things, so girls are happy to take care of him.
When dating such men, you don’t need to think about how to get his salary card. If you two are in good condition, he will take the initiative to ask that you will worry about the money of our small family in the future.
The second type of men will also take the initiative to give you salary card.
They may not necessarily not want to manage their own money, but they like you very much. manages you with the same money as spending you with money, it is his way of expressing his likes and sincerity.
But except for these two situations, if you want a man’s salary card, you have to find a way to negotiate with him and play.
Then how much is your winning rate in negotiation and game?
This requires you to mention another more core question first. What is your winning criteria?
In other words, what is the ultimate goal of your salary card?
Open the skylight and say something bright. Most girls ask for their boyfriend’s salary card, mainly for financial management and to help him plan their income and expenditure. The ultimate goal of is not to care about his money, but the people who care about him.
Many emotional bloggers are very straightforward on this issue. If you hold all his money in your own hands, he will definitely be more "honest" to you and the probability of cheating is lower - you don't have money in your hands, so why should you use to pick up other girls?
If this is true, controlling a man's money can control his people and ensuring his loyalty. Then getting a man's salary card is indeed a necessity.
Those emotional bloggers, you must cultivate your feelings with him, let him trust you, and at the same time show your superb financial management ability, so that he feels that giving you money is more profitable than handing over to a trust institution, and brainwashing him more, so that he knows that you manage money for his own good and for this family's good...
You can try it.
But "If you want to get his salary card, you can take care of his money, and if you care about his money, you can take care of his people", is this conclusion really valid?
: What I mentioned at the beginning, perhaps part of the men who are willing to take the initiative to pay their salary cards.
Because of , he takes the initiative to give you the salary card, which means he is willing to be taken care of by you.
He is willing to accept that he has no money on hand and needs pocket money from you every month.
On the other hand, men who did not take the initiative to submit their salary card must have expected this consequence in advance and were unwilling to live such a life.
Why did you force him to ask him for it?
You will say, didn’t you teach me before? I worked hard to learn financial management, cultivate my feelings with him, and let him trust me?
I will highlight the key points again -
You are not trying to manage money, you are trying to manage people. You are very clear about this, and he is more clear about it.
He knows better than you. Everything you say and do is in the end, and you have to care about it. At the same time, he is unwilling to be controlled by you - at least he is unwilling to be controlled by you in this way. The trump card of
was revealed, how could he trust you?
is like having a relationship when you are in love. If both parties are willing, it will be a natural thing to do when the atmosphere comes.
Find a suitable opportunity and do it naturally in a private space. Men may be more proactive in form, but they can basically be sure that as long as they ask, the girl will definitely respond to him.
This is the perfect sex.
But if a man racks his brains and thinks about how I "routine" her and makes her willing to sleep with me. If she doesn't sleep with me, how should I please her, pester her, or even lure her...
That only means that both of them know very well in their hearts that girls are unwilling to do so. Even if they are reluctant, the experience cannot be very good.
More importantly, girls at this stage will also think that no matter how good a man is to her, it is not because he truly loves her, but just greed for her body.
She will not trust him, just like a man will not trust a woman who is determined to get financial power and then controls her own.
There may be some girls who will say, "I don't care about that much, I just want his money, even if I coerce my salary card, it doesn't matter. Anyway, the money is in my hands, so he has to be honest."
Let me not talk about how difficult it is to force his salary card. If you take a step back, even if you are going to be hard-working, can you really be sure to control his finances, and even his person?
Ask a heart-wrenching question, can you know 100% how much money your boyfriend has?
You said I know, his monthly salary is 20,000 yuan, and after tax, he will deduct five insurances and one fund 13 yuan. I just need to ask him to give me this 33 yuan every month.
OK, then do you know how much performance bonus he has overtime?
Do you know how much investment income it has and how much money it has in side business?
Do you know that his friend paid him back 50,000 yuan last month?
hits a man who is unwilling to take care of you from the bottom of his heart. Even if he barely gives you the salary card, he will definitely not tell you the extra income.
I know this too. All his cards are in my hands, and I can check how much money I earn at any time.
…even so.
But how can you control his expenditure 100%?
He asked you for 5,000 yuan and said he wanted to give gifts to his leader. In fact, he only spent 3,000 yuan and privately hid 2,000 yuan of private money. How do you know?
Do you have to look at his bills and check his invoices one by one?
It’s like an anti-corruption storm. Don’t you feel embarrassed or embarrassed?
Don’t you think this is really hurting your feelings and destroying your trust?
The relationship and trust have been destroyed. Will he continue to take care of your salary card? The money is earned by himself, and the productivity is on his side. He can get the card back at any time, right?
. It is a very realistic problem to control men's money, so what I listed are very real. In the final analysis, the situations that have happened around me only want to explain one thing:
The sense of security can be given by myself or by others, but it cannot be asked for it.
power is even more.
Forcibly ask others that the power they want is not power, because the person who gives you power can take it back at any time, and it is even more impossible for you to restrict the person who empowers you because of this.
The financial power in the family is of course no exception.
So, I understand that girls want to feel safe and want to "control" their partner and make them more loyal to you.
I also agree. If a man takes the initiative to give you his salary card, it is not a bad thing that you can control his money.
But I do not support girls who insist on the so-called "financial power" when men are unwilling to take the initiative to take the initiative to manage money for you.
is not for anything else, it just has no substantial effect, and the sense of security is placed on this matter, and the situation is not enough.
is not big enough, and only those who can see the immediate interests will feel that I will get my salary card first and control his money.Girls whose pattern is opened with
will look at this problem from a higher dimension:
What I want is a sense of security. Since he does not take the initiative to control me, what other ways can control him and make him feel safe?
If you have to manage money to have a sense of security, then I must at least realize the two situations at the beginning of the article, "a man takes the initiative to manage the money" situation.
Filter a man who should let girls take care of money from the bottom of their hearts, or find a man who likes me very much and is afraid of losing me, so he would rather exchange financial power for me with me.
Choice is more important than hard work.
even think a little further, why do you have to get a sense of security from men? I have to rack my brains to care about him?
Can it turn around, make him feel insecure and make him find ways to worry about me?
It’s like if you really find a man who likes you very much and takes the initiative to give your life and life, then your sense of security does not need to be obtained by managing money at all.
Or, by this time, you shouldn't be the one who feels insecure at all.
