Ask you a question:
In interpersonal communication, which aspect should you pay the most attention to others?
Some people may say: of course it is education, family background, wealth, etc.
In fact, these are not the most important things. In interpersonal communication, what we should pay most attention to is the true face of this person, his character, and his principles of dealing with people.
No matter how rich or high a person has a high status, his character has great problems. Then, you will be easily hurt in the process of dating him.
Therefore, today, we will share 5 scheming tricks to know people, teaching you to see through a person’s true face at a glance.
01 routine 1: See what a person’s closest friend is
If you want to see a person’s true face, you may not be able to find the answer from his words and deeds. Because, everyone can disguise themselves.
However, there is one thing you must remember clearly:
What does a person look like? You can often know the closest people around him.
As the old saying goes:
Birds of a feather flock together, and creatures are divided into groups.
- We often meet people like this, who are very rich, drive a luxury car and live in a luxury house, with a glamorous appearance and very tall. However, he was surrounded by some idle people from society or gangsters in the city. Then, it means that such a person was once a socially illegitimate person, and may be a nouveau riche. Although he is rich and powerful, his spiritual level must not be high.
- Some people dress simply and have average living conditions, but they are all in contact with well-known scholars and entrepreneurs. Although such a person seems simple on the outside, he has a very rich spiritual world and is also a person with a relatively high level. If you come into contact with such people, you will see a different world and get unexpected wealth.
02 Routine 2: See a person's attitude towards people around him
There is such a story:
Guiguzi has two apprentices, one is called Pang Juan , and the other is called Sun Bin . After the two apprentices learned the art of war, the senior brother Pang Juan came out of the mountain first and went to Wei State to become a general.
Pang Juan wrote a letter, inviting his junior brother Sun Bin to plan a great cause with him. But Master Guiguzi disagreed. The reason is very simple:
In Pang Juanzhong's letter, he said how to invite you to Wei State, but he did not mention a word of the master, not even a greeting!
In fact, Guiguzi is implying that Sun Bin: Pang Juan is a villain who seeks strength and seeks profit and avoids harm, and is not worthy of close friends. Being with such a person will sooner or later harm yourself due to conflicts of interest. However, Sun Bin did not believe it. He resolutely went to Wei State, but not long after, he was persecuted by Pang Juan.
Therefore, in interpersonal communication, when you want to know a person’s true face, you should not only look at his attitude towards you, but also his attitude towards others around you! Even though he is very kind to you and makes you feel comfortable, his attitude towards others is very cold and stiff. Then, you must be alert. You must be more sensible when interacting with such people!
03 routine 3: See how a person introduces others
When a person introduces others, you can often see what his true concern is.
- For example, when a friend introduces someone to you, he is used to saying: This is the big boss of a certain company, this is the general manager of a certain listed company. Last year, his operation made several hundred million, etc. That means that your friend values money in interpersonal communication.
- For example, when a friend introduces someone, he is used to saying: This is the director of a certain bureau, and that is the director of a certain department. That means that this person values reputation and status more.
- For example, when a friend introduces someone, he says: This is a very good friend of mine. He has been with me for more than ten years and has helped me, etc.This shows that your friend pays great attention to friendship and feelings!
Therefore, when a person opens his or her words to introduce others, they often reflect his deep concern in his heart. In this way, you can use this basis to judge how you should interact.
04 routine 4: See how a person posts to Moments
Moments Circle is the most commonly used social method for everyone. The circle of friends seems simple, but to a certain extent, it can also reflect a person's inner world and true thoughts.
- A person always posts words like "focus on friendship and feelings", which does not mean that he is a person who values feelings. If, in life, people who often talk about "feelings" can be worthy of "feelings" in their hearts? People like this often do not value feelings, but just want to post on WeChat Moments to gain a reputation of "focusing on feelings".
- Some people always post photos of traveling abroad, buying brand-name bags, luxury houses and luxury cars. There is no doubt that this is a kind of show-off. In fact, there is nothing wrong with showing off your wealth, but everyone knows that showing off your wealth will make others feel uncomfortable. Such people do not care about other people's feelings and have to do things against the wind. It shows that he doesn't care much about his friends' feelings and is a selfish person.
- There is also a kind of friend you have never seen him post on Moments. It’s not that he forgot, but that such people are unwilling to show themselves and share themselves. Such friends seem to be cold, but in fact they are very passionate inside. If you can break the "discrepancy" between you, maybe if he can sincerely interact with you, you will become good friends.
05 Routine 5: Look at a person's attitude towards the poor
A person's attitude towards the poor can also see a person's true face.
- When a person is arrogant and rude to the poor, or to the lower level of the self, he is arrogant and rude, or even contemptuous and disregardless. This shows that when such people interact with others, they value interests and power more. Therefore, when such a person is very modest and modest to you, your mind must be clear. He does not value you as a person, but your status and power. If, one day, you are in a downfall and the first person to take the blame is such a person.
- However, if some people are very kind and low-key to the poor or those who are lower than themselves, especially their poor relatives and old friends. Then, it means that such people value feelings more and care more about friendship. When interacting with such a person, you must have very good character, otherwise the other party will not be able to treat each other sincerely. Moreover, the longer you interact with such a person, the more solid your emotional foundation. Not only do you gain a friendship, but more importantly, you can gain a support and sustenance.
