With the development of the times, people have gradually become more concerned about material conditions when choosing a partner. When looking for a partner, they always consider the other party’s economic ability. If the other party’s economic ability meets their own requirements, then the two people will continue to talk.
Although this is more materialistic, it is also considered to be a preparation for a better marriage life. After all, no matter how good the relationship between two people is, if there is no material foundation, then this relationship may eventually be defeated by reality.
Xiao Zuo has been graduating for several years. Because of work problems, he did not pay too much attention to his own marriage problems, which made Xiao Zuo's parents very anxious.
So, Xiaozuo's parents often ask someone to introduce their partner to Xiaozuo, hoping that their children can get married early and give birth to a fat boy for themselves.
On this day, the matchmaker arranged two blind dates for Xiao Zuo, one of whom was a people's teacher, with a monthly salary of about 3,000 yuan.
and the other one is a salesperson. Because he is a business position, his salary is also very high, and he can get a salary of about 20,000 yuan every month. After a preliminary understanding and understanding, both of them expressed satisfaction with Xiao Zuo, and Xiao Zuo was also very satisfied with one of them.
Do everyone think that Xiao Zuo will choose a salesperson with higher salary? But sorry, Xiao Zuo finally chose the People's Teacher with a salary of only 3,000 yuan.
Why didn’t Xiao Zuo choose a salesperson with a high salary but a people’s teacher with a small salary?
The nature of the woman’s work may affect family life
The nature of the work of the people’s teachers is very simple, and they go to work on time and get off work on time. Due to the influence of various national education policies, it is difficult for teachers to work overtime now.
Therefore, people's teachers have relatively regular work, have strong get off work boundaries, can better arrange family life and work, and will not affect family life due to work problems.
And, teachers still have winter and summer vacations, which is a holiday that all professions are very envious. Teachers can relax themselves and take care of their families during the winter and summer vacations. This kind of family advantage cannot be bought by a high salary.
Salesmen are different. Salesmen belong to business positions, and business positions look at performance. Therefore, salesmen usually do not have a specific concept of time when working. As long as the business needs, salesmen will enter the work state.
For example, requires business trips to work, socializes after get off work , etc. Because 's working environment is complex, working hours are uncertain, etc., may affect family life , and sometimes even endanger the integrity of the family due to certain things.
In families, a higher salary of the woman is not necessarily a good thing
Although our developing society pays more attention to material life, if one of the couples has a higher salary and this party is still the woman, it is likely to lead to constant internal conflicts within the family.
A friend was like this before. His name was Xiaoli. After graduating from college, he married Xiaozhu, a very enterprising wife. When he first got married, the relationship between the two was still very good, but every few years, the two were close to divorce. The reason why their relationship broke down was actually that Xiaozhu’s salary was 15,000 yuan, but Xiaoli’s salary was only 5,000 yuan.
Xiaozhu feels that she has a high salary and has a status at home, so she usually lets Xiaoli do housework, pick up children, etc., and the more she looks at Xiaoli, the more she dislikes her. Although Xiaoli has been very tolerant of Xiaozhu's behavior, Xiaozhu has become a habit of "seeking trouble for nothing", and the relationship between the two has broken down. If it weren't for their children, Xiaoli would have divorced Xiaozhu long ago.
Women are more emotional. Although equality between men and women is now advocated, many women still think that their husbands should make more money than themselves, otherwise they will be incompetent. Therefore, it may not be a good thing for the woman to have a high salary after marriage.
The benign impact of teachers' families on children is more prominent
If the mother is a teacher, the child will benefit more in all aspects, especially the various educational policies implemented by the country, such as prohibiting off-campus cultural course cram schools, etc. Other children have problems they don’t know after school, so they can only wait for the next day to ask the teacher, but the teacher’s children can directly ask the parents. This is the most prominent educational convenience.
Of course, the benefits of parents being teachers are more than that. Generally, teachers have a strong cultural atmosphere, are more orderly and are more attentive to their families, so the family atmosphere is usually very good.
Having a lover as a teacher will make the family more harmonious and the children can also get a better learning environment. Teachers and parents are also familiar with all aspects such as education, education policies, and educational resources, so it is very beneficial to the development of children.
But salesmen's families are different. Salesmen often need to work overtime and travel on business , which may cause the family where the child is located to become a "single-parent family". This is very unfavorable for the growth of children. The healthy growth of children requires long-term care by parents. The absence of either party will lead to problems such as the lack of personality of children.
In addition, salesmen are generally very tired from work. Even after returning home, they rarely have the energy to accompany their children.
and salesperson positions are easy to have certain negative emotions at work. Due to the nature of the work, salespersons cannot vent this emotion. This may also lead to the parents of salespersons being often excited. After returning home, they may accidentally treat their children as "emotional trash cans", which is very bad for the healthy development of their children.
It is because of the above reasons that Xiao Zuo finally chose the people's teacher rather than the salesperson.
Conclusion
Although modern marriages pay more attention to material conditions, men are generally more rational, so when choosing a partner, they are more likely to gather various factors for long-term considerations, rather than just looking at the woman’s salary.
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