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Hugo " Notre Dame Cathedral ": " This is the sun at dusk, but we regard it as the dawn of dawn. "
There are some things in life, and there are always some people who can see the truth at a glance, while others are always confused and think that what they see is the truth.
For example, those in life who are accustomed to distorting right and wrong, even if the mistakes are obvious, even if they are about to fail, they still show an inexplicable sense of superiority.
people can be divided into two categories: one is to make mistakes, deliberately reverse right and wrong, and never admit defeat, always thinking that if you know each other, you will be looked down upon by others, so that you can protect your humble self-esteem in a way that deceives others. The other is that they cannot recognize their own problems at all. They swear to speak from the bottom of their hearts and swear to make mistakes to the end.
No one is qualified to judge other people's lives for no reason, but if the above people have grudges and hatreds with you, you are qualified to judge them. It is no exaggeration to point out their mistakes, so that you can learn from your lessons and never let yourself repeat the same mistakes.
For example, some women have suffered losses in marriage, and the losses they suffer are given by their husband’s family. She is qualified to judge their husband’s family. When necessary, they should also point out the ignorance of their husband’s family .
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Lanlan has suffered losses in her marriage. From her own perspective, she felt that it was not worthwhile to waste her youth for a man who was unmotivated. Trying to get along well with an unreasonable mother-in-law is also a waste of life.
Some people say that if a slap cannot be slapped, after a woman divorces, it is a selfish behavior. Promoting the argument that a man makes mistakes will only make him look very depreciated. This view of
is meaningless because marriage does not allow outsiders to intervene. When a couple divorces, they only have the final say on who is right and who is wrong. The boundaries of right and wrong in this world are blurred. From a subjective perspective, no one will think that they have problems and will push the problem to the other party .
If I talk to her ex-husband when Lanlan complains about her ex-husband in front of me, it would seem that I am not a good person. All I could do was listen to her because she was involved in that marriage, and no matter how she defined it, she was not wrong.
If you take the heart as the standard and look at her marriage with her ex-husband, it is not difficult to find that the problems with her ex-husband and mother-in-law are more serious, because they hurt her first, and she just rose up to resist. Case like
is very suitable for a metaphor from a legal perspective: Zhang San beat Li Si for no reason, and Li Si resisted, who is right and who is wrong?
Lan Lan married into her husband's family normally. She did nothing wrong but was bullied. It must be the fault of her husband's family. Her resistance is a just act, and as long as she does not defend too much, it is not too much .
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She and her in-laws will never be a member of the same family. Her ex-husband’s problem of not seeking motivation cannot be corrected, and her mother-in-law and mother-in-law cannot quit because of her child’s superiority. What can she do? Since she has realized that she will suffer if she stays, she will not kneel down to thank her for her family and bully her, right?
She only has the path of divorce, which is much easier than delusional change of her mother-in-law and ex-husband.
However, the grudge between her and her mother-in-law did not end because of the divorce.
The kind of ignorant but unaware of it, and likes to mess around, she doesn't think she is wrong if she makes a mistake. After she is resisted, she will try every means to take revenge on the other party. What her mother-in-law didn't know was that the revenge in this situation would only make her feel even less respectful, because she invisibly cultivated a person who dared to resist.
Lan Lan said: " Her son is not motivated. Not only does he not make money, he always cheats the family's money, and is also infected with many bad habits. My mother-in-law turned a blind eye to all this. After the divorce, in order to stimulate me, she spread the skills everywhere and said that his son had the ability and married a rich daughter again, which was ten thousand times better than me. She deliberately let this rumor reach my ears and wanted to continue to torture me. Although I did not point out her hypocrisy, I expose her for her own business. The illusory soap bubble I said they will divorce sooner or later, this is the truth. ”
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5 Lanlan said she would never believe that her ex-husband could marry a rich girl. She admitted that she had a gap with a rich girl, but even a man like her who is not favored by ordinary people, a rich girl would not be able to favor, otherwise she would definitely be a fake rich girl.
There are four reasons why she inferred this way: One is that the ex-husband does not seek motivation; the second is that the ex-husband does not have a deposit; the third is that he has bad habits; the fourth is that he has divorced and has accomplished nothing .
She could see through the truth at a glance and knew that he was just the sun at dusk, and it was definitely not the dawn that my mother-in-law thought. In this way, she can learn from the truth, while her mother-in-law has been deceiving herself. Even if she doesn't expose her, she will sooner or later shoot herself in the foot.
Life is just like this. No one can fully see through the truth of life, and there is no need to fully see through the truth of life. It is enough to see through the truth that should be seen through the most, so that you can avoid risks. And those who cannot even see through the truth of life that should be seen through the most will only lose themselves in their mistakes and are helpless.
