Although love is beautiful and is also exciting and yearning, it is not easy to talk about love to get married. After all, there are betrothal gifts and houses that are blocking the marriage. If you have each other in your heart and both families can consider the future of your children, then marriage will naturally not be a problem.
I am afraid that some families are too selfish and regard marriage as a transaction. For example, the man's family is afraid of losing money, so he thinks to give less, and the woman's family wants to ask for more, but the woman's family turns a big event in her children's life into a business, and in the end he will only lose a good marriage.
Yang Hao and Xu Li are college classmates. Since their hometown is in the same place and in the same club, the two quickly became familiar with each other and finally got together. The love during college is carefree and there is no need to consider too many realistic issues, and their relationship is getting deeper and deeper.
After graduation, Yang Hao and Xu Li discussed it and decided to go back to their hometown to develop. The consumption level is not high and the competitive pressure is not great. It is easier to buy a house in the future. Three years after the two graduated, Yang Hao also had some savings. With the help of his parents, he thought that it would be enough to pay the down payment to buy a small house, so he decided to go to his girlfriend's house to propose marriage.
On this day, Yang Hao bought a lot of gifts to take with him. Xu Li's parents were very satisfied with him, and his daughter was also at the age of marriage, so she did not object to this marriage. Afterwards, Xu Li told her boyfriend about her parents' recognition. Both of them were very happy and were full of infinite yearning for a happy life in the future.
Only two days later, the mother pulled Xu Li to the room and said: Daughter, you also know the conditions of our family. Your brother will get married at that time, and buying a house will cost a lot of money, so you go and tell Yang Hao that as long as the bride gift is given 300,000 yuan, we will agree to this marriage. After saying that, he left directly, not giving Xu Li a chance to object.
Xu Li was also very distressed. She knew how stubborn her mother was. Once the decision was decided, it would not change again. So she could only hope that her boyfriend could make compromises for her. But she didn't know how to speak up all this. It was not until half a month later that Yang Hao realized something was wrong. She was about to get married, but her girlfriend was frowning all day long and became much colder to herself. She even loved to send messages and always refused to meet her.
The relationship between the two was also affected, so Yang Hao had to ask Xu Li patiently. Xu Li also knew that these things were to be faced after all, and escaping would not solve the problem, so he said to him: If my mother said that if you want to marry me, your family would have to prepare a 300,000 yuan betrothal gift. Yang Hao was stunned and had to say: You know my family's conditions. If you buy a house, you will almost empty your savings. You will have to buy a car and a series of things that need to be prepared at the wedding. How could you give another 300,000 yuan betrothal gift?
After hearing this, Xu Li said helplessly: I told my mother about your family’s situation and these things. She still insisted on asking for a 300,000 yuan bride price before agreeing to our marriage. When the boyfriend was silent, he would casually say: Your mother asked for this bride price, isn’t it to pave the way for your brother’s future marriage? After hearing this, Xu Li didn't dare to look at his eyes or respond. Now Yang Hao understood completely and turned around and left.
Later, the two quarreled a lot about this, and Yang Hao also made compromises. He originally decided to give the bride gift of 60,000 yuan, so he tried to raise 100,000 yuan, but the woman's family still disagreed, and his girlfriend insisted that if you are really good to me and really want to marry me, then you have to meet my family's requirements. At the end of the fight, Yang Hao sneered and replied: It's impossible, I want to use my bride gift to buy a house for your brother, so we should break up. In the end, the two parted in disagreement and ended their relationship.
Johnson once said: Those who marry only for money are extremely evil; those who marry only for love are extremely foolish. Marriage is not a joke, and feelings cannot be measured by money. If you treat marriage as a business and just want to get more benefits from it, even if you force yourself to get married, your relationship will deteriorate. The gap before marriage will become the fuse for frequent quarrels after marriage. Moreover, it is difficult for two people with different values to spend the rest of their lives together. #Marriage##Emotion##Emotional Firm#
