Some people say that all marriages are wrong choices.
Because, marrying far away is a desperate bet, and the chance of winning is not great; marrying far away is even a journey without a return date, and nine out of ten are sad.
In fact, everyone will face many choices, big and small, and every choice has a price.
As long as you have the courage to bear the price of choice, then your choice is not about right or wrong. The same is true for
to marry far away.
Some people say that missing is the price of choosing to marry far away.
Just as Bai Juyi wrote in "Night Rain": "I have something to miss people, separated from a distant hometown. What I feel is in deep heart. The hometown cannot be far away, and I cannot look at it all day long. The intestine cannot be understood deeply, and I cannot think about it all night."
When a woman puts on a phoenix crown and a robe, she married a foreign land. From then on, her hometown has become a distant place, and her parents can only look at it... Missing will spread in every sleepless night.
Some people say that misfortune is the price of choosing to marry far away.
Because a woman married far away is a stranger in front of her, she has no backing behind her, she is not adapted to the local environment, she is excluded, she cannot understand dialects, her in-laws' families, and she cannot bear the grievances...
The only reliance is love, and love is the most unreliable thing in this world. Therefore, most women who marry far away are unfortunate.
Some people also say that the price of choosing to marry far away is loneliness... In fact, the price of choosing to marry far away is far more than this.
01. The only daughter in the family
Netizen Ye Lan (pseudonym) also married far away. She was born in the central western city and was the only daughter in her family. Her parents regarded her as the pearl in her hand. She trained her to play the piano and dance since she was a child, so she could go to college and graduate school.
During college, Ye Lan met her current husband. Her husband was a second-tier provincial capital in the south. The relationship between the two developed rapidly, and soon became unshakable and difficult to part with each other, and decided to stay together for life. After graduating from the master's degree, Ye Lan took her husband home to meet her parents. She and her husband are in a good match, and all the conditions are very matched. The biggest problem is distance.
Parents also believe that the two families are too far apart, and they firmly disagree with Ye Lan's marriage far away.
Ye Lan thought at the time that distance was not a problem at all, after all, transportation was becoming more and more convenient to travel. Moreover, as long as you work hard to make more money, you can even bring your parents over to live with you in the future.
The parents were very thoughtful and repeatedly dissuaded, saying that she was simple-minded and did not understand the worldly ways. She had no idea how much the price of choosing to marry far away. She also said that most marriages that were married far away were unfortunate...
Ye Lan felt that whether the marriage was happy was mainly based on management, which had a lot to do with personal ability, mentality, and luck, and had nothing to do with whether she married far away.
Parents said that even if you are very capable and have no work pressure or financial burden; even if you are lucky enough, your husband is very nice to you after marriage, and you don’t have to worry about emotional problems, and your in-laws are reasonable and don’t have to worry about conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Even if you live everything well, there is no time to quarrel, cold war, or depression and want to escape. However, you still miss home, your parents, the mountains and waters of your hometown, or a snack bar on the corner of the street...
There are still many things, but your parents want to say something but stop.
02. Marrying far away for 10 years
Ye Lan insists on her choice, and she believes she can bear the price of her choice. However, after 10 years of marriage, her mother's text message at 5 a.m. made her truly see the price of choosing to marry far away.
When I first got married, Ye Lan often went back to her parents' home, at least four or five trips a year, leaving in the morning and arriving in the afternoon. Later, when she had a child, life became busy. In addition, the child was young and it was inconvenient to get in contact, so she gradually returned home less and less.
However, her in-laws are very considerate of her mood. Every year on the second day of the Lunar New Year, she and her husband will take their children back to spend the New Year with their parents.
Later, Erbao was born and it became more difficult to return to his parents' home.
On the eve of this year's Mid-Autumn Festival, Ye Lan and her mother chatted with her video.
Mother asked her if she would go back on the Mid-Autumn Festival? Because the second baby has not recovered from the cold, Ye Lan plans to go back on National Day. My mother was a little disappointed and said that her father had been talking about her recently and would definitely come back if she had time for National Day.
On the night of the Mid-Autumn Festival, Ye Lan dreamed that she went back to her parents' home but couldn't find her home. When she saw her father walking in front, she wanted to chase after her, but she couldn't catch up. She screamed in anxiety.
After waking up the next day, Ye Lan was worried about calling her mother, and her mother told her that everything was fine at home.
Who knew that as National Day approached, my mother sent her a text message at 5 a.m. telling her that her father had a sudden myocardial infarction and that the situation was not optimistic.
03. Mother's text message
In fact, my father was admitted to the hospital at around 2 a.m., and my mother wanted to tell her again at dawn. Later, seeing the situation was urgent, she was worried that she would not see her for the last time, so she sent a text message to notify her.
Since there is no suitable flight, Ye Lan can choose the fastest way to go home, which is to take the 7-hour high-speed train. However, my father could no longer hold on.
On the train, my mother called a video call.
Mother said that his father had some consciousness and kept chanting her nickname... Ye Lan looked at her father in the video, begging hard, wait for me, I'll come back to see you, I'll arrive soon...
Along the way, Ye Lan was anxious and crying, and even the elder sister sitting next to her was wiping her tears when she saw it.
Before Ye Lan could arrive at the hospital, her mother's phone number came again - her father left.
Ye Lan was weak at that time. It was her husband who helped her to her father's bed. She held her father's hand, but she could no longer feel her father's warmth.
Later, my father became a small box. The person who called half a month ago, who would talk, laugh, pretend to be angry, and say, "My little cotton jacket was worn away by someone." There will never be any more.
Ye Lan did not make a loud sad voice, but she felt extremely regretful and blamed herself, hated herself why she didn't go home on the Mid-Autumn Festival?
04. Seeing the price of choice
After my father left, Ye Lan lived with her mother at home for half a month.
Later, after Ye Lan's repeated persuasion, her mother agreed to go back with her and live with her two grandchildren for a while.
Ye Lan knew that her mother liked flowers and plants, so she specially rented a house with a yard, and the yard was full of flowers and plants.
However, Ye Lan soon discovered that her mother was not happy. This is not my mother's home, and my mother's roots are not here.
The day when her mother was sent away, Ye Lan cried bitterly. Thinking of her father's words, now she finally sees the price of choosing to marry far away.
After choosing to marry far away, she could not accompany her parents, be happy and keep filial piety. Even her father's last journey was not able to protect her. The biggest debt in life was this.
Ye Lan knows that the debts and regrets for her parents will always be engraved deep in her heart and become a pain that she will never be able to endure in her life. This is the price of choosing to marry far away.
Every choice comes with a price.
When you choose to marry far away, someone is destined to be sad.
Because every girl who marrys far away is the treasure lost by her parents.
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