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No one can guarantee that their relationship will never deteriorate. Changes are inevitable. All we can do is to do our best to control it. Some situations cannot be completely changed after all.
When people get along with each other, the distance of the relationship will change with the changes in emotions.
If the relationship between each other gradually disappears under the long-term wear, it will inevitably be reflected in the process of daily getting along.
"Seriously Start with You" says: "Disgust is a kind of rejection, and disgust is a kind of relationship that cannot be reunited for a long time." Once people develop disgust, the previous emotions will disappear, and only cold eyes will be replaced.
One person likes another and can’t hide it, and it’s also impossible to hide it if he dislikes another person.
In life, people who dislike you usually don’t give you a good face. Sometimes they will be misunderstood that it is the other person’s personality, but in fact it is a disgust towards you, don’t care.
People who dislike you will have the following 4 manifestations, so it is necessary to check it yourself.
is extremely dissatisfied with you, and you always find faults
people are not perfect. If you want to find faults, everyone has a lot of them. The so-called "fault" is a flaw that is not too serious. It can also be said that this bad characteristic does not actually affect the overall situation.
Normal people will choose to turn a blind eye to other people’s minor problems, which is tolerance and respect.
There is another saying: "The lover has a look of Xi Shi." In the eyes of those who truly care about you and value you, everything you have is just right and you can't find any fault.
If there is someone around you who can pick a problem from you at any time, it can only explain one problem, that is, he is extremely dissatisfied with you.
people will only show nitpicking and meanness in people they don’t like or even hate.
Life is not long. You must stay away from the person who is too picky about you as soon as possible. Sometimes others pick on you not because you are not doing well enough, but because the other party dislikes you from the bottom of your heart.
There is no negotiation and only notification
Do you know what respect is?
To put it simply, respect means patient communication and listening carefully. It means respect to everything.
If someone around you does not discuss anything related to you, you will not be willing to follow your advice, and will only give you instructions after making arbitrary decisions. If this person is not a special identity of a direct leader or other superior and subordinate, it will only mean that the other party does not take you seriously at all.
Under normal circumstances, interactions between people should be equal, especially emotional communication and exchange of opinions between each other. This is a common pattern of getting along between family and friends.
There is no negotiation and only notifications. It is not impossible to have any situation, but it depends on the identity of the other party.
Some people's relationship is the relationship between commands and execution, while most people's relationships should be equal. frequently appears in imperative notifications in relationships that should have been equal, which means that the relationship has undergone qualitative changes.
Stay away from the person who has no reasonable title but always gives orders to you. The other party will either look down on you or despise you.
keeps refuting, singing the opposite tune with you
From a psychological point of view, a person always likes to sing the opposite tune means that the person has a strong rebellious psychology.
This explains personal problems without targeting anyone, but if this person's attitude towards others is normal and only shows a strong "reversal psychology" against you, it means that the rebuttal is not the other party's behavioral characteristics, but the personal emotions towards you.
There are two situations in life where the opposite tune is sing. One is to attract your attention, and then every sentence is to refute every sentence; the other is to simply not be disgusted with you, so maliciously cause chaos.
If there are always people who sing opposite to you, you need to reflect on yourself carefully and carefully check which of your own views or behaviors are not reasonable. If only someone sings the opposite tune with you, it is very likely that the other party is very dissatisfied with you.
When you don’t find any problems after self-reflection, don’t rush to argue with it, learn to deal with it calmly properly.
You should know that under normal circumstances, people who find fault are prepared. When facing people who deliberately refute you, don’t rush to prove yourself. Let the problem cool down for a while, and then deal with it after thinking of a suitable solution.
Those who dislike you will not give you a chance to prove it, nor will they agree with your views.
The attitude is cold, avoiding too much contact with you
There are many kinds of performances of like a person, and there are also many kinds of performances of not like a person, but there are only one core point of these "multiple" points, that is, whether you are enthusiastic.
Even if some people are introverted and shy, they still cannot hide the enthusiasm in their eyes. Even if some people play hard, they can never block the coldness of their eyes.
Look at one person’s feelings towards another person, don’t look at the expressions on your face and the words in your mouth, you should look at the emotions in your eyes.
People who dislike you may be cold to you, or pretend to be enthusiastic, but there are always reasons that sound normal to avoid having too much contact with you.
There are many ways to reject and reject. No matter how tactful the rejection is, the final direction will not be lie. People who deliberately keep a distance from you should not be entangled. This relationship is destined to be unable to last long.
Be aware of one's life, be sensible, be kind to others, be neither humble nor arrogant. Only by seeing the other person's attitude clearly can you avoid spending your emotions and energy on meaningless people or things.
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