Once saw a question on the Internet: "What is the living conditions of middle-aged people?"
An answer resonates with countless people: When I was young, I always wanted to change the world, but when I was middle-aged, I found a dilemma.
is not up or down, and the family is uneasy, and they travel in a hurry every day, but they are worried.
When he reaches middle age, he has no choice but to do so.
Time is a luxury, and a mess is a daily life.
is at risk of being eliminated at any time, and I am eager to have a sense of belonging.
Thousands of sails passed by and suddenly realized that these three things are the best configuration in life. 
I wonder if you have discovered a phenomenon:
html Before the age of 130, there was not much difference between people in income and status, but once they reach 35, there will be a huge difference.
Some people succeed and fame, while others succeed without any.
"35-year-old crisis" makes people full of anxiety and they lose their value of existence one day.
As Zhang Quanling said:
When the times abandon you, they would not even say hello to you.
In fact, no matter what time period you are in, there is a crisis inability to be able to do so, and every age must have its own advantages.
Some people say that there are two ways to prevent yourself from being replaced:
One is to do what others don’t want to do, and the other is to do what everyone can do to the extreme.
Only by maintaining the habit of lifelong learning can you have the confidence to resist the ever-changing changes.
I have read the story of Hangzhou courier Li Qingheng and was very inspired.
Li Qingheng has no education, but he has been studying hard and constantly improving his skills. When he first entered the industry, he took the initiative to get in touch with his special work and encountered large-scale events, he also helped package and shipped the goods.
Later, he switched to operations and actively learned delivery from front-line couriers, and repeatedly trained the muscle deployment.
After get off work every day, you have to take two hours to practice picking forbidden items.
He can quickly pick out solid glue, lighters, RMB, table tennis and other air banned items from hundreds of items.
He gradually mastered the zip codes, city area codes and aviation codes across the country.
even made a delivery route design for 19 express delivery within 12 minutes to ensure that the express delivery is delivered on time and accurately.
Li Qingheng settled in Hangzhou as a high-level talent with excellent business capabilities.
In addition to receiving 1 million housing purchase subsidy , he also enjoys preferential treatment in health care, children's education, etc.
agrees with the same sentence:
There is no stable job in this era. Only with stable skills can you have the right to choose actively.
ability is not innate, but it can keep pace with the times.
The best amulet for a person is to create your own exclusive IP, keep your popularity with new things, and keep breaking through yourself.
If you have the skills, you will have the ability to resist risks, gain a full sense of security, and live calmly.
person is middle-aged and is busy with his livelihood. He cannot easily express his grievances and has no choice but to endure it.
Shaw Berner has a famous saying:
is the only place in the world that hides human shortcomings and failures, and also contains sweet love.
is a harbor where one lives and the last way out.
It makes people take off their disguise, reveal their weaknesses, cheer for themselves and empower them to last.
But if the family responsibilities are missing, the home becomes a cage and a battlefield.
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She and her husband are very busy with work, but their income is not high, and they often rely on the elderly at home to help.
The elderly are in poor health and are often hospitalized, but the okra couple has no time to accompany them.
Okra's son is in junior high school and is in a rebellious period. He always faces his parents, and his grades are in a mess.
Their family always complains about each other, and sometimes they quarrel over a little trivial matter.
Okra often feels powerless and can't be interested in anything. I really want to escape from that home as soon as possible.
When a person reaches middle age, he cannot become a backer for his parents and cannot be a positive role model for his children. The relatives will inevitably fall apart and lose hope for the future.
TV series "Wang Gui and Anna ", Wang Gui originally knew how to do any housework. After getting married, he started to learn to cook and was still working part-time substitute outside, and was very busy.
Anna was strong before, but Wang Gui worked outside for two years, she was the only one who pulled the child, helped take care of her in-laws' family, and saved money together to overcome difficulties.
Wang Gui always gives in to Anna, and Anna also gives Wang Gui a wise approach.
Two people understand each other and work together, slowly dispelling the smog, and life becomes more and more enjoyable.
There is a saying that is very classic:
For middle-aged people, the biggest achievement is not how big the career they have done and how much money they have made, but how much they can create a warm and harmonious family.
Family relationship is the Feng Shui of a family, which determines a person's joys, anger, sorrows and future.
Family discord is a disaster, which will keep all good luck out and gradually lose the family;
Family stability is a solid backing, and even the dim days will shine and bring luck.
The green mountains are all over my eyes, and there is no temple in the mirror. I just say that I am old and have nothing to do, and I want to get to middle age for more.
Du Mu 's "Book Writing" tells the bitterness of middle-aged people.
The beautiful scenery is unintentionally watched, and the temples are frost in the blink of an eye. I thought I could be content with middle age, but I didn’t expect that I would have more worries.
Time has never spared anyone, only optimism is the antidote.
Wang Zengqi Throughout his life, he has experienced countless hardships and setbacks and has suffered all kinds of unfair treatment, but he has always maintained an optimistic and open-minded attitude.
When he was studying Chinese at Southwest Associated University , he was forced to drop out of school because of his poor foreign language and went to the countryside of Kunming to be a teacher.
Kunming was often bombed by the Japanese army at that time, which was extremely frightening.
But in Wang Zengqi's opinion, the alarm sounds is the best time to fall in love, because at this time the female classmate wants to be taken care of, and the male classmate can be dedicated.
Kunming is rainy and many people are so annoyed, but Wang Zengqi said that the rainy season is bright and touching.
Later he was sent to the countryside, doing physical work, and he was often so tired that he couldn't speak.
can be found at the Guhan Potato Research Station. He felt that life was as free as a god: in the morning, sketching against the potato leaves; when he came back in the evening, he would read as much as possible.
Inamori Kazuo said:
Everything you encounter in your life is attracted by the magnet in your heart.
People cannot live entirely by their mentality, but mentality can control your life and interpret your happiness password.
, known as the "No. 1 Perfect Person in Eternals", has also been tortured by heart disease.
Zeng Guofan created Hunan Army , suppressing Taiping Heavenly Kingdom Movement , but was suspicious of Emperor Xianfeng and rejected by his colleagues, deprived of military power, and returned to his hometown to obey the system.
He couldn't help but feel disappointed, his temper became more and more irritable, and he continued to suffer from insomnia, and he had nightmares.
He wanted to commit suicide three times, but fortunately he was rescued.
Later, after a Taoist priest's guidance, he finally realized the great enlightenment and started a life that was unstoppable.
Lin Qingxuan said: "It is a blessing to be open, but it is a blessing to be indifferent."
When people reach middle age, their work pressure is increasing day by day, and their family responsibilities are overwhelmed. If they relax a little, their life will become a mess.
Cultivate a normal mind and invisibly temper the elasticity and resilience to fight against difficulties.
Take everything lightly, and your mood suddenly becomes clear, the problem is solved, and good luck follows.
A writer described middle age like this:
This is the best age and the worst age. It is a bright season and a dull season.
This is a winter of disappointment and a spring of hope.
Middle age is the state of mind accumulated over the years and a gift of self-cultivation; it is the watershed of life and the opening ceremony of prosperity.
Solid ability is the confidence to survive, a harmonious family is the meaning of life, and an optimistic attitude is the wisdom of life.
Create these configurations well and your life will gradually get better.
The rest of your life, I hope your life will be calm, and occasionally the storm will be in chaos.
