People’s worries all come from interpersonal relationships.
If you don’t have an opponent, you will be lonely. If you make enemies everywhere, you will be attacked from both sides and be isolated and helpless.
No friends will be lonely. Make friends widely, but you will be unable to help yourself and be tired of socializing.
Life requires opponents with level and friends with character.
Article determination: Do not be enemies with villains, only fight with gentlemen
In life, you will definitely not deal with some people for various reasons. Maybe it is a disagreement of views, maybe it is a conflict of interest, or maybe it is a breakdown of feelings.
is an enemy of the villain, squatting on the reckless toe, throwing bricks upwards, harming others and not benefiting oneself.
Fighting with a gentleman is standing on the shoulders of reason and smashing bricks down. Even if you lose, you will still be glorious.
ignores the hostility of villains
In life, maybe we won’t treat them as opponents, nor do they think they are enemies with us.
But they just keep competing with us, and it seems that we are not living a good life, so they are happy.
Usually we will be angry, angry, and then compete with them.
But if you fight with the evil dragon for too long, you will become the evil dragon. If you stare at the abyss for too long, the abyss will return to stare.
Someone mocks you, you should immediately respond to him.
Someone looks down on you for no reason, and you immediately despise him contemptuously.
Someone shows off in front of you, and you will immediately double down to prove that you are more powerful.
Someone is indifferent to you, and you are immediately indifferent to him.
Look, those people you hate easily turn you into the kind of thing you hate the most.
This is their biggest harm to you. "
Unreasonable person, if you care about him, you are tired of yourself; if you are unvirtuous, if you argue with him, you are hurting yourself.
We cannot stop others from hating or hostile to ourselves, but we can decide whether to recognize the other party as the "opponent".
Be an opponent with excellent people
Be an opponent with excellent people, like playing chess with experts, the more you fight, the stronger you become, and can cultivate a high level.
King of Yue Goujian Facing the strong enemy who defeats you, you will lie down and taste your courage , achieve the dominant position.
Kangxi wisely captured Obai , pacified the Three Feudals, recovered Taiwan, personally conquered Galdan, and became an emperor of all ages.
Gentlemen are different.
Two prime ministers of the Northern Song Dynasty , Sima Guang and Wang Anshi . One is a conservative and the other is a reformist. In the temple, Sima Guang and Wang Anshi are mortal enemies, and both think that each other's governing policy is extremely absurd.
But the emperor asked Wang An Wang Anshi praised Sima Guang's view, calling Sima Guang a "branch of the country" and gave a high evaluation of his character, ability and literary attainments.
Invincible in the world is also a kind of loneliness.
There is no powerful enemy, just like there is no "catfish".
1 Nordic fishermen return from sea, most of the sardines sardines are killed by suffocation and cannot be sold at a good price.
In order to improve the survival rate of sardines, the fishermen racked their brains and finally came up with a solution: html l2
In the fish tank filled with sardines, several catfish are placed at the same time.
When the catfish rushes, the originally dead sardines will accelerate their swimming to save their lives, thus maintaining their vigorous vitality.
The opponent is lenient to determine: do not be enemies with villains, but only fight with gentlemen
Zeng Guofan once said: "The success or failure of a lifetime is all about the wiseness of a friend, and you must be careful. ”
The reason why many people grow rapidly is that they benefit greatly from the people around them. Walking with excellent people can broaden their horizons and make themselves better.
Some people call friends all day long, but they are all friends with wine and meat, and even bad friends.
There are too many friends, and I am tired of socializing
always think that there are too many friends and the road is easy to walk.
But people are in the world and have no choice but to do so.
What is the world? A place with many people is like a river and lake. With more friends, we will naturally be in control.
Nowadays, everyone is very busy with work, and they don’t have much free time to truly belong to them. However, people with many friends often even allocate this amount of time to their friends.
For example, if a friend gets married today, you have to support him due to love; if another friend breaks up tomorrow, you have to go out to chat with him to relieve his boredom. After a long time, you will find that all the rest time that originally belonged to you is gone and is occupied by your friends.
Too many friends will make you tired of social engagements and lose your freedom.
Careless friends, and they suffer deeply
Those who have detailed friends will not lose their own people, and those who have broad friends will regret it.
Be careful to make friends, and you can make good friends; if you are not careful in making friends, you will easily be inappropriate to be enthusiastic.
Sun Bin and Pang Juan are classmates and learn skills under Guiguzi , with deep feelings and brothers. Later, Pang Juan took office and invited Sun Bin to the State of Wei.
After Sun Bin arrived in Wei State, Pang Juan was jealous of his talent, so he fabricated the crime and sentenced Sun Bin to bin and tattoo , cutting off Sun Bin's feet, trying to bury him in the world and unknown to others.
Meet people with no character, call you brothers when you are proud, watch coldly when you are in trouble, and put a detriment to you.
Interactions with profit, and if the profit is exhausted, it will be dispersed; if the power is intervened, it will be declining; if the power is intervened, it will be abandoned; if the emotion is intervened, it will be broken, and if the emotion is intervened, it will be hurt; only by the heart can it be long-lasting.
The opponent is leniently recognized and friends are strictly admitted. Good interpersonal relationships make you a better life.
Source: Invisible, Youshu
Editor: Deng Rubeng
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