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Jia Pingwa 's " Wishing Life to Be Calm ", there is a saying:
is an ancient term, and the attitude cannot be described, similar to the temperament and demeanor that people today talk about. A woman’s beauty will not last forever, but a woman’s appearance will last forever. Li Yu talks about women having a state of appearance, three-point beauty can increase to seven points, women have no state of appearance, seven-point beauty can drop to three points, it is like the flame of fire, like the light of lamp, like the treasure of gold and silver.
Many people think that a woman’s beauty should be superficial. If her face is not beautiful, she is not qualified to be charming.
But in fact, what is truly charming for women is the unconscious expression of the charm in their bones.
Perhaps some men are more superficial and only look at their faces, but I believe that in the eyes of most men, the charm of women is revealed from the bones.
In a man's heart, he will always be unable to help but divide the women he meets into different levels, classify women in a category, and pursue people who can be reached in a targeted manner.
Although men also admire women who look tall and arrogant, they also know in their hearts that such unattainable women are not something they can climb on, and can only be seen from afar and not played with.
Although many men always have a kind of blind confidence in their relationship, in fact, when they meet truly excellent women, the unconfident emotions in their bones will quietly emerge and make them retreat.
So, what kind of woman will men become unconfident when they meet?
Understand and find that in men's eyes, these three types of women are charming but unattainable.
Zhang Shibing, 28 years old, marketing: A woman with a successful career is very attractive to any man in the workplace, but this kind of woman will not look back at people like us.
After entering society, the feeling of loneliness will increase day by day, and I am eager to find someone to accompany me.
Therefore, in the workplace, I always inadvertently focus on colleagues of the opposite sex, hoping to find someone who can speak.
But things went against my expectations. It is really difficult to find an object in an industry, and most of them are looking for it outside the circle.
This has developed a habit, that is, only to appreciate and not disturb, and to quietly watch the various women appearing around you.
There is no distinction between men and women in our industry, and there is no prejudice against female practitioners, but I still have some admiration for women who can do their careers at their peak.
Of course, I would also fantasize in my heart that if I could have such a girlfriend, I would be so proud of it. Taking it out will definitely be unique.
But in fact, it is absolutely impossible for a man who can match this kind of woman to have no money, because the other party doesn’t look down on a man who is worse than her at all.
After she climbs to a certain level, she will not be willing to be backward compatible, and that will let her down.
So, this kind of strong-looking woman is not worthy of ordinary men, and most men can only stare at her.
He Qize, 36 years old, started his own business: I have admired girls who have studied well since I was a child, focused on my own studies, and always know what I want and will not be disturbed by the outside world.
I remember very clearly that when I was in high school, I had a crush on a girl. She was a "three good girls" in class, with good family background, good education and good learning. She also knows how to play piano and dance.
When I first got in touch with her, I found that she had no airs and was very approachable, so I gave me some confidence.
I will talk to her intentionally or unintentionally, start with my closest friends, and want to impress her with company.
When I was in my senior year of high school, I mustered up the courage to confess to her, but she refused and said that I should focus on studying hard and deal with the college entrance examination first.
After the college entrance examination, she went to the university of her dream, and I failed and never had the courage to confess my love.
After she went to college, she was also very popular. Many boys got close to her, but she did not fall in love and still focused all her energy on her studies.
When she graduated from her senior year, she posted her transcript, and every course was A-level, she scored 7.5 points in IELTS, and applied to study abroad at a top university abroad.
Every step she took was moving in the direction she expected, and there was never a trace of hesitation.
As for her conditions, a rich second-generation with high education is just looking for it, but she did not make such a choice. Instead, she has always been firm in her dreams, down-to-earth step by step, and devoted herself to completing her studies without distraction.
This type of woman is really charming, but it is unattainable for ordinary men. They know everything they want thoroughly.
Liu Junjie, 28 years old, a state-owned enterprise employee: a person with a bad family in his original family, no matter how hard he tries, he can't catch up with a woman who loves her family. There is a natural barrier, which is true.
I remember there was a TV series " Golden Years " not long ago. Zhang Anren and Jiang Nansun are typical representatives. Men have moved step by step from small cities to big cities. No matter how they take root, they are still not as good as women born with golden spoons in their hands.
This is the gap. Even if you work hard, the gap between so many generations has been formed, and it is impossible to fill all the gaps through one generation.
Those women from good families have never lacked money or love at home. The temperament they exudes from the outside is gentle and soft, and they can clearly find that they cannot afford to climb.
is not just a gap in consumption habits, but also a completely different environment for growth, their own vision, and friends they come into contact with.
When contacting this kind of woman, a man will feel inferior in his heart. The more backwards she is compatible and takes care of your emotions, the more ashamed you will be.
This is the gap. No matter how you ignore the difference, the inferiority and cowardice in your bones cannot be hidden from you. You can only treat her as an out-of-reach dream, rather than someone you can reach out to touch.
Time and Emotional Class:
For men, there may be such a white moonlight and a cinnabar mole in their hearts, which they cannot be forgotten for a long time.
They are like the snow in the mountain stream, and as pure and flawless as the moon in the forest. It is so charming that people feel infinite yearning in their hearts. They want to get close to each other and pick them, and want each other to belong to them.
However, the cruelty of reality is that two people are people from two worlds, they can only exist as friends, and can never go further. They are fantasies that cannot be reached.
In fact, men and women are eager to find an excellent partner in their hearts, but most people still know themselves and know that some people can only appreciate and cannot climb high.
So, men keep those charming but unattainable women in their hearts, occasionally think of them but don’t have any expectations, and then they will look for the woman who truly suits them in their lives.
