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movies often say that people yearn for platonic love . What kind of love is platonic love?
The so-called platonic love is actually a pursuit of soul resonance in common. The same or opposite sex do not pursue physical harmony. It is more about whether there are spiritual commonalities between each other.
Two people are together, and they can understand the other person's meaning without too much words, just a look or a physical behavior. This feeling of mutual communication is really beautiful.
So, there are so many people who spend their entire lives pursuing their soul mates.
However, expectation is beautiful, but not everyone can meet the person who truly understands himself, otherwise there would not be so many infatuated men and women crying for love in this world.
There are huge differences in thinking between men and women. Sometimes, it is clearly the same thing, but both parties interpret two completely different meanings.
This caused a lot of misunderstandings and misses. It was not until many years later that I realized what I missed.
But there is a little more touching relationship between the real soul mates, and they tie the two together firmly.
The interaction between men and women, if you really feel that it is perfectly fit half of your soul, you will definitely have a "empathy effect".
The so-called empathy effect means that your happiness will become his happiness, your sadness will become his sadness, and your anger will also become his anger.
This kind of empathizes with not because you are his partner, nor because of a sense of responsibility. It does not happen forcibly. On the contrary, it happens naturally, and it happens even if you cannot detect it. The scope of empathy of
is also very broad. It is not only limited to emotional resonance, but also contains some resonance of values and values, as well as the degree of understanding of what this person does. It can be said to be a tacit understanding of "no more words".
Feel the time to get along with the person around you, and you will find that the real soul mate will have a "empathy effect".
The most direct manifestation of this empathy effect is nothing more than these two points:
"I am not always interesting, but you can still understand me when I am silent."
Men and women interact, sometimes they are in love at first sight, and sometimes they are in daily life.
If you have the intention to fall in love at first sight, it is most likely that people say that they are thinking about the desire to see the color. In fact, there is nothing worth criticizing. People are visual animals, or people have the heart of love for beauty. It is also possible for people to pursue a beautiful appearance.
If you intend to get along with each other in daily life, it means that you are in love at the moment when your souls collide.
. This kind of daily relationship is not necessarily all a happy part, or it is the other person's humor that touches you, but the person's wit, silence or sadness that can touch you. You can perceive the other person's true thoughts when the other person doesn't say much.
Xu Bochang and Liu Shufen in the movie "No Questions" have no soul resonance.
Although the couple had been married for many years, there was never an "empathy effect". The woman did not understand the life the man pursued, and the man ignored the woman's pain and torture, which even directly led to Liu Shufen's death.
There is no need to say much between soul mates, and there is no need for the other party to keep their fun all the time. The empathy between the two is that even if the other party does not want to speak, the other party will not feel uneasy because of this. Instead, they understand each other's silence and silence and enjoy it.
"I know you won't leave, you know I won't change"
In this era, more and more people emphasize independence, and more emphasis on whether men and women should first learn to love and be self-reliant in love.There is nothing wrong with this view of
. If you love the other person more than yourself, then you will fall into a state of self-contamination.
You will always think, why doesn’t the other party reply you? Does the other party love you? Why does the other party always care about you? Doubts and suspicions like
will eventually lead to quarrels and cold wars, which will cause feelings to break down.
Therefore, you must love yourself more than you love the other person, because only by loving yourself a little more can you have the energy to love the other person. This kind of self-love is not a manifestation of self-confidence, on the contrary, it is just an recognition of your own personality.
TV series "The Kiss of a Prank", Jiang Zhishu said to Yuan Xiangqin , "I don't want your life to be just Mrs. Jiang. If possible, you can choose to do things you want."
His promise was: "From the moment you promised to marry me, you were already Mrs. Jiang I recognized."
In the early stage, Yuan Xiangqin has been following Naoki's footsteps, following her step by step, for fear that the other party will abandon her.
But in the later stage, she still loved Naoki very much, but she also grew up and found her own value. Naoki knew that "Xiangqin would not leave", and Xiangqin also knew that "Natsuki would not change". Their love really realized the resonance of the soul and achieved empathy between each other.
Soul mates are thinking about each other and will not bind each other. Their empathy is that they understand that each other will not leave and their feelings will not change.
Time and Emotional Class:
Shen Congwen wrote in "The Legend of Xiang Xing": I have traveled to bridges in many places, seen clouds many times, drank many kinds of wine, but I have only loved one of the best age.
In this long life, meeting someone who can communicate with each other is indeed an extremely satisfying thing.
The interaction between men and women depends on their feelings after all. A more literary statement to give this feeling is "the empathy effect between soul mates."
This feeling will not disappear with the passage of time, but will increase with the passage of time.
As time goes by, we have a deeper understanding of each other and love them deeper. Both sides maintain a state of mutual encouragement, motivation and growth together. Such love is benign.
Because they are soul mates and have empathy effects between them, they cannot meet at all times even if they are thousands of miles apart, and even if they are busy, they cannot respond at all times. They are still the other's only lovers.
, the only one, does not require repeated determination, does not require swearing or promises, it is something that flows in the day after day, it happens naturally, it is the most important and basic principle of interaction between men and women.
