Author丨Tongyan
As an emotional author, I often meet a type of confidant (mainly girls) who try to prove that he loves himself in a relationship.
For example, they clearly told me something that men don’t love them. But at the end, he always changed his mind, and then talked about something he was good to him, and then asked me: He actually still loves me, right?
Every time I see such a question, I always sigh in secret.
How could a person who is sitting next to the fire feels warmth? Only those who are clearly sitting next to the fire but feel chill in their hearts will repeatedly determine the size of the flame.
people, it's always like this. No matter how much you understand or see more things, when you really get to yourself, you still have the same thing and can't let go.
If love can completely follow the rationality, then there will not be so many people who are suffering in love.
So, I also understand that it is not that they don’t understand what the answer is, but that they are not willing to believe it, so they stubbornly want to find the result they really want - even if they can’t get what they want, they still insist on it.
In fact, to put it another way, this is also a beautiful place for love. As long as you sincerely give, you will be fine without regrets. Things that you cannot control will be seen one day later, across the mountains and rivers, and you will eventually be completely relieved.
If you can’t see clearly now, don’t worry, time will help you.
In the past two days, I have a friend who talked to me about my views on love again.
She said that she has changed a lot in the past two years, from the beginning of believing in love and thinking that love is great and must be someone, and now she is more peaceful in looking at the love between two people.
If she had put it before, she would definitely not believe that the man who had made her love to her bones would eventually part ways, and she would no longer love him.
Yes, she doesn't love it anymore.
This was not a result of overnight formation, but indeed in the two years after the separation, she figured out many things and let go of a lot of love.
It seems that at this moment, she is no longer the little girl she used to be.
At that time, I often discussed love with her. She once asked me a question: What is the manifestation of a man who truly loves a woman from the bottom of his heart?
Finally, she came to two conclusions through reality: if a man really loves himself, first, he will definitely be willing to spend money on me, second, he will want to marry me and go home.
When she said this, she was trapped in a love she thought was very sweet. The boy was very nice to her and was the type who was reluctant to give up on herself but was willing to spend money on her. When the company has a dinner party, it will secretly keep the delicious fruits and bring them back for her if they don’t eat them.
was such a small action, which made her cry at the time, and it was so good that she was always kept in her heart. She said so.
And boys have mentioned their future more than once, where to buy a house in the future, where to hold a wedding, and what their children are named after marriage, including the names of the two people. The boys have already thought about it. Will you doubt love like
?
I think most people won’t.
But in the end they were separated. The reason for separation once became a shackle that trapped her, which made her fall into deep self-doubt after leaving - the boy betrayed their relationship, and it was the girl who found her that she discovered all this.
When she found this result, she went back to look at the boy's performance during that period. What he called busy and lack of time was just because he was accompanying another person.
She didn't even know at all. At which moment in her life, this person who once acted like she loved her so much had long since stopped loving her. She has always loved each other, so she didn't realize the other person's changes at all. She thought he would never change.
So, never be stubborn about whether a person loves you, and don’t always guess or assume. In fact, these are meaningless.
To put it bluntly, love or not is a very variable thing in itself. A person loved you very much in the past, but he did not conflict with him later.
There is actually no so-called correct answer to a man's love for a woman from the bottom of his heart. To a certain extent, those so-called answers are nothing more than the behaviors of falling in love. Different people will have different behaviors, but these behaviors may not be enough to form an eternal posture.
Once you guess and look for it, you will be passive in love and your emotions will be led by the other party.
The fact is: your The sixth sense often won’t lie to you. Whether you love or not, you know more than anyone else.
If you insist on hitting the wall, no one can stop you. People are always like this. After experiencing it, you will understand everything. It is more useful than outsiders to tell the truth a thousand times.
Sometimes, you just need to let go of yourself, just a reason to give up completely. Without this reason, even if the answer is in front of you, you may still choose to ignore it.
What I want to say is: Just enjoy the current state of love. If you believe that this person loves you at this time and you also love the other person, then you will also treat each other with sincerity without any regrets.
If one day later, the other party wants to leave you for some reason, you must also learn to say goodbye.
The thing about loving you for the rest of your life is not said, but it is a result of reaching a certain stage in your life. When you are all gray-haired, the result of your hard work from the young age is that it is natural.
Please always remember: loving yourself well and living up to yourself is an effective way to always remain undefeated in any relationship.
Only when you are in such a state and the word "love" will it really happen.
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