text丨The West Chamber of affection
Time has not been long, I hope you will meet in my words!
Beautiful love always goes through various tests, and in real life, the test that often appears is undoubtedly distance.
Most people think that love can overcome distance, and no matter how far they are, they will continue to love each other deeply as they always do.
It can be not until after they are really separated that people understand: it is easy to make promises, but it is difficult to stay together.
It is difficult for two people to fall in love to be together every day, there will always be time to separate, and this window period can also allow you to judge each other's love.
If the love is deep enough, then it will naturally be a small separation better than a newlywed; but if the other party is just false, then he will think that separation is a kind of relief.
So, if a person loves or not, it will be clear if he doesn’t contact him for a few days.
Xinyue (pseudonym) has been with her boyfriend for more than two years, and she deeply feels that her boyfriend no longer loves her.
When they first got together, they said everything. The boyfriend always liked to stick to her. Occasionally, they also called and posted on WeChat on business trips.
No matter where you go or do, your boyfriend will care about her.
Sometimes when two people quarrel, Xinyue will deliberately ignore her boyfriend, and her boyfriend will be particularly worried, call her frequently, and even come to her house to find her.
Every time I see my boyfriend bowing his head and admitting his mistake, Xinyue feels embarrassed, because even if it is her fault, her boyfriend will tolerate it instead of complaining to her.
But in the past year, the relationship between the two has changed completely. My boyfriend never takes the initiative to tell Xinyue whether he is on a business trip or having a party with his friends.
Every time, Xinyue has to call and ask frequently, so he will answer a sentence or two perfunctorily, and sometimes he will shout at Xinyue, thinking she is annoying.
For this reason, Xinyue and him quarreled many times, and these quarrels also made Xinyue more sure that her boyfriend's love for her is no longer the same as before.
Because, my boyfriend hasn't come to coax her these days, no matter how Xinyue feels, my boyfriend ignores her at all.
What makes Xinyue most uncomfortable is the last quarrel. She didn’t send a message to her boyfriend for only three days, and her boyfriend actually deleted her and blocked her!
Later, Xinyue called to ask, but her boyfriend told Xinyue calmly, since she didn't contact each other for three days, doesn't that mean they broke up?
was also not until that moment Xinyue realized that the difference between a person’s love and not love is really obvious. Especially after not contacting each other for a few days, these reactions of the other party will tell him his attitude.
1. People who love you will be nervous and take the initiative to come to you
No matter whether you are a man or a woman, you will be unable to control your miss each other and want to contact each other when you can't see each other.
So, when you suddenly disconnect and no longer send messages to him or even fail to respond, he will feel worried and nervous, always worried about whether he has made you angry.
He will come to you on his own initiative, first call you to care about you, and then come to you to show kindness to you, wanting to see your status with your own eyes.
You should know that only those who love you deeply can show this tension, because you always keep you on your heart, so a little change in your attitude will arouse ripples in the other person's heart.
His care for you can make him let go of his arrogant self-esteem, and his inner uneasiness can only be relieved after receiving your response.
2. Those who love you deeply will love you more after a few days of disconnection
"Small separation is better than newlyweds" is the most suitable to describe two people in love. However, because both parties always have each other in their hearts, they will care about each other no matter how far apart they are.
If the other party loves you enough, then the few days of breaking up the connection will be extremely tormenting for him. He will miss you day and night, and always want to hear your voice quickly and meet you soon.
Such a person who cares about you all the time will become more deeply aware of his feelings for you and thus love you more deeply.
You will find that the next time you meet you, he will be more kind to you. Even if you have a little temper, he will be more tolerant of you.
A brief separation will make him understand the importance of you in his heart. If he doesn't see you for a few days, he will miss you very much, wishing he can be with you all the time, and he will never be able to leave you for a second.
3. People who don’t love you will delete you after not contacting you, blocking you
People who love you will always miss you silently during the time when they are not in contact, but for people who don’t love you enough, not contacting you is equivalent to the end, and he will not stand firmly waiting for you.
As long as you haven't sent a message for more than two days, he will assume that you have broken up and will directly delete and block you.
, no matter how much you pay, you cannot move people like him, because they don’t care about you in their hearts and never ask for separation, they are just hanging you.
So, when you find yourself deleted, there is no need to rush to ask why, he really doesn't care about you.
Some people may say that people also need shame. The other party has not contacted them for several days. Isn’t it just a default breakup?
In fact, if a person has true love for you in his heart, his first reaction is to actively alleviate the relationship between you rather than actively ending it.
From this point, it is impossible to tell whether a person loves or not.
Summary:
If you want to judge a person’s love for you, the easiest way is to break off contact with him for a few days.
In this window period where you are not in contact, people who love you naturally cannot tolerate your neglect and want to come to you on their own initiative.
People who don’t love you will only feel relieved and quickly find the next object.
You must remember that love must be polished for a long time. If you can’t even accept separation for a few days, then you cannot be happy with each other.
So, when you want to really run a love, you must choose someone who is willing to wait for you and can endure loneliness. Only in this way can you stay together for a long time.
