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Many people think that when people are old, they should enjoy their old age and make themselves live a little easier and more comfortable life as much as possible. Any interpersonal relationships that make people feel tired and complicated should be abandoned. After all, time and energy are becoming more and more limited, and only by spending on things that are truly worth it can be considered worthwhile.
But some people don’t think so or do it.
Although they are old, their mentality is still young. After divorce or their wife leaves, they are single. They will soon think about finding another wife to get married, or start dating in the evening love and live together.
Although this is very troublesome and involves a lot of things, they don’t care. As long as there is someone who can be with them, they will feel that the rest of their life is hopeful and full of hope.
Aunt Liu, who is over 60 years old, didn't understand at first why some men are so persistent about their husbands. It was not until she had been with someone for three years that she completely realized.
It turns out that there is a reason why men want to find a partner when they are old, and the reason is very realistic.
Aunt Liu met a man five years older than him through blind date. The man's wife died of cancer. Although it has been less than a year, he has begun to think about remarrying.
In his own words, he wants to get out of this shadow as soon as possible and start a new life.
Before meeting him, Aunt Liu had been single for a long time. She divorced when she was almost fifty years old. Since then, she has no hope for marriage. But everyone around her advised her that the children have already started a family and there is no need to worry anymore. She should still think more about herself in the second half of her life.
She then mustered up the courage to go on a blind date, but fortunately she met a like-minded him.
This man is a gentle and elegant type. He is obviously a cultural person. Aunt Liu thinks he is gentle and the two of them can chat, so she discusses how to live together.
has been around for three years. After these three years of getting along, Aunt Liu finally understood why some men still have to find a partner when they are old. The reason is too realistic.
1: Relieve the loneliness and loneliness in your heart, find a place for your spirit
People are old, and whether they are divorced or widowed, they are lonely inside. It may be better to live with your children, but if you choose to live alone, this loneliness and loneliness will be instantly amplified.
This is also one of the reasons why many men insist on finding their spouse to accompany them.
They feel that having someone by their side, even if they just talk to them, they will feel at ease, otherwise they will not know how to get through the long night. After all, late at night will amplify a person's emotions, which will make lonely people more lonely and lonely people more lonely.
With someone to accompany you, you will have a spiritual sustenance. Regardless of whether two people have emotional foundations or not, if one person is there, you will have more strength and you will have more confidence in the future.
2: No one does housework, no one takes care of himself, and want to find someone to serve himself who is getting older
Compared with the first reason, this type is actually more common in life.
The reason why many men insist on finding another wife when they get old is mainly because no one does the housework at home and no one takes care of themselves. For them, the wife they find is no different from the free nanny. This is also the reason why many women would rather live alone than remarry when they get old.
They have already seen through the essence of elderly marriage and do not want to jump into the fire pit.
This was also what Aunt Liu realized later. At first, when the two of them lived together, the man was very nice to her, but after spending a long time together, it seemed that all her work was her job.
She often feels very tired, but she doesn't know how to tell him.
He would give her more than 1,000 yuan on time every month. He said it was pocket money, but in fact, buying vegetables and daily necessities were all used.
Think carefully, what is the difference between Aunt Liu and the nanny he hired?
Finally, Aunt Liu realized that in the way of living together, she was the one who suffered the loss, and she was the one who made the advantage. It was no point in living like this, so she proposed to break up and continue living alone.
In fact, remarriage by the elderly may not necessarily be a bad thing, but the premise is that both parties are sincere and have no calculations. If the purpose is not simple, they cannot survive no matter what.
After all, no relationship can tolerate calculations, please be cautious when remarrying.
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