"After cheating during pregnancy, filed for divorce during confinement, I experienced the worst marriage in my life." This is the first message that reader Jia Jia gave me.
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tells the story of : Jia Jia, now 36 years old, married to her ex-husband Zheng Ping for ten years and has two children. The eldest son, Xiaohu, died of an accident, and the second son, Kang Kang, is currently three years and two months old. I have been divorced from my ex-husband for three years and have no new feelings. I am a happy single mother.
Jia Jia and her ex-husband Zheng Ping are college classmates, and they are typical love from school uniforms to wedding dresses. He got married at the age of 25 and gave birth to his first child at the age of 26. After the child was born, Jia Jia gave up her job and became a full-time housewife. When her son Xiaohu turned three, her mother-in-law called her and said she was helping her take care of the children and asked her to go out to work to earn money.
To be honest, Jia Jia was unhappy because when she gave birth to Xiaohu, her parents-in-law ignored her, and even her mother took care of her during the confinement period. Xiaohu is grown up and goes to kindergarten. Her mother-in-law is coming to take care of her. She feels uncomfortable no matter how she thinks. But when the child is grown up, the family spends more, but it is not enough to rely on Zheng Ping to work alone.
Under financial pressure, Jia Jia agreed to her mother-in-law's suggestion, entrusted her son Xiaohu to her, and went out to work by herself.
The mother-in-law is very careless. She always has one or another accidents when taking care of her children, but because of the small bumps and scratches, Jia Jia didn't take them to heart. The boy is naughty, the mother-in-law is old and has never taken care of the child, so some minor accidents are inevitable.
No one expected that a small accident would turn into a big injury.
When Xiaohu was six years old and went to preschool, his mother-in-law took him to run a red light across the road. His mother-in-law was fine, but Xiaohu was dead.
The accident happened at five o'clock in the afternoon, and Jiajia received the message at around six o'clock. At that time, she was working overtime and after receiving the call, she collapsed on the ground. Her colleague helped her back. From beginning to end, she didn't see Xiaohu's last appearance. Zheng Ping didn't let her see it, for fear that she would not accept it.
After Xiaohu left, Jia Jia was overly sad and sick for a long time until she had a young son.
It’s a coincidence that Jia Jia found out that her pregnancy happened to be her eldest son’s birthday. She thought that her eldest son was back to find her.
finally got out of the pain of losing his son and waited for his younger son to come with joy. As a result, her husband cheated on him, and it was when she was pregnant with Xiaobao in the late stages of pregnancy.
The other party is a woman with a family, two years older than her and Zheng Ping, and has a daughter who is about the same age as Xiaohu.
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The reason why Jia Jia knew about her existence was because she openly provoked her original wife when Jia Jia was in confinement. She not only sent videos and text messages, but also publicly accused Jia Jia, saying that she was not a good mother and a good wife, and attributed the death of her eldest son Xiaohu to her mother, and said that she didn't care about her husband and didn't know what he wanted.
Just got out of the pain of losing one's son, Jia Jia, who mustered up the courage to welcome her younger son, was depressed because the third party unscrupulously provoked her depression for a while, and almost ended her and her younger son's lives. Fortunately, my mother was taking care of her during the confinement period, and her mother, who noticed something was wrong, stopped her in time.
According to their local customs, the confinement period must be 45 days. Before she could leave the confinement period, her ex-husband Zheng Ping tentatively filed for divorce to her. His reason is no different from what the scumbags on the Internet said. For example: "We have no feelings anymore. I like her. I want to be with her. Let's get together! Even if we divorce, you are still the mother of the child, and I am also the father of the child. Don't worry, I will definitely take the responsibility I should bear."
Jiajia looked at her husband and felt that he was a little strange. She even suspected that her husband was possessed by something because she didn't believe that her man would treat her like this and her newly born young son. She cried, made a fuss, and begged, but her husband moved out of the house without hesitation.
The mother was afraid that she would not be able to think about it, so she said that the man she could not keep would not stay. He didn't want the child, and we would like to support the child no matter what.Looking at her mother who was working hard for her, Jia Jia listened. Not long after he was out of confinement, he held his youngest son and went through the divorce procedures with Zheng Ping.
To be honest, Jia Jia had expectations when she first divorced. She thought that she might get divorced. Zheng Ping could wake up, realize the importance of her and her children, be able to return to her lost path, and take the initiative to win her back. But to her disappointment, Zheng Ping couldn't wait to live with the mistress on the day of the divorce, and the mistress also divorced Zheng Ping.
When the child was nine months old, Zheng Ping and his mistress received " Marriage Certificate ", and her relationship and marriage with Zheng Ping were completely over.
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The ex-husband’s remarriage is the last straw that overwhelmed that relationship and the beginning of Jia Jia’s new life. As a qualified ex-wife, she has never disturbed Zheng Ping's life, and even the child support, she did not take the initiative to open her mouth and ask Zheng Ping if she wanted to live.
I thought life would be like this. Half a month ago, my ex-mother-in-law suddenly called and not only cared about her food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also asked about her grandson's condition. She also apologized to Jiajia again and again for the incident back then.
Time has changed, and Jia Jia is unwilling to make things difficult for the elderly anymore, so she persuades her to let go.
Later, the former mother-in-law took the initiative to mention her son Zheng Ping and her new daughter-in-law. She said that the reason why Zheng Ping was deceived by that woman was that she was a bad woman, and she only knew how to dress up and dress up all day long, and said that her daughter was just like her, an indecent person. He said that Zheng Ping was hospitalized and was beaten by the woman's affair with her. He said that if he could, he hoped that Jia Jia would take her youngest son to the hospital to see him. She was afraid that Zheng Ping would not be able to think about it and did something stupid.
Jiajia rejected the request from her ex-mother-in-law, because she was unwilling to have any involvement with her ex-husband. As a kind-hearted woman, she sent photos and videos of her youngest son to her ex-mother-in-law and asked her to help her pass them to her ex-husband. Jiajia said she hopes Zheng Ping lives a good life, after all, he is still her son's father.
A few days later, Jia Jia received a transfer, and the transferor was her ex-husband Zheng Ping. The note is very short, with only three words: "Caring support!"
Jiajia said that the last message sent to her by her ex-husband Zheng Ping was a long passage two days ago. He said he was retribution and said that after marrying a third party, he realized that not all women can be virtuous, and not all women will be loyal to their spouses and families. He gave up his home flower for a wild flower that could be picked at will, and ended up being greened into Mongolian grasslands. He said he had awakened, but it was too late. He said he would do his best to make up for Jiajia and the children, hoping that they would not hate him anymore.
Special statement: In order to protect the privacy of the contributor, the characters in the article are pseudonyms. If there is any similarity, it is a coincidence.
