text | Wang Yan
On May 20, 2022, my mother left on a very loving day, 18 days after her 80th birthday. My mother has been suffering from serious illnesses and minor illnesses for a long time. I once laughed at her as a sick person. In the fourth grade of elementary school, I was about to go to the hospital to deliver her a meal after school. I also saw that she had a life and death line many times. My biggest fear at that time was the loss of my mother. In a blink of an eye, at the age of 47, I bid farewell to my 80-year-old mother, scrubbed and changed her clothes, and put on makeup for the first time. Although there are tears, I am not particularly sad inside.
Mom is a lucky person. Although she was born in a war-torn era, she lost her father in childhood, and her widowed mother and sister-in-law took her and her niece to live a difficult life. But the eldest sister-in-law is like a mother, supporting a worry-free sky for her. No matter how hard life is, her sister-in-law and mother who can sew clothes and take shoes can always make her beautiful and sunny.
When you are young, your mother with severe stomach disease met a kind father, who was the father who opened up an unrestrained and unrestrained sky for her mother. After marriage, my mother habitually miscarried . Until she was nearly thirty years old, she became pregnant with her brother. She was in bed and raised her baby for seven months and did not get out of bed. Her eldest sister-in-law brought water to deliver food to her, protecting her to give birth to her eldest son, and successfully gave birth to me three years later. The sick mother actually gave birth to two children and had both children.
When my mother was pregnant, she had been working hard. Her pregnant mother hid her pregnant belly behind the high podium and gave open classes to hundreds of leaders in the education industry and colleagues. Since then, she has started her professional chapter of an outstanding gardener and a special teacher of . Behind the more honors and opportunities my mother received than her peers was the eldest sister-in-law sewing clothes and cooking for her children, and the countless days and nights when her father stayed up late to help her copy lesson plans and papers after she went to bed.
Mom is a person with high emotional intelligence.
Many elderly people with Alzheimer's disease like to confront the sky, complain about their spouses, and blame their children, but their mothers are not like this. Even in the last two and a half years, I couldn't recognize my relatives, so I asked her how you old man was? She always said, "He's fine..." My brother and I laughed at her, "Everyone is stupid, and our emotional intelligence is not offline."
Be kind to others, and thinking about others is the creed of my mother throughout her life. I remember when I was a child, I went out with her and chatted with acquaintances in three or five steps. Except for rushing to work, it is rare to see her reach her destination directly. During the holidays, she is even more diligent in walking around with relatives, friends, parents of friends, and neighbors. Until she suffered from heart disease, she started asking my brother and I to wish her a happy New Year. She loves chatting and is good at listening, and always attracts many friends.
Mom attaches great importance to the education of my brother and me. Although our qualifications are mediocre, she can always encourage us to have the best teachers and academic classmates around us. It was not until my brother and I were parents and worried about our children's studies that we realized how important my mother's high emotional intelligence is.
In fact, my mother has many minor problems and is often criticized by relatives and friends, but she is not anxious or annoyed, doesn’t listen to it, and doesn’t change it after listening. She lives a leisurely and happy life, and does not pick on other people’s problems.
Because my mother is sick, similar to the movie "The One Who Loves Me the Most in the World" starring Siqin Gaowa , and Xu Zheng 's " I'm Not a Medicine God " are all topics that I dare not touch. Last year's Jia Ling's comedy "Hello, Li Huanying " still made me cry so hard that I couldn't help myself. My son asked me because I missed my grandma? I carefully thought about where my tears were? I thought, maybe it was because I didn't live like my mother expected, and I felt regretful! At that time, my mother could not communicate due to illness, and cognitive impairment , overeating, knocking and destroying, and it was no longer what my mother was originally. I accidentally saw a short video of a TV series. The grandmother and mother in the play suffer from the same disease. The male protagonist said: "Grandma is not sick. She just said goodbye to us in her way. If she is well, one day she will leave us, everyone will be very sad. Now she is doing things every day. When she leaves, we will be less sad, and everyone will see her off happily."
recalls her mother, her life is perfect, and she leaves no regrets. I hope that the children will forget you when you are troubled by illness and learn from your optimism and open-mindedness.
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