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Philosopher Williams once said: "The strongest desire in human nature is to get the admiration of others." It can be seen that if you want to get the likes of others, you must first admire and like others. When you meet other people’s communication needs, you also meet your own needs. This is the law of mutual appreciation.
The law of mutual pleasure in psychology refers to the emotional harmony and mutual liking of people, which is mutual and interactive. If one person’s like cannot arouse another’s enthusiastic response, this like will soon become cold and the original favorability will disappear. It’s like a person saying hello to the other party. If he doesn’t respond after a long time, who will continue to call?
So, if you like it, you will be disliked, you will be welcomed, and respect will be respected. Human emotions are mutual. People often say, "A gentleman dies for his confidant, and a woman is tolerant for his pleasing himself." Everyone will be moved by the person he likes and do things for the person he likes.
The law of mutual pleasure plays an important role in interpersonal communication, and people always like those who can bring happiness to themselves. If you can bring joy to others in your relationship, there will be a force that will prompt the other party to actively approach you, understand you, trust you, and then become friends with you. If your words and deeds bring disgust or embarrassment to the other party, whether intentionally or unintentionally, it will prompt the other party to hate you.
There is a " hug group activity in the West, that is, people take to the streets to embrace every person who is in a hurry, use their love and embrace to resolve the indifference between people, and let more people enjoy happiness and warmth. The one who carried out this activity to the world was American Jason Hunter. Hunter knew at his mother's funeral that his mother helped many people with warmth and love, and he also needed the warmth of others to relieve the grief of losing his mother. Therefore, Hunter made a card with the words "True Hug" and walked onto the streets of his hometown. From that day on, the "FREE HUGS" movement about love and sharing began to spread throughout the United States.
Emotions are contagious. Everyone can get the message of love and respect from the kindness and likes released by the other party, and then spread it to the other party. The kindness between them will also bring pleasure and enthusiasm to the people around them, just as the pleasant mood and laughter of two people in a chat will arouse the curiosity and pleasure of the third party. I often encounter such a situation. At first, two people chatted very well, but later I found that a third party joined in, and then gradually formed a center. A group of people listened to one of them and finally everyone had a wonderful afternoon.
is visible. The law of mutual pleasure does not only apply to two people, but also between groups. Many leaders in the marketing field have applied the "law of mutual pleasure" to their work. First, they carefully feel the needs of customers, understand the interests and hobbies of customers, their favorite conversations and topics, etc., through these, they will narrow the psychological distance between each other, and successfully make customers fall in love with them, and then become interested in the products they sell.
You can find the way he likes to get along with each other and both parties feel comfortable. For example, expressing appreciation for the other person, sincere praise, talking about topics that the other person is interested in, and providing what the other person needs can all arouse the other person's recognition and like, achieving the purpose of interpersonal attraction. However, while enjoying the other person, don’t forget to please yourself, because only when you feel happy at the same time can you increase communication with the other person. If you just flatter and flatter others, you will be despised by others, and you will also feel bored and alienate yourself.
However, a person must not be driven only by the "law of mutual pleasure", otherwise he will be surrounded by flatterers. Try to interact with people you don’t like so that you can stay rational; only by hearing criticism and hearing different voices can you grow.But you must stop dating people who "oppose everyone", because such people often use opposition to arouse others' curiosity and interest. In fact, they are the same type of people as "flattering villains", not really distinguishing people. Close interaction with such people can only make you become a person who "oppose everyone and is also opposed by everyone".
Psychological application:
1. Treat others with a friendly attitude and don’t criticize anyone easily.
2. Increase appreciation and praise for others and strive to like others.
3. You must be rational in your interactions and don’t fall into the abyss of the law of mutual pleasure.
4. You can use the law of mutual appreciation between two people to drive more people to like you.
