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Some time ago, I found a submission on a hot search, and I felt speechless after reading it.
The girl has been working for one or two years. Thinking that she has never bought a bag this year, she spent 8,000 yuan to buy a bag. After buying
, the girl liked it more and more. She took a picture and posted it to her Moments to share.
happened to be seen by her boyfriend's mother. The more she looked at her boyfriend's mother, the more she felt unhappy, so she complained about the boy's words, saying that the girl bought such expensive bags and she bought more than a dozen.
So the boy told the girl about this and told the girl not to post it on Moments next time.
The girl was wondering instantly what happened to her spending her own money to buy a bag.
And this bag is not bought by my boyfriend, it is spent on my own money. What's so angry about my boyfriend's mother?
The boy said: "Just kindly reminded me, there is no other meaning, my mother is kind."
From this we can see that although the boyfriend did not blame his girlfriend for buying a bag on the surface, in fact, he talked about the girl from his mother's perspective, and thought that his girlfriend shouldn't spend 8,000 to buy a bag, which is a waste of money.
Boy thinks that you shouldn’t spend money indiscriminately. After all, it’s not easy to make money. You can buy it but don’t buy it too expensive.
He believes that the girl’s money is his money, or he should save the money and marry into his family, and it will be the common property of the couple in the future.
In fact, a bag worth 8k yuan is really not expensive. This is a bag you can buy with a monthly salary, not a bag you want.
Both of them have always been AA system. The girl has never spent a penny on a boy. Now she spends her own money but is called a prodigal girl.
chatted, and the boy found that the girl was obviously a little angry, so he kept reasoning with the girl and said what he said in his heart:
"When you get married in the future, you have to pay for your own food, rice, oil and salt.
buy too many luxury goods now, and it is not good to develop a habit. You should think more about the future." The bag of
, which is only 8,000 yuan, has been pulled by the boy to get married, and the fire, rice, oil and salt after marriage.
You taste it, you taste it carefully, and then...
Finally, the girl realized that her values are different from the boy. Since the values are different, there is no need to continue this relationship.
The boy saw that the girl was about to break up because of this incident, so he quickly apologized and said that he was just a joke, so why take it seriously.
Sometimes, what you say is often the real thoughts in your subconscious mind.
If there is no girl saying "they need to rethink whether a two-person fit" between them, then does the boy think what he said is right?
The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional, this is no longer a joke.
In response to this, netizens mocked and commented:
"Fortunately I'm not married, the girl runs away or not, I'll use the forklift to shovel her run"
" It's not a question of whether to post or not, but the boys have the same idea as their mothers."
" Now I'm not breaking up and keeping it for the New Year?"
" The values are obviously different. The men should convince their mother, not their girlfriend "
" It seems that pre-marital agreement is very necessary. In the mind of the man, after the woman’s marriage, both the man’s property belongs to the man. Don’t say that he has earned money by himself, even filial piety to his parents depends on the man’s face.
is his mother on one side and his girlfriend on the other. It’s hard to help anyone, but the relationship belongs to two people, and the boy must make this clear.
The relationship between two people should not be involved in a third party, even if it is their own mother.
has different consumption concepts, which is enough to prove that boys’ mothers think girls are not suitable for being daughter-in-law. When you get married in the future, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will definitely not be easy to deal with.
has different values and it is difficult to truly integrate them together.
The two have different values. After spending time together for a long time, conflicts will only increase. It's like a child with congenital weakness, with many disasters and diseases.
This incident reminds me of another netizen’s contribution.
The girl is in her senior year this year and is preparing to go out for an internship. She thinks that she should look like she should go to work.
So, she bought a piece of clothing worth more than 3,000 yuan with the scholarship.
But unexpectedly, this consumption angered my boyfriend.
When my boyfriend found out, he accused the girl of being too promiscuous and thought she shouldn’t buy such expensive clothes. She hadn’t graduated yet. Wouldn’t she spend more money after graduation?
girls, actually, there is no habit of spending money randomly. She rarely buys various clothes, cosmetics, etc. at school, and generally only consumes what she should be needed.
The reason why she spent 3,000 yuan to buy one piece of clothing is that she thinks expensive clothes are more textured, comfortable to wear on her body, and good quality.
is of good quality and is not easy to deform and pill. In normal times, you can wear it all the time as long as the style is out of date.
The conditions of a girl’s family are average, but not bad. She basically has an AA system during her date with her boyfriend.
My boyfriend is a senior. He has been working for half a year. Except for the time when the girl went to find him during the summer vacation, she spent her boyfriend's money.
Usually, she spends all her money at school and never asks her boyfriend for a penny. She often takes the initiative to prepare small gifts for her boyfriend.
So, the girl never asked for anything from her boyfriend. Now she spent her scholarship to buy a piece of clothing, but her boyfriend got angry. She really couldn't understand.
Seeing her boyfriend get angry, the girl began to doubt herself, is there something wrong with her values, and is she really not supposed to spend 3,000 to buy a piece of clothing.
So I thought that it is still time to refund now, I have not worn it or cleaned it, and the tag has not been removed.
It can be seen that the girl likes this dress very much and does not want to refund it, but she does not want to make her boyfriend angry.
So, she was hesitant and didn't know what to do.
I want to say that this is spent on my own money, not my boyfriend's, so I don't have to deliberately cater to my boyfriend and feel wronged.
This time the compromise will happen the same thing next time. Do you also think that you are not worthy of having good things?
Although hard work and thrift are a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, it is not time to talk about marriage, so you can control it too much.
In response to this, netizens commented angrily:
"Remember, this is your own money."
"If you buy him a pair of shoes for these 3,000 yuan, would you guess he would be angry?"
"He just likes your cheap look"
There are really not so many people in this world who are in love with each other. The more you are good to a person, the more embarrassed you will lose, the more energy you put in, the more painful it will be when you are injured.
Different feelings of values are destined to go further.
The values are different, and no matter how well the conditions are negotiated, there will definitely be problems. This is true for career partners, making friends, and even more so for husband and wife.
The famous writer Goethe once said:
agrees deeply.
Maybe we don’t have to find someone with the same viewpoint, but we must not find someone with too much difference in viewpoints.
I once heard a story about a couple who have been married for 30 years and even divorced at the age of 60.
The reason for divorce is very simple, because the woman has had enough of the man's stinginess. Since the year of marriage, the man has been petty in consumption.
The woman always told him that the pattern should be bigger and the values should be changed, and he always said this, "Don't always spend some unnecessary things, why are you buying such expensive?"
However, when he bought cigarettes for himself, he always bought more expensive cigarettes, and he never looked down on cheap cigarettes.
When the woman told him, why can you buy good cigarettes to smoke? I can’t buy expensive things?
He will refute the woman, it’s healthy to smoke more expensive cigarettes. Besides, what’s the use of buying such a good cigarette? As long as it can be used.
你品，你细品，再细品。
The values that have been developed since childhood cannot be changed when they are old. Stingy means being stingy. After 30 years of stingy, he thinks he is right.
The woman enrolled the children in an interest class to cultivate some hobbies and asked the children to have one more talent, and he would think that there is no need to enroll in an interest class.
believes that children nowadays just need to attend school well, and signing up for interest classes is a waste of money.
At the same time, the woman hopes that her partner can become her soul companion, be harmonious and support each other, while the man is not involved in everything, has no common topics or common hobbies.
This unequal marriage is just that the woman is constantly compromising.
后来，她终于提出了离婚。 Because after having enough of every purchase, it depends on his face. After having enough of it, he will always think from his own perspective.
So, how can people with different values continue happily?
only has one party to compromise, and it will collapse sooner or later after a long time.
There is no relationship between men and women. We can slowly cultivate it. There is no love to develop and no money to earn it. But if the values of both parties are different, there is really no way to solve it.
Psychologist Honey said:
"The biggest gap between people is not status, wealth, education, or beauty and ugliness, but values."
agrees deeply. Anyone who touches money can see clearly.
It is difficult for people with different values to agree with your thoughts and actions, just as it is difficult for you to agree with him.
When you compromise again and again, what you get is not his respect and understanding, but accusation.
So, whether it is to make friends or have a relationship, it is best to choose someone with a consistent view of the three views.
May you all meet people with the same values as you.
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共勉！
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