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will disperse as you walk, so don’t look back.
After getting along for a long time, the concentration of feelings will gradually decrease in normal times, and I can't find the feeling of being in love before.
used to feel a positive and full sense of security, but later it changed.
01 The sense of security should always be there.
There is a friend who has been talking to her boyfriend for more than a year. At the beginning, both of them were very good, fighting and making trouble, without any big noise or big conflict.
And seeing a relationship with her smile blooming like a flower, it really makes me envious. Everyone feels that she has a sweet love this time.
But now she is no longer as happy as last year. She has repeatedly complained about it several times, and her boyfriend sometimes called her but she didn't get it.
A boyfriend asked her why, and she said she called her family. He wanted to see it, she gave it. At first it was fine, but later I always quarreled because I failed to receive the call in time and felt insecure.
The two trusted each other before, but now their boyfriend is always afraid and worried that she will chat with others and be with others.
The torture of long-distance relationship made them feel tired. She didn't like boys' distrust.
But she always calls and doesn't reply to text messages, which will make the other party feel cold and violent. Even if
is explained, there is a sense of powerlessness, because many times it will cause the trust that I had finally established, and it will disappear directly.
Boys also need a sense of security. If they also feel worried about gains and losses, they will also feel that their position in her heart is not that important.
Sense of security must be given to each other, fear and anxiety are distrust and suspicion for each other.
At first I felt that I could chat with each other and reach a close agreement, but that was just an ideal state. I never thought about really thinking from the perspective of both parties.
has great contradictions and conflicts, and they will use breakups as an example, breaking up and getting together, falling into a dead cycle, unable to get out, and there are no new updates.
So, if the accumulated old injuries and damage are a lot, it will explode one day.
The two of them fade away as they walk and then disperse.
02 One person's efforts are meaningless.
Infatuated love does make the other person feel happy at the beginning, and it is not easy to meet someone.
But later, various lives gradually became busier and more familiar, and a person always took the initiative.
Another person was not interested, and the reply seemed to have a perfunctory attitude.
But the person who insisted still couldn't help but break the connection. He still had a desire and expected the other party to be more enthusiastic and positive. Although
came together, there was no common goal.
There is a female friend who just thinks that the goals she and her boyfriend are fighting for are different. One wants to find a stable job in the future, have a job and a home.
One thinks to continue to struggle in the future, and do not rush to kill yourself and develop dynamically. I don’t know how to integrate the differences caused by
, or neutralize them with each other. Both of them can accept and do what they can do.
They are still together, but they are not that happy anymore.
Even if the proactive party is still active as always, the other party does not think it is caring and liking, but it is a kind of disgust and dislike.
A person's persistence may be very confident and powerful at the beginning, but once a problem occurs, hard work and persistence are useless.
It dispersed as you walk, but the other party doesn’t want to give you enthusiasm, and your initiative becomes disturbance.
will disperse, and it will be a new beginning if it doesn’t look back.
