Today, I found an entry "The bride gives the bouquet of flowers to my mother-in-law". At first glance, I thought my mother-in-law was single, so my daughter-in-law advised her to find another wife. As a result, after clicking on the video, I realized that I was too limited.
This beautiful bride is not only beautiful but also has a high emotional intelligence. At the wedding, she specially prepared a bouquet of hand-held flowers to give it to her mother-in-law.
In her opinion, the mother-in-law has always treated herself as her daughter and always has understanding and respect for the relationship between herself and her husband.
, especially some small details in daily life, such as peeling off grape skin and putting it into a bowl for her to eat, buying durian she likes to eat, and squeeze her toothpaste in the morning. This kind of action that was more detailed than what her mother did, made her feel the warmth of home when she married far away.
I looked at the comment area and found that there were certainly netizens who expressed envy, but many people think that some things should not be too full and moved, and don’t come too early. I will see if I have a child when I have a child. Although this statement is inappropriate, it is really true.
Some in-laws are also very strange. Before marriage, they try every means to coax their daughter-in-law into the house. After marriage, they treat their daughter-in-law as an outsider. The attitude turns 180 degrees, and they are definitely two faces.
As the saying goes, "Details show character, small things show people's hearts". Whether the in-laws treat you as an outsider can be seen from these two small things. It’s false or false, and it can’t fool people at all.
Always keeping you behind your back, discussing things with your son
Some in-laws usually talk and laugh with their daughter-in-law, and they look kind, but they never discuss big and small things at home.
What's more bizarre is that they don't know what kind of mentality they always guard against their daughter-in-law and hide all kinds of things. It is no exaggeration to say that everyone in the in-laws knows more than their daughter-in-law.
The most common phenomenon in this kind of in-laws is that the family members were originally muttering and whispering, and when they saw their daughter-in-law coming, they quickly shut up tacitly, or talk about other topics.
Or else, try to find a way to save the daughter-in-law and then discuss it with her son separately. As for the final result, if the daughter-in-law needs to contribute money and efforts, they will know it. Otherwise, you will think that you are an irrelevant person and there is no need to know.
Alas, I am treated like this all day long, and even if there is no conflict, I can still cause conflicts. It will also make those daughters-in-law who originally worked hard to treat their in-laws and their hearts cold.
On the contrary, those in-laws who regard their daughter-in-law as their family members from the heart will be open and honest in everything. Anything or problems will be directly on the table.
Family family members do not need to be careful when getting along and have no scruples when chatting. This is the most comfortable relationship. Only by saying things can you eliminate the barriers and your life will get better and better.
When you are sick and encounter difficulties, regardless of
To put it very realistic, only family members in this world want you to live a good life. When you are sick and in trouble, only your family will truly care about you.
Those in-laws who regard their daughter-in-law as their family are often kind and reasonable. They may have all kinds of minor problems, but they are good to their daughter-in-law from the bottom of their hearts.
When cooking, you will consider your daughter-in-law's taste and preferences. If the daughter-in-law mentions what she wants to eat, they will buy it home the next day. When their daughter-in-law is sick and suffers, they will care about their well-being and try their best to help.
Moreover, their goodness often has boundaries and proportions, which will not make people disgusted, and will not give people a feeling of alienation.
On the contrary, some in-laws never regard their daughter-in-law as their family, so when their daughter-in-law is at the most helpless moment, they can be cruel and careless. It's even more ruthless than neighbors and strangers.
I heard from a mother that she accidentally bumped into someone when she rode an electric bike. I was shocked at that time and didn't know what to do.
If it were the past, she would definitely call her father. But now she is married after all, and she naturally thinks that her in-laws are her own support.
So, she called her in-laws' family. As a result, her in-laws' attitude was extremely cold and she directly asked her to pay for it herself, but she didn't even show her face from beginning to end.
From this little thing, she completely understood that she had always been an outsider. No matter how much you give or how low your posture is, it is just a boring thing.
Finally, I want to say that people’s hearts are replaced by others. When you encounter a heart that you can’t keep warm, you don’t have to force yourself. After all, when you meet someone who doesn’t know how to cherish, your kindness will become pleasing and showing weakness in their eyes.
Get along with your in-laws, keep your bottom line, and have a clear conscience. As long as your partner does not regard you as an outsider and always stands on the united front with you, it is enough!
