Many people think that soul mate means that two people have the same views as each other. In fact, the real soul mate is that even if the three views are inconsistent, they can still understand and tolerate each other and are willing to think from the perspective of others.
In this world, there are many people who can chat with each other. Not only one person, but there is only one soul mate. A true soul mate should not be able to chat, but when there is a disagreement, you can still chat. Chatting is not about exchanging opinions, but about in-depth communication and collision of thoughts.
But in real life, what most people say is that the soul mate is limited to the other party being able to meet their own spiritual needs. This is not a soul mate, but only a soul provider.
Although they have different opinions, they appreciate each other and have a great sense of mutual appreciation.
In addition, a true soul mate can also make you dare to face your true side and be willing to open your heart to her.
The reason why people have obsession with soul mates is precisely because soul mates can meet the most real needs of human nature, not be affected by the outside world, and when they get along, they give people a feeling of relaxation and comfort.
In general, if you have the following three ideas with the other party, you will meet your soul mate:
01), and your opinions are often inconsistent, but you still want to continue to communicate with the other party
Often readers tell me that I often have disagreements with my partner, and I think it is difficult to get along with, but I can't bear to leave the other party, and the other party is really nice to me.
It is normal for two people to have different opinions. Even two people with the same values will have different opinions. After all, in addition to being based on values, people's thinking is also related to the environment, location and current mood of a person. Therefore, this does not mean that two people are not soul mates.
After all, sometimes disagreement can create more sparks, allowing each other to understand each other better, broaden their horizons and improve their understanding of things.
Love someone, not asking the other person to give up his ideas, accept your transformation, and become another you, but accept and tolerate the other person with an open attitude, discover the other person's strengths, and be willing to understand why the other person thinks this way? Because this may be a direction you ignore. Only a partner like
can be called a soul mate. The soul mate is not two similar people, but two people who can get more nourishment in the depths of their souls, discover more, and become better self.
02) There will be pressure, but motivation is greater than pressure, and there will be more
Some people say that there is no pressure between soul mates, and you can completely relax and be your real self, including presenting your vulgar shortcomings and unknown side.
can only say that you can do this, it is the other party's tolerance for you, but this is not a reasonable excuse for you to consume the other party's kindness to you.
Soul mates are not used to consume each other. They should not think that the other party understands you, so they consume the other party unscrupulously. Instead, they should learn from each other's strengths, and both of them are heading in a better direction.
This is the positive meaning of soul mate.
The real soul mate will also be under pressure, and that motivation is greater than pressure, and it is more powerful.
Because they will tolerate each other, support each other, and encourage each other.
You don’t have to worry about the other party’s shortcomings when you don’t like your shortcomings, but you won’t be justified and naturally ask the other party to tolerate you. For you, the other party is a partner who can inspire you to become better, rather than a defect recycling bin or emotional garbage can.
Soul mates are attracted to each other because they see the shining points on the other person, rather than seeing a garbage bag in their hands.
03), be able to face the other person's past calmly, and be brave enough to face the future
A complete person is composed of the past, present and future.
The soul mate fully accepts the other party, so real soul mates can face the other party's past calmly and bravely face the future.
He knows very well that he wants to be with you is you. He cares about your soul and your heart, not your past. He will not think that a person's past represents a person's life. What he sees is not only the surface of things, but also the entanglements and embarrassment at that time. Compared to the matter itself, he cares more about your perception of the past, as well as your prospects and determination for the future.
The true soul mate, as long as he determines the other person's intentions, will firmly hold each other's hands. The past is past for them, and the future is also waving to them in front and spreading arms to them.
The true soul mate is to travel you to the future, rather than to open your past and deny and rebuke you in the name of loving you. This is not love, but consumption.
Two people are together, whether facing the past, present and future, and can firmly hold each other's hand, and they can be called soul mates.
Summary:
Many people have been looking for soul mates throughout their lives, but they often fail to get it because what they ask for is not a soul mate, but a tool person that completely meets their needs. The true soul mates are mutual, they need to take the initiative to move towards each other, and they need to learn to be tolerant.
Tolerance does not refer to tolerance without bottom line, but allows the other party to have different opinions and are willing to listen, but there is no need to change yourself in order to cater to the other party.
The true soul mate, it is not that I have meaning with you, but that when I meet you, I will become better because the soul will no longer be lonely.
