No matter in the face of family affection or love, men’s expression of this relationship will not be as straightforward and clear as women. Many men seem to turn that deep love into silent words when facing emotions.
Women are different. Most women are good at expressing themselves and will be very proactive in the face of any emotion. Therefore, we often hear some women around us complain about their men, saying that they are like a lump, saying that they are too dull, saying that they do not understand the charm and do not understand romance.
In fact, many times, women have misunderstandings about them.
Men, especially after middle age, are busy at work, so they can live a better life in this family. They get up early and go to bed late, and are so busy that they forget that they will bring you the love fantasies they expect.
So, you feel that he has changed and no longer loves you. But Ignore the company and care for you every time you get sick and every time you need him.
So, those who seem to "not love", are actually their greatest responsibility and love for this relationship.
The man's bad words are his silent love
A few days ago, I saw a video where a couple and their children lived in a very small house. When his wife married him, she ignored the opposition of her family and turned down the blind date introduced by her neighbor, and married him without hesitation.
After marriage, they gave birth to a child. She was busy picking up and dropping off the children and taking care of her husband every day. She was sick that day and saw the child doing homework alone, with unwashed dishes and chopsticks in the kitchen and dirty clothes thrown in the small bathroom.
She was about to explode in an instant, but she was afraid of disturbing the child. She finished all this alone and sat behind the child to tutor homework.
At this time, the man came back. She pushed him out and said to him quietly, so that he would not affect the child's learning. The man did as he did, walked in the door lightly, threw his shoes and socks aside, and started lying down to look at his phone again, and forgot that today was the wedding anniversary.
The woman was very angry. She suppressed the anger in her heart and went into the bedroom to send him a WeChat message saying she wanted to get a divorce. Because she felt that the man had not shared anything for her.
At the end of the story, the two people hugged each other with a smile. The man was just criticized by his leader when he came home. When he entered the door, he still squeezed his smile. He was looking at his phone on the sofa because his friend introduced him to a project. He was reading the copy posted by someone else and wanted to learn it.
Moreover, he did not forget that today was an important festival. In order to buy gifts for his wife, his car was fined 200 yuan. He didn't say anything about these, and played them one by one in the silent hug at the end.
is visible, the love is deep, not a simple word, but rather, in order to give you a smile, he desperately squeezes out his care for you. It’s because he doesn’t want to bring bad emotions to his home, it’s because he wants to use his best efforts to give you a better living environment on his own. It is a memory of love that he has never forgotten.
A man’s tacit words are his love for you
It is said that women use their ears to fall in love because they love to hear some sweet words from men.
Sweet words are good, and sincere to you, and those who truly love you are talking about these are indeed manifestations of true love. But if some men with ulterior motives say all of these words in order to achieve certain purposes, they will be false.
There is also a kind of men who truly love you, but they are taciturn and cannot express their love for you in words. But he silently pampered you with his actions, pampered you into the girl who still remains innocent forever.
Li Gang's personality is like this. He usually talks little, and his wife always complains about him, thinking that he doesn't understand romance. He sees other couples shopping on the street, and chats with hands in hand and very intimately.
But she didn't see Li Gang getting up early every day. She knew that she loved to sleep in and would get up early to cook. When she came back from get off work in the evening, she would make soup for her. Knowing that she would not eat staple foods if she lost weight, she checked the combination of fat-loss foods, so she wanted her to lose weight while not lacking nutrition.
Few men can do this, but Li Gang did it. This is not love, so what?
Love is not necessarily a so-called sweet words, but it must be a lot of things for you.
So, his taciturnity seems not so sweet, but it will make all women feel down-to-earth and worth relying on for a lifetime.
The "insensitiveness" of a man is that he wants to protect you
Junichi Watanabe said: "We should not forget that behind the mutual patience between husband and wife, it is the excellent insensitiveness that supports and protects them."
So, what is insensitiveness? It is nothing more than the ability to be too sensitive to surrounding affairs, but it does not mean being dull, but emphasizes a kind of endurance towards difficulties.
In life, there will be quarrels between husband and wife. I believe that many quarrels between husband and wife are women crying and talking, while men are smoking cigarettes and not talking.
At this time, many women think that even if you say a few words, they care about themselves, so why do they insist on using silence to deliberately anger her?
Actually, Many times, men use this insensitivity method to not want both of them to do some extreme behaviors and say something hurting each other, and destroy this relationship.
They just want to maintain the relationship between you through silence. They want to let you vent their venting, and it doesn’t matter if they suffer a little, as long as it can relieve you.
Because he doesn't want to argue with you endlessly over trivial matters, what he longs for is you to be together well.
There is a saying that likes is presumptuous, while love is restraint. One of the restraints of men is to be "still dissatisfied" with you. Although it seems that I don’t love you, I actually love you very deeply.
Women must also understand the difficulty of this relationship. Don’t be in a blessing and let a good man who truly loves himself slip away quietly.
