Marriage is the second life of a woman. Only by marrying the right person can you be happy after marriage. Otherwise, after marriage, you need to integrate into a new family environment and play your own family role well. You will also face more trivial matters and pressure in life. Sometimes you have to deal with complex relationships between family members, such as conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, sister-in-law problems, etc. If you only rely on yourself to fight alone, you will inevitably feel physically and mentally exhausted. Only when the men around you know how to protect and care about themselves, can the woman live the life she wants after marriage.
You should know that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem that women must face after marriage. As a bridge of communication between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband plays a crucial role in regulating the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you only get along with the conflict and want to escape or favor with family conflicts, and treat them irrationally, the relationship between the family will only get worse and worse with time. When the conflict completely breaks out, it will not be so simple to end. As John Gotman said in "Happy Marriage": If there is a problem with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband must stand with his wife, instead of staying neutral and being a good old man.
Xu Lei and Wang Hao met at work. After two years of dating, they successfully entered into marriage. Both parties are not only children. Xu Lei has a younger brother and Wang Hao has a sister who got married very early. Xu Lei works in a public institution and has a low income, but her work is relatively stable. It does not have much competitive pressure compared to ordinary companies . Wang Hao works in a foreign company and often needs to work overtime and his family is not very good. Before dating, Wang Hao confessed the current situation at home, and Xu Lei was also moved by his sincerity and seriousness.
After dating, Wang Hao worked harder with his work and said that he would save the down payment for marriage. He was sincere to Xu Lei, almost obedient and gentle and considerate. However, after , his parents started urging him to get married after they found out, but if they wanted to get married, they couldn't avoid the bride price and house. Wang Hao's family was not well off, and he had not saved enough of the down payment. Xu Lei had to discuss with his parents whether the two families could make up the down payment together and pay the mortgage together. After the parents discussed, they directly bought the house in full. On the one hand, they recognized Wang Hao, and on the other hand, they didn't want their daughter to have to pay the mortgage after getting married. Then the couple was under great pressure.
After the marriage house was resolved, we got married smoothly and lived a comfortable life. Until Xu Lei became pregnant, Wang Hao said that he was busy with work, so he asked his mother-in-law to help, and Xu Lei agreed. But after the mother-in-law arrived, Xu Lei was miserable. The mother-in-law always felt that her daughter-in-law was too pretentious and often said: If anyone who is not pregnant is just a lot of things for you all day. Every time the food tastes are cooked according to what she likes. Xu Lei has no appetite when she sees it, and she will say it is normal to not be able to eat it. Just eat it when she is hungry. In the end, there is no way to cook, and the cooking matter falls on Xu Lei again, including washing and cleaning. Her mother-in-law goes out to stroll every day and goes home to eat at the time of the day.
So my mother-in-law lived there for more than a month. She agreed to take care of her daughter-in-law, but she came to enjoy the happiness. Sometimes she often asked Xu Lei to take her out to play and also to go shopping to buy clothes. The expenses for this month were almost as good as the living expenses of two months. Xu Lei felt dissatisfied, until the father was unwell and was hospitalized. Xu Lei was pregnant and inconvenient to go there. It was all her mother and younger brother who were helping to take care of her. After learning about this, Wang Hao said directly that he would not go to work on the weekends these two days, so he would go over to visit her.
Mother-in-law was not happy and said a lot to Wang Hao in private. Later, Wang Hao still passed by. The mother-in-law was even more dissatisfied with this. She kept talking coldly in front of her daughter-in-law and said: Your parents are not without a son, why should my son serve my father-in-law? Xu Lei was immediately angry after hearing this. She tolerated herself everywhere and served her with delicious food and drinks. But her mother-in-law said such words. She was so angry that she directly retorted: OK, your son has no obligation to serve her father-in-law, so I have no obligation to serve you, you will go back tomorrow.
After hearing this, my mother-in-law became even more angry and started shouting loudly. Xu Lei was too lazy to pay attention to it, so she went back to the room. When Wang Hao came back tomorrow, Xu Lei told him everything. After hearing this, Wang Hao went to find her mother-in-law, and later her mother-in-law reluctantly went back to her hometown.
The interaction between people is a gradual process, which requires sincere treatment and sincere relationships, but people's hearts are very complicated. If you only want to ask for something but are unwilling to give, then the relationship between them will inevitably be unbalanced, especially between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. When one party suffers all the grievances and unwilling to endure, then I will treat you whatever you treat me. The conflicts accumulate to a certain level, and it will be difficult to repair and resolve them.
So if you want to get along well, you still need to understand and tolerate each other, otherwise it will only make the family full of disputes. If you really can't get along, it's better to live separately. Sometimes, keeping a little distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to create beauty. When you see each other every now and then, the relationship will be more intimate. Living under the same roof, if you don't know how to give in, there will be more conflicts. #Emotion##Emotional Firm##Marriage#
