Marriage is not a joke. It requires the joint efforts and mutual contribution of two people to manage their family well and make their relationship lasting. However, in real life, many people regard marriage as a life task, and once it is completed, they are too lazy to manage and maintain it. If they do not assume the responsibility they should pay on their shoulders, then there will only be more and more conflicts and barriers after marriage, and eventually let the relationship between them end.
For women, marriage is related to their second half of their lives. Only when they meet the right person can they live the life they want. Therefore, when facing love, they should not be too blind and naive. They need to keep their eyes open and be cautious. Only after weighing the pros and cons can they make the right choices, rather than rushing into marriage based on their temporary favors.
Wang Yan has a good family background. She grew up under the spoiled of her parents since she was a child, and she has a very arrogant personality. Later, Wang Yan also had two love affairs, and each time it ended in failure. Her ex was always very patient with her and would tolerate her little temper at the beginning, but when the freshness faded, the other party was no longer gentle and considerate, and eventually broke up due to quarrels over various trivial matters.
Later, Wang Yan no longer had expectations for love, but devoted her time and energy to work and became a strong woman in the workplace. It was not until she met Xu Yang at a party that her relationship developed. Xu Yang was two years younger than Wang Yan and was a very warm man. She often asked about Wang Yan's life and listened to her work troubles. Wang Yan sometimes made some willful requests, and Xu Yang was obedient. Gradually, Wang Yan's heart was also moved by Xu Yang.
Later, the two officially confirmed their relationship. As their understanding deepened, Wang Yan found that her boyfriend seemed to have a flattering personality. He always looked at other people's faces and did things, and would give priority to other people's emotions. Even if he was wronged, he should focus on others. Wang Yan, who had two emotional failures, also grew up and no longer proposed to break up easily, but actively helped her boyfriend solve her shortcomings.
After understanding, Wang Yan knew that her boyfriend's mother had a very strong personality, and she had a strong possessive and controlful desire. She had to interfere with Xu Yang's life, work and interpersonal relationships. No matter what Xu Yang did, she needed to go through her consent. Over time, Xu Yang lost her own opinion and only knew to obey blindly. Because she did not dare to resist, she formed a pleasing personality.
Therefore, when dating, Wang Yan gave Xu Yang a lot of freedom, and would encourage him to make decisions by himself, cultivate his interests and hobbies, let him change his thinking and dare to try. Under Wang Yan's leadership, Xu Yang changed a lot, only his mother, who didn't like Xu Yang's changes very much.
Later, Wang Yan and Xu Yang also entered the marriage hall as they wished. The reason why Xu Yang's mother did not object was that she felt that her daughter-in-law had a good family background and had her own career. She was older than her son, so she must be more mature and could take good care of her son. But when she learned that it was Wang Yan that her son became more and more independent, she thought from the bottom of her heart that her daughter-in-law was not a good person.
In the future, the mother-in-law has no good expression on Wang Yan. Wang Yan can naturally feel that her personality is also very strong. Since she can't get along, she will live separately. So the couple moved out. The mother-in-law is even more angry about this, feeling that her daughter-in-law is deliberately provoking discord and letting Xu Yang escape from her control.
It was not until Wang Yan had a child that her mother-in-law found an excuse to move over. During the confinement period, her mother-in-law began to sarcastically, saying that her daughter-in-law was too pretentious and would be provocative. Due to her physical discomfort, Wang Yan was too lazy to argue with her so as not to get angry. When she was pregnant, Wang Yan returned to the workplace. Her mother-in-law continued to stay and take care of her children, but she did not stop targeting her daughter-in-law. For example, she would deliberately leave all the housework to her daughter-in-law, and when she came back from work, she always spoke coldly when chatting. Wang Yan dared to refute her and dared to cry, and often said that her daughter-in-law did not know how to be filial to herself, but was just an outsider.
Wang Yan couldn't stand it even after a long time. She had to go to work during the day, did housework to take care of the children at night, and had to deal with the unreasonable troubles. What disappointed her the most was her husband. She didn't dare to say a word in front of her mother-in-law, and she turned back to the obedient and incompetent mother-in-law.
Two months passed like this. Wang Yan felt physically and mentally exhausted, and lost confidence in this relationship. Finally, she filed for divorce, and the family was completely separated. Xu Yang also tried to keep him, but Wang Yan did not give him another chance. Her mother said proudly: This kind of woman does not know how to respect and be filial to me. It is better to leave. Then mom will find a better one for you. After hearing this, Xu Yang did not reply, and he knew very well that as long as his mother's intervention, his marriage would be destined to be uneasy.
Susan Forward once said: For manipulative parents, the marriage of their children is extremely threatening. They regard their children's spouses as competitors for their children's feelings and have fierce wars with them. In order to take into account the relationship between the two sides, their children are often attacked from both sides.
Parents' desire to control is too strong, which often affects their children's physical and mental health. For example, they will lose their ability to be independent and self-reliant, and will form a pleasing personality. They think they are for the good of their children, but in fact they are just meeting their inner needs. You must know that they always get old and cannot take care of their children's life. If they do not consider the future of their children, they only know that they will interfere with their own selfish desires. In the end, they will only make their children's marriage end and will also affect their future life. #Marriage##Emotion##Emotional Firm##Emotional Firm#
