The author of "Talking about Happiness with Philosophers" is the French philosopher Frederick Lenoir. In the book, he gave some methods and ways to be happy from his practice in this life. He gave ten suggestions. If everyone hopes that their lives can be happy, these ten methods by the author will help us gain happiness.
The first method is called concentration. When eating at home, turn on the TV and pick a movie to watch. It is difficult to feel the attraction brought by the movie. It is so convenient to watch movies at home now. As long as you turn on the TV, you can choose the blockbusters you like. The problem is that when you eat at home, every blockbuster looks like a chewy wax, but if you are in a theater, even if you are playing an old movie, you can be very devoted. What is the difference between the two? Focusing.
Have you ever tried not to feel happiness when you are at tourist attractions? If you go to a tourist attraction, you are very happy: "I'm here for Huangguoshu Waterfall!" Suddenly the boss called and said that a contract was wrong, and you need to take a look. What would you feel at this time? Your first reaction may be: take a photo and leave quickly, because your mind is no longer in this place. This is what we call the importance of concentration.
mHarry Chexsonmihalay said in "Flow": If you feel boring in something, it is not the problem with that thing at all, but the wrong way of doing things. So, the first thing we need to learn is to focus. I am teaching here, and if I am indifferent, I will not be happy; if you are listening to books here, if you are reading books, looking at your phone, and looking at your circle of friends, you will think that I am a very annoying source of information, and the sounds made will affect your circle of friends. This is the pain of not focusing. So the first method that the author proposed is to focus. We should learn to focus in our work in the future, because concentration can bring happiness.
The second thing is to participate. Participate in, and devote yourself in. Actually, I think participation and concentration are similar. When the author was young, he volunteered in Mother Teresa's nursing home. In , Kolkata , there were dying elderly people everywhere, most of whom were miserable and lying there with injuries all over his body. As a Frenchman, he has a poor language and does not understand what those people say at all. He is not a medical worker. He does not know how to bandage wounds on people, and he does not know what he should do.
Later he found an old man lying there, and when he was dying, he was in great pain. He felt that he had nothing to do and didn't know how to help these people, so he went over and grabbed the old man's hand and stroked the old man's body. Because the dying person was very uncomfortable, he kept touching the old man like this and said to him in French: "It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter."
The old man spoke to him in Indian language. He couldn't understand what the old man was saying, and the old man couldn't understand what he was saying, but the old man's two lines of tears flowed down his cheeks. A hot stream surged in his heart, and he felt that he should be involved here. So later he discussed with the people in the nursing home and said that I was responsible for this matter, and I was responsible for accompanying the dying people. I hugged every dying person and then spoke to them like this. The practical life during that holiday brought him a new life, which was the happiness brought by the participants. Therefore, the second trick proposed by the author is to participate.
The third one is called meditation. Meditation is to "see the cold eyes but not get deeply trapped in it." Just sit there quietly, either cross-legged or not, you can sit like this, or you can sit casually, and then let your thoughts rise up one by one and just stare at it, without following it or suppressing it. This state is called "sighting coldly, but not getting deeply trapped in it." The short meditation is only a few minutes (the author says that sometimes he can meditate for a few minutes while he is on the way to and from work, which is also great), and it is OK for a few hours.
The three methods just mentioned: focus, participation, and meditation. In fact, there is a word that can be summarized in the West - mindfulness, which is translated into Chinese as " mindfulness ".When we can concentrate and maintain mindfulness, we are in mindfulness. But if we are distracted, do one thing and think about something else, and then get irritated, we will be out of our state. Therefore, a person can wash dishes, walk and speak leisurely... is the beginning of happiness.
