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My name is Zhou Hong, I am 29 years old this year, and I am a teacher from a public elementary school. My ancestral home is Foshan . I came to Shenzhen with my parents when I was very young. My parents run a small shop in Huaqiangbei. Due to early accumulation, my financial conditions are quite good, and I have some savings. I even bought a car and a house.
After graduating from university, I naturally stayed in Shenzhen to work. Because my brother passed away in an accident a few years ago, I became the only daughter of the family. My parents both hoped that I would get married and get married sooner. Maybe I'm too picky. After a while, I missed the best age to find a partner. In the past two years, my parents have obviously become a little anxious and introduced me to my boyfriend through various connections, including many boys with good conditions.
Just last week, I went on a blind date with a software engineer in Huawei for an annual salary of 600,000 yuan. I told this and everyone would like to see if I did it right.
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Let’s call this boy Xiao Zhang. Xiao Zhang is 180 tall and handsome. He is from Shandong. Last year, he paid a 120-square-meter house on Guangming . He ideally wanted to find a local girl from Guangdong. He required her age not to be over 30 years old, she had a good appearance and figure, and had a good higher education. It is best to be a civil servant, a teacher, a doctor, etc., but the annual salary is less than 150,000 yuan. Because he asked the two to pay the mortgage together after marriage, the girls' family conditions must be good and their parents must have enough pension money.
The introducer felt that I was very compatible with him in all aspects, so he found an opportunity to meet us. At that time, I felt very strange. There should be no pressure to repay the mortgage with his income. Why did he put the issue of girls repaying the loan together on the table?
Later, after a detailed chat, I found out that his family had a younger brother and a younger sister in high school, and it was time to use money. Moreover, his parents are both ordinary farmers, and they often have to be hospitalized if they are in poor health. He has to give his family at least 10,000 yuan of living expenses every month.
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He said he planned to take his parents over to live with him in the future, and to help his younger brothers and sisters live together before they get married. So he hopes that girls should be sensible and work hard, go to the hall and go to the kitchen, and help him take good care of his parents and younger siblings.
After listening to what he said, I felt very uncomfortable. Of course, I also understand that with his conditions, it is definitely not that difficult to find a local marriage partner. But for me, I always feel uncomfortable. This is an obvious machismo tendency, but because his overall conditions are not bad, he is very conflicted.
But I am a person with a temperament, so I told him directly, "Is your requirement a little too high? I suggest you think from the perspective of others. If the girl you like meets these conditions, have you considered his ideas?
He was very unhappy when he heard me say this and made a strong defense. He said that these requirements were not high at all, he had a high income in his house and his career prospects were optimistic. Shouldn’t it be better to find a local girl with good conditions? He said that he valued the tolerance and hard work of Guangdong girls, so he decided to find a local girl.
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probably didn't want to give up so resolutely. I also tried to think about it. Now that houses in Shenzhen are so expensive, it is normal to pay off the mortgage together after getting married. Moreover, his parents have trained him for so many years. Now it is the time to repay, so it is also time to be filial to the elders together.
If my family is not in good condition, the pressure of 4 elderly people to support their elderly care is simply unbearable. After thinking from the perspective of others, my mood became much more stable and my heart changed a little. From the intuitive feeling of the chat, it can be seen that he is quite satisfied with me.
probably because both of them think that each other's conditions are pretty good, so we communicate further. I said that even if I am willing to be with you, my parents may not agree. My parents hope that I can be happy after marriage, but when I get married to you, I will not only have to take a mortgage, but also take care of your parents. When we have children, there will be old and young people at that time, and the pressure will be great.Moreover, your parents are in poor health and must ask my parents to help take care of the children. Have you ever thought about these very realistic things?
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Maybe the details of my life were too naked. He was silent and looked out the window. We didn't speak for a long time.
I used the excuse that something happened and quietly paid the order to say goodbye to him. I said that if I have fate, there will be a period of time. In Shenzhen, where "time is money", falling in love is such a luxury!
Walking on the busy Shennan Avenue , the light and shadow intertwined, mottled, I was filled with thoughts, and I couldn't calm down for a long time: What a beautiful thing it is to be in love with each other, but we are so naked and in pain.
people are really the more sober they are, the more rational they are. To put it bluntly, he is an ordinary phoenix man. Although I am a little older, there is no need to hang myself on this tree, right? Marriage is a lifelong thing, so why force yourself into the trap?
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I really want to hear everyone’s opinions. If I were replaced by you, would you still be willing to be together?
