Everyone has imagined a comfortable and pleasant evening scene, and hopes that they can live a more comfortable life in their later years. Some people suggest that when people get old, don’t pay too much attention to gains and losses. You must learn to relax your hands appropriately. Whether it is for family or friends, the more generous you will be, the more comfortable you will be.
Many people are thinking about how to make their old age comfortable? Some people think that when people get old, their ability to make money has decreased, and they don’t eat much and use it much, so it’s better to enjoy more. You should eat and spend it. Don’t always save money and look at the number growth.
Some people also think that life is short and fleeting, why not take advantage of yourself to walk around and meet your family and friends more often. It is most important to have a leisurely trip. As for the evening scene? There must be a road before the car arrives at the mountain. Why set obstacles for yourself?
Is the real life really as good as these people imagine? Life is realistic, human nature is real, not what you think, but what others will do. It’s not that you can get kind-hearted feedback if you don’t care. Often, the greater the expectations, the more disappointed you are.
Community 78-year-old Mr. Wu used his life experience to warn us: In his old age, the more generous a person is, the less comfortable he will be. Anyway, should not be too generous. The more stingy you can have a comfortable life.
Contributor: 78-year-old Mr. Wu
should not treat adult children too generously. He often gives too much unconditionally. The one who suffers is himself
I am 78 years old this year and my health is still acceptable, thanks to the result of my long-term persistence in exercise. My wife is 5 years younger than me and she is in good health. At least I think she is very good. Her figure is not that "bloated" and her tone is not that "depressed". We often go to the square to exercise together, take a bus to the park, and enjoy the flowers in the botanical garden.
My family has a pair of children, and they are all married and have children. Now my eldest grandson has started working and is preparing to get married next year; my daughter's grandson is also studying for graduate school and will start working in a few years.
A few of us retired in the same year will occasionally get together to chat about life and talk about the children of each family. Some people say that it is useless for us elderly people to keep money. is enough for living expenses every month, and the remaining money is given to their children. is much better than depositing it into the bank.
Who knew that a sudden illness requires money. We elderly people have no money in their hands. They can invest money for their children and they can't get it out for a while. Who can I borrow so much money from? In the end, delayed the best treatment time, and the consequences could only be borne by the elderly.
There is also an old man who obeys his son in every way, helps his son buy a house, and sponsors his grandchildren to get married. He feels like he is the "old treasure" of his family. I don’t want to find my daughter when she encounters difficulties, and she doesn’t have much money in her hands. She doesn’t want to sponsor her daughter, so she can only tell her that she will ask her parents-in-law to sponsor her family’s affairs.
The old man just opens his eyes and tells lies. He knows that his in-laws and old couples are no longer in the world, but he still treats his daughter like this. Now that he has no money, he has sent to the pension money by his son and daughter-in-law. He calls his daughter every day and says that he can give all his pension to his daughter. But his daughter doesn't take him home no matter what he says, and can only wait for that day in the nursing home.
In the old age, people should learn to be kind to themselves, not be too generous to their adult children, and do not let go of their own savings until they are in the end. No one can test the things in human nature at will, and what they often get is disappointment and sadness.
I treat my son and daughter equally. I will not give more money just because I am a legitimate grandson, nor will I be slow to treat it just because I am a grandson. In your old age, can learn to deal with and be smooth, so that your children can be better with you. hand over everything you have early, who will think of you, the "old thing" again!
people seek profit and avoid harm. When it is profitable, they will take the initiative to approach. Once there is no profit, they will stay away.This is how human nature is, so even for the biological children, we as the elderly must learn to provide moderate assistance, and often give them all unconditionally, and the ultimate consequence is the elderly.
People's relationships with the worldly style, do what you can and pass it generously, and what you are hurt is your own
people until their old age. When facing the worldly styles with the worldly style, should not be a sucker. Learn to act within your ability and follow the crowd. does not have to highlight your former glory. In that way, you will only be used by others and become the target of others' "fighting the autumn wind".
Old man Qin next door to my house is retired, with a high pension and more savings than ordinary people. Usually in the community, some single elderly people who want to " toy sacrifice " will come to him in groups. After you say one complimentary word by one, Old Man Qin will take them to a big meal.
When everyone sat together, they praised Old Man Qin for his righteousness, looked up to his glory, and praised his former abilities. Old Man Qin feels that after he retires, there are so many admirers, and the feeling of being valued in his heart is still very good.
So, every time someone has a wedding and wedding event, , he always gets more than ordinary people. However, once he had enteritis and was hospitalized because of food, and was extremely bored, so he wanted to call a few brothers who had eaten and drank together for a chat.
Who knew that was not pretending to have something to do at home and said that he had gone to his children's house. In short, he had been in the hospital for many days, and only one or two people went to visit him. Moreover, was not the old man who often followed him to eat and drink. This made Old Man Qin very angry and thought that he could never be like before. He had the money to invite them to eat and drink. When he needed to accompany him, he could also get good comfort in his heart.
I think that people are all "use relationships" between people, and if there is no use, there will be no relationships. When you get old, people who still eat and drink together in will not have sincere friends. should still learn to identify, save more money in moderation, and use it when you urgently need it, which is better than being a sucker in the world.
Every time, when we have dinner together, there will always be people saying that is distributed according to the proportion of the pension. Over time, I will no longer attend such dinners. Such a dinner is just to provide food, drink and entertainment for others, and I am just someone else's cash machine.
In your old age, you will find that the human feelings that once managed with care are just love and friendship that is thinner than paper. Learn to be stingy, and you will find that the exchanges you should have can be exchanged, but your life has become much easier. not only has more money, but also has a much happier mood.
When relatives borrow money, crying more and more poor is better than being poor and generous
0 people until their old age, and then there are exchanges between relatives, especially when borrowing money to guarantee. You must think about it before doing it. Don’t be praised by a few nice words, especially those who have not contacted for a long time to borrow money or guarantee. You must refuse .
In the old age, it is not embarrassing to cry moderately in front of relatives. It is much more comfortable than being poor. I remember my cousin, an old man in his 80s. Because he was the oldest in his family, the younger generation liked to borrow money from him. Some borrowed thousands, and some borrowed tens of thousands, but he borrowed it without saying a word.
But when his grandson needed to spend money to buy a house, he didn't say that he had paid back the money on his own initiative. After making too many calls, some people blocked him and even changed his mobile phone number directly.
Every time I go back to my hometown to visit, my cousin said with emotion, "The world has changed, and people's hearts have become bad" . I am different from my cousin. When relatives borrow money, some of them asked me to guarantee me, I said I was poor. The house in is not mine, and my pension is not my own. I asked them to go to my son if they have something to do. After a long time, although everyone called me an "old fox", I did lose a lot of worries and felt that I would not have such troubles from relatives, and I would live a comfortable life in my later years.
people don’t have to be too generous and be stingy to live comfortably
Shakespeare once said: “Money is a good soldier. With it, it can make people brave a hundred times more courageous.” Although money cannot solve all problems, at critical moments, money is still the best "weapon" to use, and it is also the confidence and dignity of us elderly people.
The difference between rich old age and poor old age is not the same level, but a life . Therefore, when people get old, being generous is a good thing, but not being endlessly generous to anyone. You should be moderate in everything, do what you can, and accumulate more "bullets" for yourself. Don't be happy for a temporary "face" or "respect", but instead let yourself be hurt and suffer.
When people get old, they don’t have to be too generous. Learn to keep their money and learn to be "stingy". They will often live a more blessed life and are the best explanation for their later years.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
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