Life is short, and years pass by, that woman never expects a beautiful marriage of "one life, one pair of people"; however, glass is easy to break, and marriage is easy to disperse. What does marriage bring to women? Many women who have been polished by marriage say, "If there is a next life, you must choose not to marry or not childbirth."
Some people say: The essence of marriage is value exchange, and family marriage is to find a balance between your interests and the interests of the other party. Therefore, some couples in life have been divorced for many years. In their later years, they remarry for their children and reluctantly remarry. is just a life where women do not want men to "harm" their children's peaceful life.
Women's sacrifices often cannot move others, but they only touch themselves. They feel that they are a good wife and mother, and they are a good mother. They only forget that they should love themselves the most. Why do they feel wronged in their old age for men and children!
In life, some men always use an excuse to deal with everything: "No one is perfect, and besides, I just make mistakes that men will make!" Life in his later years is miserable, and they will start to regret, hoping to recover everything they once had. However, some things can pass, and once some things are done, some things will be stained for a lifetime.
In the community, Aunt Wu, 62, asked for a remarriage from her ex-husband who had been divorced for 20 years, not only refused, but also seriously talked with her only son. If her son uses the excuse of "parents are good for their children" and asks her to accept her ex-husband again, then she can also give up this son. What exactly is the reason for
? The ex-husband who has been divorced for 20 years will ask for a remarriage. Why does the only son plead for his father? Is it really Aunt Wu who doesn’t talk about “love”?
Contributor: 62-year-old Aunt Wu
Paid free nanny in marriage
I am 62 years old this year, retired for many years and divorced for many years. Now I live alone.
My ex-husband and I are employees of the same unit. We are introduced to get married. We only have one son. Now we have already started a family and have the next generation.
The marriage of our generation has no heart-pounding love, nor unforgettable memories. My deepest feelings are like Zhou Renmei in " Big Test ", but her ex-husband is not as attached to her wife and treats her son well. Instead, she enjoys the treatment of a "local emperor" in and has also made an "extramarital affair".
At that time, my ex-husband said, don’t look at me like this, just because I have a job, I can find a young woman after divorce. I worked as a paid free nanny in my marriage for 20 years, and the final outcome was that had a son and a welfare house .
Ex-husband has an external heart, and a peaceful life after divorce
Ex-husband is lazy and lazy. It was not obvious in the six months before marriage. At that time, I felt that it was time to get married, and they were suitable for each other and had a serious job in a serious unit, so get a marriage certificate and have children.
When the son was born, my parents-in-law was very happy, but the ex-husband became lazy the more he lived. With the progress of society and the development of technology, after my family had the first computer, my ex-husband forgot that he was a father, a husband, and a son.
As long as you are at home, you will play games in front of the computer and learn to talk to girls in the chat room. Gradually, he developed an extramarital relationship. Not only will he no longer pay the salary, but he will not even pay the bonus at the end of the year, saying, "Whoever gives birth to the child will raise it himself, he will have to go there for himself."
At that time, my son had one year of college entrance examination. He ignored the face of the old man and his son's psychology. He insisted on divorceing me. He said that he had lived for more than 40 years before he could understand that he wanted to live a good life for himself, and to experience the taste of "an old cow eating tender grass" .
It turned out that a girl fell in love with him, so he couldn't stand me, a "bad wife". Although the days after the divorce were very sad, I felt particularly relaxed. First, is physical and mental relaxation and joy, followed by financial abundance, no longer using my salary to support three people, and finally my health is getting better and better than before.
helps my son take care of the child. The ex-husband, who has been divorced for 20 years, asked to remarry
3 years later, after retirement, my grandson was born, and my grandmother has been upgraded. Going to my son’s house to help take care of the children is also a wholehearted dedication. Not only do I have to take care of the children, but I also have to take care of housework. The most important thing is to use my pension to support the four of us.
The daughter-in-law is a sensible person. She knows the hard work of raising a child. As long as she rests, she will ask me to go out for a walk or take me to have a delicious meal. She says all kinds of good things.
After 6 years in my son's house, although I have paid a lot, I have gained the happiness of "pain and happiness". Just as I was about to return to my old nest, my ex-husband came to me and said that he had retired now. It turned out that the woman who was with him went to his son's house in the south and did not let him follow him. Instead, he bought the house and never came back.
Nowadays, my ex-husband has become a "lonely man" without a family. He wants to remarry me and have a place to live. After I asked clearly, I realized that in the 20 years since my ex-husband divorced, he neither saved the money nor obtained a marriage certificate from the woman. He raised his son and helped him get married. is now old and was swept out by the mother and son.
How could I agree to remarry with such an ex-husband? Although the original injury was scarred, the pain was still there. I am the Virgin of and I cannot forgive him.
My son said that for his peaceful life, I asked me to agree to my ex-husband's request for remarriage
Seeing that I couldn't tell me, I wanted to live in my son's house. His rogue saying is "raising a child to prevent old age", and I will live in my son's house for the rest of my life.
My son told me , Mom, just take my dad in for my sake. If he lived in my house for a long time, I am afraid that my marriage would be disrupted by him. My wife refused to let her live, so I found a place for him to live outside. But this is not a long-term solution. If you remarry my dad, you can help each other and support each other in the future.
No matter how miserable my son said, I disagreed. Then I packed up my luggage, bought a high-speed rail ticket and returned to my home overnight. I don’t want to remarry such an ex-husband, nor do I want to talk to such a selfish son.
I understand, if my son throws his ex-husband to me, he can live his little life quietly, but what about me? We must continue our previous "nanny" life in the elderly. Over the years, I have not only forgotten the efforts I have given to my son, but also so selfish.
Junichi Watanabe once said this to men: No matter how good the wife is, men will still be involuntarily having sex with other women, because the more unknown the woman is, the more it can arouse men's curiosity, and even if they take risks, they will challenge them.
Facing such a terrible ex-husband, who knows if he will have any other ideas for the rest of his life? If I don’t remarry him, who will he like to support him, that’s his business. If the son uses the words "loving mother as a son" to force me to accept my ex-husband, such a son can also be given up.
It is enough to be stupid once, and you won’t look back again
Happy marriages are the same, and unfortunate marriages are different. When she was young, women were willing to exchange unconditional efforts for men to be sincere to them, but after experiencing the reality of marriage, women have a new understanding and understanding of marriage.
Most independent women who want to understand and understand will not remarry for anyone, especially such unbearable men. They would rather raise other people's children and contribute money and efforts to the marriage of other people's children. When no one wants them, it will be a world of ice and fire.
It is enough for a woman to be stupid in marriage. Don’t follow the old path again in your old age, or tie it to a man who betrays you. No matter how your son persuades you, you must live for yourself with a firm will.
Everyone thinks, should Aunt Wu remarry her ex-husband for her son?
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
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