As a parent, would you agree to your son marry a woman 19 years older?
In 2010, there was a 27-year-old man in Zhengzhou who married his 46-year-old girlfriend after obtaining his parents' consent.
How did he fall in love with a woman who was 19 years older than him?
Graduation and employment
In June 2005, 22-year-old Su Jianjun (pseudonym) just graduated from college and received employment notices from many companies.
It turns out that Su Jianjun has always been a student who has been studying hard in college.
His excellent university performance has won the favor of many companies.
In the end, Su Jianjun chose a pharmaceutical company in Zhengzhou with enthusiasm for his dream.
At this time, Su Jianjun's parents began to look forward to their son who could take a girlfriend home as soon as possible.
However, everything is about to deviate from normal track.
Secret love for the boss
In July 2005, their company held a summary meeting.
At this meeting, when Su Jianjun saw the 41-year-old female boss Li Xiaolin (pseudonym), for the first time, he was stunned for a moment:
Her confident and elegant frown and smile, her capable speech speed, and her concentration and concentration.
all of these attracted Su Jianjun.
He has imagined countless times what the girl he likes should look like.
Li Xiaolin's appearance and temperament just satisfies all his fantasies. After
, Su Jianjun seized the opportunity and asked his old colleague about Li Xiaolin's deeds.
What made him sad was:
At that time, Li Xiaolin, who was 41 years old, had already been married, and this company was founded by her and her husband in the early years. Moreover, they have a son who is already in junior high school.
Su Jianjun quickly adjusted his mentality and comforted himself: Hey, since there is no chance, then I will give you a silent blessing.
Unexpectedly, things changed at the end of 2005.
The female boss divorced
On this day, Li Xiaolin discovered that her husband had cheated on her. The mistress is a young and beautiful girl.
Li Xiaolin could not convince herself to accept such betrayal.
She thought about the little things that the couple started their business together over the years.
I lost my youth and started my own business with my husband. Now that I have successfully started my business, my husband has abandoned himself.
In early 2006, Li Xiaolin finally chose to divorce.
She felt that despite being betrayed, her self-esteem and pride must be kept no matter what.
And on Su Jianjun's side, when he heard that his boss Li Xiaolin was betrayed and divorced, anger couldn't help but burst out.
What he couldn't stand was that the perfect goddess in his heart was betrayed.
And when he thought about how sad Li Xiaolin should be at present, he felt very distressed.
However, as a "outsider", he could do nothing. He couldn't help but hate that he was useless.
So, he secretly swears in his heart that he should work hard to make himself better. Then you can find an opportunity to stay by Li Xiaolin's side to protect her.
In the following months, Su Jianjun worked hard every day and often worked overtime until the early morning.
Gradually, if any problems are difficult to solve by superiors, they will come to Su Jianjun for consultation.
. Several female colleagues of the same age, seeing Su Jianjun who is hardworking and excellent, have some good impressions of him. I always chat with him intentionally or unintentionally.
However, in Su Jianjun's heart, the 41-year-old Li Xiaolin who had just divorced was already full of the 41-year-old Li Xiaolin.
Li Xiaolin also quickly noticed this subordinate who worked hard.
And the company also needs such fresh blood.
So, Li Xiaolin began to deliberately let Su Jianjun connect with him some projects.
is used to further understand and improve the capabilities of this employee. In order to entrust important tasks in the future. ,
What she didn't know was that this made Su Jianjun very happy.
The night before reporting the project to Li Xiaolin, Su Jianjun would sort out the details carefully at home over and over again.
Every time I see the satisfaction and appreciation in the boss's eyes, Su Jianjun can make him happy for several days.
confession pursuit
In a blink of an eye, it was July 2007, and Su Jianjun had been to the company for two years.
On this day, Li Xiaolin called Su Jianjun into the office.
Li Xiaolin saw all his efforts to the company in the past two years.
Li Xiaolin decided to hand over the bigger project to Su Jianjun to take charge independently.
And as a normal heart-to-heart talk between the boss and subordinates. When
ended, Li Xiaolin also praised Su Jianjun for his humorous chat and smiled with a knowing smile.
This made him feel for a moment, is it because the female boss also has a good impression of him?
. The reality quickly made Su Jianjun understand that he was thinking too much.
On August 14, 2007, Su Jianjun specially dressed up himself before leaving home.
He finally made up his mind to confess his love to his boss Li Xiaolin on this day.
However, when he mustered up the courage to express his love for the past two years to his boss, Li Xiaolin was stunned and stunned.
In fact, her previous contact and appreciation with Su Jianjun was limited to the scope between the boss and the employee.
She never dreamed that this young man, who was 19 years younger than her.
actually had a love idea about yourself.
This made Li Xiaolin even feel a little offended.
But after all the hardships, she quickly calmed down.
Out of cherishing talent, she patiently enlightened Su Jianjun:
You are still young and are more likely to be impulsive. And I just got out of a failed marriage, how could I accept a young man 19 years younger than me?
A serious word, although it is no less than a basin of cold water poured on Su Jianjun's head.
However, Su Jianjun did not give up after cleaning up his wounded mood.
On the contrary, he reflected on whether he had not done well enough. After a while, he began to pursue Li Xiaolin without leaving any effort.
Daily breakfast, the first cup of milk tea in autumn, and the first scarf in winter.
Su Jianjun wants his care to wrap around Li Xiaolin.
Want her to know that she was not impulsive. Li Xiaolin saw these things.
She thought that this was just a hot-minded guy and ignored him, and he would cool down for a while.
and all of these were seen by colleagues.
The colleagues' eyes were hidden in their eyes. They all winked behind him.
The female colleague who originally had a good impression of him also looked disgusted with him at this moment.
secretly joked: "Su Jianjun wants to eat soft food and feel crazy."
However, Su Jianjun himself did not care about these eyes.
In the end, even Li Xiaolin's sisters couldn't stand it anymore.
warned him: " Stay away from Li Xiaolin, young people earn money by themselves if they want. If you want to be a novice, you are not qualified."
However, Su Jianjun still did not retreat and left.
It seems that he wants time to prove himself, not what they say is "wanting to have a soft meal". The opportunity to prove it soon came.
bankruptcy and company
In 2008, Li Xiaolin saw a new market and poured a lot of money.
Unfortunately, the financial crisis swept the world in 2008, and the funds invested by Li Xiaolin were suddenly ruined.
The shadow of bankruptcy and debt enveloped Li Xiaolin.
In less than a month, this female rich man with assets of tens of millions was in full debt in a blink of an eye.
The former partners and sisters were unable to contact each other overnight.
At this time, only Su Jianjun still surrounded her, comforting her and encouraging her.
This touched Li Xiaolin very much. She also understood Su Jianjun's sincerity towards her.
Losing her so-called wealth and sisters, she put down the burden of her thoughts.
Finally, she agreed to take a look with Su Jianjun.
At this time, those friends who used to mock Su Jianjun for wanting to make a fuss have in turn felt worthless for him.
This time, Su Jianjun still ignored the opinions of outsiders.
That's it, he accompanied Li Xiaolin through this darkest moment in her life.
learned that Li Xiaolin wanted to start a new business.
Su Jianjun hurried to rent an office and ran the procedures. It's still the same as the subordinate before.
In order to save money, they rented the house in the basement, worked in it during the day, cleaned it up at night, and used it as a bedroom.
Although the environment is not good, they feel very happy.
Although Li Xiaolin went bankrupt, her ideas and channels are still there.
By the second half of 2009, the new company began to gradually improve.
improves compared to the company, what makes Li Xiaolin happier is: Su Jianjun’s care for herself during this period.
It seems like I have returned to my girlish time.
At this time, Su Jianjun also began to plan their wedding happily.
However, at this moment, Li Xiaolin was worried.
Considering her age, she was worried that Su Jianjun's parents would not accept her.
Meet parents
The facts are also as Li Xiaolin thought.
When Su Jianjun led Li Xiaolin home.
The Su family’s parents were shocked.
Su's mother said sarcastically: You are about the same as my sister at your age, but I can't stand being my daughter-in-law.
Finally, this meeting ended in awkward situation.
And when Su Jianjun is just worried that Li Xiaolin will retreat due to embarrassment.
Li Xiaolin comforted him in turn and said, "Take it slow, we have experienced so much together."
They believe that their parents will slowly accept her.
The turn of the matter was when Su's father fell ill and was hospitalized.
At that time, Su Jianjun and Su's mother were in a panic.
The capable Li Xiaolin helped them complete the procedures in an orderly manner and helped them to serve the soup and pour water.
This made the Su parents' hearts gradually soften. After being discharged from the hospital, Li Xiaolin was busy at the Su family, washing and cooking.
They are becoming more and more like a family of four.
In the end, the parents no longer objected.
got married and had triplets
In December 2010, after Su Jianjun fell in love with Li Xiaolin for five years, the two finally walked into the auditorium in their wedding dresses.
For Su Jianjun, this is the happiest moment in his life.
At the wedding, Su Jianjun said that she had no regrets anymore, but Li Xiaolin had her own plans.
She knew that Su Jianjun was worried that she was old, so she never mentioned anything about giving birth.
This man has already given a lot for himself, and she doesn't want him to have no children of his own because of herself.
So, after getting married, Li Xiaolin asked Su Jianjun to accompany her to the hospital. After several physical examinations, she decided to use IVF to give birth.
But because Li Xiaolin is already older, the success rate of conception is not high.
Between 2011 and 2013, she had conceived several times, but none of them succeeded.
At this time, Su Jianjun felt very sorry for his wife's health. So I repeatedly persuaded Li Xiaolin to give up.
The parents of the Su family also advised their daughter-in-law to say: Don’t be anxious, if it is too frequent, it will hurt your body.
Li Xiaolin finally agreed to her family with a smile: Rest for half a year first.
In 2014, Li Xiaolin, who had recovered from her health, came to the hospital again.
This time, in order to increase the probability of success, she implanted 3 embryos at one time.
What everyone did not expect was that all three embryos survived successfully this time.
When the husband heard that his wife was pregnant with triplets, he felt not happy.
is worried about his wife's body, after all, his wife is already 50 years old at this time.
But Li Xiaolin was very happy. She felt that this was a gift from God to herself and her husband.
So, she still insisted on all three.
Nine months later, Li Xiaolin successfully gave birth to three healthy babies in the hospital.
022, it has been 12 years since they got married, and the couple is as loving as before.
Now, Li Xiaolin completely handed over the company to Su Jianjun for management.
And I have returned to my family and concentrate on taking care of the children's daily life. The whole family is having a happy time.
Those who were not optimistic about their marriage at the beginning also became sincere blessings.
