Author: Mo Xiaobei
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01: Introduction
Dazai Osamu In " Human Disqualification " once wrote:
"I think it's just a futile to complain to others. Instead of doing this, it's better to bear it silently."
Born as a human being, when we encounter difficulties, we always like to complain to others and pin our hopes to solve problems on others. You may think that this is nothing, but in fact this is the biggest stupidity.
You should know that in this world, there has never been a real empathy. The suffering you think may be a joke in the eyes of others.
A person who lives a thorough life knows that life is his own and has to bear the hardships himself. It’s not that he doesn’t want to tell others, but that telling others is useless, and in the end he has to solve the problem himself.
Instead of talking to others, it is better to silently shoulder everything and use these hardships as your motivation to move forward, and better realize your life value.
" Xianglin Sao " written by Lu Xun tells everyone about his suffering. What I got at the beginning was indeed sympathy, but what happened?
You have pain in your heart, but you are unwilling to face it strongly; you have pain in your heart, but you don’t know how to heal yourself; you have pain in your heart, but you don’t know how to fight back.
So, "Xianglin Sao" was despised by people in the end. It was not that others didn't want to sympathize with her anymore, but that her "self-indulgent depravity" was disappointing.
02: Your suffering has nothing to do with others
When facing suffering, many people have a "common problem":
He will feel that suffering comes to him, and he will become the most unlucky person in the world; he will infinitely amplify his suffering, stand at the low point of "suffering" in a state of "who else but me", and stand at the command low point of "suffering". What about
Actually? Is he really the worst person? Is God really unfair to him?
No, it's really not, it's just that he's thinking too much.
In this world, everyone has their own suffering. This kind of suffering is inevitable in life and a necessary path in growth.
Only by enduring it can you taste the sweetness.
There are too many people. When they are in a low point and encounter hardships, they always like to compare others, and then slowly form a kind of moral kidnapping , which is "I am worse than you, you must sympathize with me."
Just like "Xianglin Sao", others initially sympathized with her, so she relied on the sympathy of others to amplify her own suffering and gain more.
You should know that your life is always yours, and no one can help you survive it. The suffering you face is also created by your wrong choice at the beginning. Only you can face it.
And so, you have to regard the suffering you face as a test from God. Only by surviving can you better realize your life value.
Never blame life, because in the face of life, everyone is the same, but some people can adjust themselves well, while others cannot adjust themselves.
Your suffering is really your suffering, and it has nothing to do with others. If you have to impose it on others and have to take it out and see it, you will lose even more miserably.
For example, if you fail to take the postgraduate entrance examination, if you miss the teacher's editor, you may feel it is hard enough, but in the eyes of most people, you are still happy.
Because, what you lose may be just a job, and for some people who cannot afford to go to school, what they lose may be the whole life.
"Invisible in the Dust and Smoke", I believe many netizens have watched it. The whole drama should be considered a bit hard, right?
However, they did not blame anyone, nor did they expect anyone, but still lived the life they wanted.
The suffering in your life can only be your own. It is useless to tell anyone that you are not very good. People with ability are likely to not pay attention to you, and people with incompetence may even envy you.
You must know at any time that truly mature people will suffer pain alone, and they will solve problems with a positive attitude, believing that as long as you clear the clouds and mist, you will see the sky clear.
03: Only by enduring the trough can you meet a better self
There is a sentence in "The Moon of Mountains Don't Know the Mind" that is particularly touched:
"Our heart, our flesh grows on everyone, the ups and downs, the taste you taste is only known by yourself."
In this world, everyone has their own suffering, and no one lives easier than anyone else. Everyone's life will not be smooth sailing, but some people can grit their teeth and persevere, and some people succumb too early.
Never look for empathy, because it doesn't exist at all.
When you are in the trough of your life, please don’t place your hopes on others, but learn to train yourself in the trough, reflect on the reasons for your downfall, find the right method, and then overcome it.
Because no matter how others help you, you cannot truly grow. Only by learning to face it independently can you usher in your own "Jedi Counterattack".
Whether a person can realize his own value depends on his attitude towards the trough of life. Only when he is in the trough of life, he will not admit defeat, not show off his bad luck, remain silent, and work hard to make progress can he have hope to return to the peak.
My friend Xiaoru lost her parents since childhood, and it was her grandmother who pulled her up. She had never enjoyed what she enjoyed at the same age. Other people's children live a good life, but Xiaoru lives carefully.
If Xiaoru could not bear this suffering, her life might not continue, but she did not. Instead, because of this suffering, she cultivated her tenacious character, which gave herself more courage and strength to face the future.
Over the years, Xiaoru has suffered from education, entered a factory, and has also worked hard to improve her education through self-study. She firmly believes that her future will not be bad, and firmly believes that these hardships will not be complaining.
It is precisely because of this that Xiaoru did not slacken off but went all out. She knew what she wanted, and of course she would work hard to do it for this.
Everyone will experience their own darkness. What should we do when facing darkness? Should I surrender or persevere to the end?
You are in the dark, believe that as long as you work hard to find light, then light will come. This is how life is. The choices you have will give you what kind of results.
04: Written in the end
Life will experience countless sufferings, and everyone is like this. No one is lucky, and no one is miserable than anyone, only who is harder than anyone else.
It is very unwise to complain to everyone. Maybe you will be sympathized with, maybe you can get help, but for yourself, it will never be progress.
And so, some people may use your suffering as daily jokes for entertainment, but you are still foolishly entrusting your hopes to others.
So, it is enough to know your own affairs. No matter what you experience, it is always your own.
In the days to come, I hope you can accept the pain you encounter, don’t pin your hopes on others, and believe in yourself no matter how difficult it is. If you want the darkness to be dawn, you will be the best if you survive it.
If you can not complain to anyone and bear everything silently, you will live a clear life and live the way you like.
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