Many years ago, Lin Yutang summed up some of the vulgarities of people at that time to satirize the social atmosphere of that year.
In today's view, these vulgarities still exist in many men.
The following are the 7 behaviors that make men lose their prices the most. I hope you don’t have any of them.
If you have ten cents of money, you must shake your clothes and make a sound
Nowadays, people show off their wealth and talk about their cars and houses when they meet. They are even more excited in front of people they just met, for fear that they don’t know that they have money.
Yu Dan once said: "The more a person shows off, the more he lacks in his heart."
A truly smart man will know how to be restrained when he has money, and will not pretend if he has money.
In fact, whether a person is rich or not, everyone knows that slapping a fat man in the face will only make others feel that you are hypocritical, and all you get is ridicule and distant behind your back.
Instead of trying to disguise yourself in the glory of nothingness, it is better to do your job steadily.
Or read a few good books, or make friends with wise men to improve yourself, that is what a person with true connotation should look like.
Whenever you talk to people, you will talk about noble relatives
There is such a type of people in life. The one who likes to show off the most is how many WeChat friends you have, and what kind of high-ranking relatives or friends are.
They posted on WeChat Moments, either they attended a big celebrity’s cocktail party; or they took a photo with a big figure; or they had a big talk with a big boss.
On the surface, everyone will cater to "Awesome, know so many people."
In fact, everyone has already labeled this type of people as stupid and greasy.
There is a saying in the countryside: "If your shoulders are not flat, you are not a relative."
What's the use of meeting many people? How many people are willing to help you, and how many people regard you as friends?
You should know that when you are not capable enough, it is useless to know anyone. You can provide resources and come from your connections.
Those who have no strength but keep boasting about their connections will only become jokes from others.
I will be anxious to meet a beauty and will be on the bed
Feng Tang said that greasy men on the dinner table are divided into three categories:
The girl is drunk; the girl is forced to sing and take off her shoes and dance; to add a little girl to brag on WeChat.
Once there is a opposite sex in any occasion, you will immediately transform into a god of wine, a poet, a rich man, or a prodigal son. In short, it is amazing and there is a story.
completely forgot how much he weighed and rushed to show himself.
Everyone has a love for beauty, but it should also be "a gentleman has feelings, only by courtesy."
Men who do not know how to control their original desires will only be contempt and ridiculed by others.
A small gift will be widely distributed among the crowd
Occasionally do something good, wishing the whole world knew it, and always want people to thank you very much.
is like someone’s rebirth of parents, doing shows everywhere.
The ancients said that goodness is not great good.
Not many people do great good or small good now. Many Shi Dianxiaohui is "widely distributed among the public".
Last year, Zhengzhou flooded, and many small internet celebrities ignored the government's instructions and insisted on going to the affected areas.
They did not go to support the disaster area, but instead put on cameras to pose for photos, claiming what contributions they made and how much money they donated.
After coming back, he broadcasts it on TV, says on radio, and pushes it on WeChat, for fear that the world will not know.
Don’t use this as a capital to show off just because you have helped others, so that everyone can know that you have done good things.
This is a kind of cultivation for oneself; it is also true kindness for others.
When talking to people, they use tricky words to show off their talents
There is a word on the Internet called "Baring Jing", which describes those who are particularly keen on quarrels. They always sing opposites to others and get pleasure by quarrels.
You said that young people should work hard, and he said, "Haha, it's useless to work hard without background."
You said that reading more can increase your knowledge, and he said, "You can pretend."
You said that this brand of mobile phones is good, and he said, "I have never used it at first glance."
The lever is like this. No matter what you say, they have to sing the opposite tune with you and show their uniqueness.
But what they don’t understand is that when a person needs to make the other party surrender through arguments, this does not mean the other party’s ignorance, but instead exposes his incompetence.
The stupidest thing in the world is that you can’t tell the difference between cleverness and great wisdom.
When talking to people, they use their tricks to show off their talents. In the end, they will end up being disgusted by the person and having no friends.
When borrowing someone’s debt, his face is like a beggar. When someone asks for it, his attitude is like a king
It is expensive to employ people, and it is cheap to use people.
Ask someone to be a fashion grandson, and when he is asked, he is the grandfather, and he is fully reflected in borrowing money and repaying money.
In life, we should be honest and paying back money is natural.
However, in reality, there are always people who are delaying again and again. Even though you know you are in trouble, you turn a blind eye to it. Naturally, friendship will come to an end.
We often lament that it is easy to borrow money and it is difficult to return it.
People who borrow money and don’t pay it back will lose their credit and will only make their own path narrower and narrower.
In fact, what is borrowed is love and kindness.
Paying money on time is not only integrity, but also a reflection of everyone's character. Only those who know how to be grateful can go long.
I often talk a lot about people but often reveal their shortcomings in the back
I talked in secret, saying that a person has bad character and has no basis to speak randomly, which means that a person has no education. If you have any dissatisfaction with
, it is called "faithful words"; if you have any wrong with
, you can just say it, it is called "Tell the truth".
If you talk about it behind the scenes, you will become gossip and you will become a villain.
Rumors are very harmful to people, and they say behind the scenes that people will cause trouble.
In the TV series "Love in Siheyuan", Xu Damao is such a person.
Xu Damao is selfish and is a famous rival to Sha Zhu, a chef in a steel factory canteen.
In order to make everyone prejudice against Sha Zhu, he talks bad things about Sha Zhu everywhere.
The incident was discovered by Haitang, the announcer of the steel factory. Haitang mocked him bluntly: "Who in the factory doesn't know that you are a mortal enemy of Sha Zhu. The more you talk about him, the more you prove that there is a problem with your character."
Do not act with your heart and speak with your mouth.
Sit in meditation and always think about your own mistakes. Don’t talk about others in a casual conversation.
Don’t expose others’ shortcomings, don’t talk nonsense, do not gossip less, give respect and understanding to others, and accumulate blessings for yourself.
The most important thing for a person in his life is to learn four words: being a person and dealing with things.
This should be even more true for a man who stands tall.
If you have the above behaviors, the only thing that will be ridiculed by others will be brought about by others.
If you want to gain a foothold in society, you do not rely on temporary luck, but on the wisdom of life.
Someone once said: "Be a person first, then do things. Only by being a good person can you succeed in doing things."
Therefore, a truly capable man should not only pay attention to improving his abilities, but also pay attention to the cultivation of character.
is looking at it. No matter when, when you plan your right career and follow the right path, I hope each of us can do things steadily and be a real person.
Author: Wanjun | Source: One Book per Night (ID: JYXZ89896)
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