Someone describes "responsiveness" like this: "In the past, if something happened that I didn't know how to control the situation, I would freeze, just like when facing a real threat. Now, I have learned to recognize the physical reactions I make when facing a threat, and I also know that if I move my limbs, walk quickly or talk, I can overcome the rigid reaction, so that I can quickly regain my sanity!
I remember that this happened to our children when they were teenagers, and the phone had not yet appeared. The children went out to play or date with their friends, and went home one hour later than usual. During this period, we didn't know what happened to them. We were parents and then angry. We really didn't know what it was like in our hearts. We didn't know what it was like until they came back and explained the whole story of the matter to us.
We quickly subconsciously defined things, which is usually difficult for us to detect ourselves, but if we think consciously, the process of defining the definition will slow down. In this way, we can control the situation and learn to understand what happened in new ways. We will have different feelings and take different behaviors.
Fierce reactions happen very quickly, and we make it without thinking, but the way of dealing is a choice. You should understand what emotional relationships mean to you. People who don’t understand will only react fiercely and cannot respond rationally as they please. To a certain extent, we are indeed hostages of our beliefs and ideas. However, we can learn to automatically react fiercely without automatically following old ideas. Only by paying more attention to consciously judging and interpreting events can we gain "response ability".
1. While affirming and trusting our emotional reality, we must admit that everyone has the right to observe and experience the world around them in their own way.
2. Be honest with others about your feelings and opinions, and don’t pick others’ mistakes.
3. Listen to both brain and heart, even if you still disagree with others' opinions and ideas.
4. Learn to identify behaviors that escalate conflicts and set rules that are acceptable to each other to limit such behaviors.
5. Talk with a problem-solving attitude and say, "We have a problem", instead of saying, "You are a problem."
6. Find the positive side of your partner's concept, even if your partner opposes what you think is important.
7. Find new ways to look at reality that you both agree with.
8. Check your own self-talk to make sure it makes sense to you and can be modified when needed.
9. Understand different aspects of personality and let them talk to each other.
Respond to other people’s expectations, be a woman with high emotional intelligence and have a high wise life! Have you learned it? Come on, treasures!
