Mr. Han, 69 years old this year, has a pension of 8,000 yuan, but because he is overly obeying his son's request, he has used up all his savings and still owes his friends 500,000 yuan. This makes him feel angry and anxious. What is going on with
? The following is Mr. Han’s self-reporter:
My name is Han Yecheng, I am a retired cadre in a certain unit and I have a pension of 8,000 yuan. Normally, I should have no worries about food and clothing, but my son lost 600,000 yuan in business. After that, my son had no capital in business and felt that he couldn't get on the table when working. He simply did nothing and wandered around all day, and even called finding projects. Even if you find a project, where do you get the start-up capital? There are many people like my son who can’t do big things and don’t want to do small things.
On his son's birthday, he gathered 33 so-called friends, celebrated in the hotel, and called me to go over, but I refused. After three rounds of wine, I had a meal, and some friends left one after another, and more than ten friends were left. My son called me to borrow money. He said that the payment was not enough, but he actually didn't have a single point, but he knew I had money, so I asked how much money I needed? My son said it would cost 10,000 yuan. Just imagine, a birthday party costs 10,000 yuan, what an extravagant waste it is.
My wife also has a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan. My wife and I are relatively frugal and usually save money. Since my son failed to do business, my son borrowed money from me in a different way. Today, my grandson got 2,000 yuan from the specialty class. I will have a meal with another 2,000 yuan tomorrow. Anyway, I keep looking for excuses to borrow money, and my wife spoiled her son very much. My wife told me: Wait for a hundred years, will all your property belong to my son? Isn’t it the same if you take it early or late? In fact, my wife’s point of view is wrong. If I give my son money every day now, and my son feels like he’s getting something for nothing, and if he doesn’t have to work, he will spend a lot of money, who is willing to work hard?
Later, my son asked to buy a school district house. The price of the school district house was very high. I couldn't make up the purchase price for the time being. My son asked me to sell an old house and borrowed more than 100,000 yuan. Finally, I bought a school district house for my son. With the school district house, my grandson also successfully entered the public school .
My wife passed away three years ago. I remarried again in a very short time. After remarrying, my remarried wife was 15 years younger than me. My remarried wife was named Axiang, and she was also very beautiful. Before, my son opposed my remarriage, but I insisted on my opinion and my son could do nothing. Afterwards, the relationship between son and A Xiang was very stiff. Because the two had prejudices on each other, they often quarreled over trivial matters. I have advised Ah Xiang to the conflict between her son many times, but the two seemed to have had a grudge in their previous lives. They often attacked each other because of inconspicuous trivial matters. I could only turn a blind eye to this.
After I remarried, my son rarely asked me to get money, but Axiang's younger brother Along asked me to get money every day, sometimes 500 yuan, and sometimes 1,000 yuan. In fact, I hope my son will ask me to get money, but for some reason, my son is getting farther and farther away from me. Sometimes he calls his son, but his son doesn't answer the phone. I feel very guilty about this. What's the solution? My brother-in-law Along asks me to get money every day. Sometimes when my son sees Along, he will stay away from him. It is said that the two have fought before, and I don’t know the specific reason.
My brother-in-law Along talked about his girlfriend, and Axiang said he wanted to support 100,000 yuan. Along was preparing to buy a wedding house. For this 100,000 yuan, my son heard the news from some friend, and ran over and asked me to give him 100,000 yuan. Of course, Axiang refused. For this reason, the three sons, Axiang and Along were quarreling again. Now, I was simply worried and had no choice.
In fact, I made two major mistakes in my life. One is that I shouldn’t spoil my son too much; the other is that I shouldn’t remarry, especially that I shouldn’t have found A Xiang, who is too young, to remarry. Just imagine, if your remarried wife is 15 years younger than you. Can such a marriage combination be happy?
What is remarriage? Remarriage refers to a half-way couple. As the saying goes: a half-way couple is like guarding against thieves. The remarried couple has their own children. Even though Ah Xiang has no children, I have a son, and he is a lazy son. The contradictions will naturally become more and more serious after remarriage.
Why do I want to remarry? Because I feel that I have a pension of 8,000 yuan per month, and I am particularly afraid of loneliness. If I have financial strength, I will naturally remarry. Besides, I am not good at housework. My wife has always done housework. Now that my wife is gone, I will naturally think of remarriage.
How do the elderly remarry correctly? First of all, A Xiang and I have a disadvantage in age. When we remarry, we want to live at home. A Xiang is 15 years younger than me. Who will do the housework after remarrying? Some people may think that Ah Xiang should do housework, but she is wrong! Ah Xiang is 15 years younger than me. What does this mean? It’s about the age difference between two generations. Can Ah Xiang do housework? This is indeed the case. After remarrying, Ah Xiang never did housework. Not only did she not do housework, she also instigated Ah Long to repeatedly "borrow" money. Will Ah Long repay the "borrow" money here? Of course, it’s the meat bun that beats the dog but never returns.
Father and bad marriage directly affect the happiness index of the family. Especially for remarried families, there is more resistance to getting along with each other. For example, the opposite sex of two families is combined into another brand new model. There must be a process of adapting. The quality cannot be better if you think about it. This involves the personalities of both families, and can they tolerate each other? Can we respect each other? Can we understand each other? In case of emergencies and if you want to deal with them properly, it is difficult to grasp without a certain IQ and EQ. The main reason is that my son is not good at it. If my son can support himself, I believe there will be much less conflict.
A Xiang has filed for divorce from me, but I rejected her, and I want to save my marriage in the end.
concluded
Uncle Han, although he is very economically good, because he spoils his son too much and adds the subsequent remarriage, these exposed contradictions. Of course, it is inevitable, and it is recommended that the elderly take remarriage with caution. Because remarriage is really difficult. It’s very difficult! ...
